Hello. I am 15 and I am always so paranoid about everything. I am afraid to be myself because I am afraid that people will think I am weird or something. I have a girlfriend and I always get paranoid that she doesn't like me anymore just for some random reason. I have no confidence in myself either. Please help me and/or tell me some things I can do to boost up my self confidence and self esteem and end my paranoia. My life is terrible right now.
2007-11-28 11:50:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would suggest you talk with someone in your high school Counseling Dept.
2007-11-28 11:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you enjoy and that your good at. This will cause you some exposure and perhaps you will meet some new people and gain self confidence. It will also distract you from your negative thinking. Talk to a teacher you trust, and they may be able to help you.
As for your relationship, you are going to have to sit down and have an open dialogue about your feelings and expectations. You have to understand that your girlfriend will most likely not leave you just for no reason.
You can also think about the worst case scenario. What would happen is she left for no no good reason? How would you cope? My guess is that you would survive, and eventually move on.
It sounds like you are more self-conscious than paranoid.
If you were truly paranoid, you probably wouldn't have the insight you have.
2007-11-28 20:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mary T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of insecurities. I think you go to the library or book store and look into books on building confidence. I married a confident man. He's not the best looking person, even a bit geeky, on the short side (5' 7"), wears thick glasses and is going bald. But to me, he was my Mr. Right - why? He was such a confident person that I wanted to be around him.
So, what I'm trying to say is that you don't have to be handsome, tall, buff, or have the best personality - you just need to be and act confident in who you are and people will see that.
The first thing you should do though is to STOP the negative talk - if you say something negative, stop and make yourself say something positive about yourself....like "I have awesome eyes" or "I am a good friend", etc.
Good luck!
2007-11-28 20:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by pam-i-am 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you shared this with your parents? Have you seen a professional about it? You might benefit from a very low dose of an anti-anxiety type of medicine... it will be enough to take the edge off and let you live and enjoy your blessings.
Once you can get a stabilizer, you can start working on raising your self-concept. But if you have a small imbalance that manifests itself as a touch or paranoia, you might not be able to truly enjoy life without some extra help...if you take a small dose, you will not necessarily get addicted or have nasty side effects, just a calmer demeanor that can allow you to concentrate on living life and not worrying about life...
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-11-28 19:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to go and talk to a counsellor.
It may not be much of anything and when you shine light directly on shadows they vanish.
If there is some chemical imbalance you will definitely need professional help to get the balance right.
Good luck
2007-11-28 19:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You truly need to talk to someone about the way you feel.
2007-11-28 20:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by gg4kk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋