I invited some friends to dinner, and since we are all of the same faith, it was no problem that grace was said before the meal. Before I could say the blessing, however, a guest took it upon herself to turn to another guest in front of everyone and said, "Will you voice the blessing for us?" He did, without asking if that was what I wanted. (But maybe he thought that's what I wanted, too.) I felt it was rude for her to take over like that, but didn't want to make everyone uncomfortable, so let it go. But am I out of line for thinking she was a tad out of line? Thanks for your help.
2007-11-28 11:34:26 · 9 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I should have clarified; it wasn't the prayer I minded, But I was brought up that when you are in another person's house, you don't run things. And, to be honest, she seemed to have the attitude that I needed her help, so I confess, that stung a little.
2007-11-28 11:57:22 · update #1
I'd say your friend was a little out of line, yes. You were the hostess, and therefore you should be running the show, so to speak. You are also correct that saying something in front of everyone would have been awkward.
My only suggestion would be to mention to the friend later and in private, that while you appreciated her enthusiasm that you would prefer that she not do that again in the future.
2007-11-28 11:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's me but you seem to be making a big deal out of nothing. God doesn't care WHO says the grace as long as he is given praise and honor for being who he is. As long as everyone gave thanks and blessed the food, then what's the problem? I can see where you may be a little ticked off because it's YOUR house, but they probably didn't see anything wrong with it. Besides, like you said, all of you were of the same faith. In the event that, that wasn't the case, anyone who didn't have the same faith could have stepped out of the room before prayer or opted to stand there and go through with it. I mean prayer is prayer in my book.
2007-11-28 19:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she was a tad (at least) out of line. A guest doesn't make arrangements at someone else's party. If the host or hostess wants to have grace said, he or she should either do it or be the one to ask someone else to.
2007-11-28 19:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by aida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the guest was out of line for assuming the duties of the host. You were right, however, to let it go.
2007-11-28 22:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she was out of line. But no harm done. The food got blessed.
2007-11-28 21:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are out of line at all for feeling it wasn't her place to say who should be making the blessing because she was not the host and it WASN'T her place. no respect!
2007-11-28 19:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have thought to help you.But she should have asked your permission.Dont worry-reading out the blessings wont be effective unless he is of that calibre.
2007-11-29 02:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by TARBA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously she offended you, i would say that you do have a reason to be upset, however i think your friend meant no harm...based on your story.
2007-11-28 19:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by http://nightblogz.blogspot.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you have a right to feel the way you do.
2007-11-28 20:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋