She wants nothing to do with her stepsisters even though they have tried to be friends and invite her to family functions.
2007-11-28 11:36:08 · 18 answers · asked by bnthere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old are the girls involved? I have two stepdaughters and two biological daughters. They need to find their own way. Make sure that the stepdaughter feels welcome and is always invited, even if she chooses not to come. My four have become very good friends, but they are now 35, 33, 31 and 29. Stepdaughter and stepsister can be a very complicated relationship.
2007-11-28 11:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG! Such a nightmare...no matter how much respect, love and attention you give, time you spend, kindness you show, special meals you cook, gifts you buy, kind words you say, hugs you give, help you offer, etc., etc. if your stepchild is not ready to be loved and doesn't understand that nobody is competing against her for her father's love, or trying to take away anything from her...there's really nothing you can do, but let her be her own miserable self. Unless, of course, you're talking about a child. With a child, you have to really be patient and allow her to process and go through all the motions of adaptation. I have a grown man as a stepson and spent seven years being verbally and emotionally abused by him until I finally had enough. You cannot "make" someone want to be happy and be part of the family if he is fixed in being an outcast and feeling sorry for himself.
2007-11-28 12:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to keep inviting her to join then to do fun stuff or whatever. Consistency is the key, as long as your stepdaughter is not being offensive, let her do as she wish, one day she'll see that that all of you just want her to be not like a stepdaughter or stepsister but a real daughter or sister. No difference. It's so truth, we get more with honey.
2007-11-28 11:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure that you are spending lots of time with her. If you know what she likes to do, have her go to that without friends (you'll think of something!) and have her not know that her stepsisters are coming. She may be a little angry at you, but she will be forced to spend time with them and might get along with them. If she realizes that they aren't so bad, she wont have to be forced to spend time with them.
2007-11-28 11:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Realize that she is in emotional pain... some kids don't handle change and divorce without some measure of help and compassion... and even then, sometimes it's quite difficult for them.
If she is having problems, maybe consider taking her to her pediatrician or doctor so she can talk with them in private.... they might refer her or give some sort of recommendation for help.
She may come around eventually... and she probably isn't jealous, she probably feels abandoned by her father... HE may need to pay her more one-on-one attention...
2007-11-28 11:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give it time. it's hard adjusting to a new family, if you push the whole picture perfect thing in her face, she'll just push it away more. remember to keep her included and let her know you care about her. maybe one day take her out and do something with just her, so she feels special and if it's comfortable enough to bring up talk to about it
2007-11-28 11:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is your stepdaughter,.Its hard for her.Just give her space and she will come round.Family counselling might help you.
2007-11-28 11:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. If she doesn't have any siblings she may feel alone no matter what you try to do to make her feel included. Give her some time and she'll probably come around.
2007-11-28 11:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
let her do her own thing, she'll come around soon enough.
it's probably hard for her to have new stepsisters.. and a new step mom.
2007-11-28 11:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by krisamong 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to her a little bit maybe she is feeling a little unconfertable. make her feel welcome. show her that there is no need to be jelouse. show her that she is just as special as any one eles in the family. spend sometime with her. if you do things like this she wont be jelous any more!!
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hope this hepls and good luck with her
2007-11-28 11:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Puppygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋