im 15 and i really hate my life at home.?

Question

i used to get good grades at school but now i im failing one of my classes. everytime i want to hang out anymore i have to literlly beg or just walk out the door without my parens permission. i got in trouble for stealing the other day. i had to go to court for "runningaway" but they knew where i was. its really awkard bw my family and me. i dont even eat dinner with them becuase i feel weird around them. im kind of pissed at the situation because i really want to move out an live with my friends but then i know i have to go through so much with the law if i do that/. urghh help me im soo confusedd!!

Answer 1

Get a job save your money and move out :)

what works best is roomates or move in with a relative thats what I did.. my mom drives me crazy so I moved into my grandma and uncles house atleast I can somewhat tollerate them..

Answer 2

I know how you feel. When I was 15, I felt the same way. I was failing all of my classes. I did not know what to do either. I wanted to run away or do something like that also. Hang in there. I think you should really think about getting some counseling. There are social workers who could do a lot more for you than I could in this little amount of time. Ask your parents if you can, if you feel funny about doing that, then see your guidence counselor in the middle or high school you go to. I really wished someone would have told me that. You don't want to end up 42 years old and finally going back to school with 2 kids and a husband and house to run.

I think if I would have gotten the help when I was 15 or 16, I would have turned out different. Please see a counselor and talk your feelings out. They will not judge you, but they will help you feel better about yourself. Once you feel better about yourself, you can do anything and be anyone.

Answer 3

Without the religious aspect, I felt similar when I was 15. My parents kept trying to push counceling on me, and when I look back at it I think that just made me act out more. Since your parents are so restrictive, you need to make a compromise. For fun, find some hobbies you can do on your own away from the computer. Create things. Channel your anger into art or writing or whatever it is that lets your vent. Then work on your school. I hated school too but now I really wish I had put more energy into it sooner. I take community college classes and I've had to learn from square one how to manage my time and get my **** done! If you busy yourself and get your grades up, you should talk to your parents about allowing you to have more free time. Show them that you can be responsible and they may be more willing to treat you like you're older.

Answer 4

Hi Heather,
You're 15 and it's a natural stage in adolescent. But do you think "failing in class & stealing" will improve your standing with your parents?? If I were your father, I would have grounded you also. I would have a much more open mind if you show me "good grades & good attitude". But your defiance is leaning towards the negative ways. My advise is it's ok to be "defiant"..But work it out the other way around. Bring back the "good grades" and show a nicer and better attitude at home. Believe me, your parents will notice the immediate change in you. When you've proven yourself already, have a heart to heart talk with them about more freedom. Believe me, you will definitely have a better chance of coming out smiling. My friend, I went through age 15 also and just like you I get pissed off when my parents put restrictions on me..But I didn't resort to "negative defiance". I continue to do what I did and in due time, my parents began loosening up their reins on me. Now 26 years later, Im a parent of 4 kids. My parents have both passed on. Funny how what they used to say and what they used to do makes a lot of sense to me now. Get back to the positive road. It's for your long term good definitely. And when that time comes and you become a parent yourself, you'll begin to see your parents in a much better and different light.

Answer 5

Oh gosh. Parents these days, lol.
Hmm well.. maybe you should have a sit down and have a long talk with them and maybe that'll work itself out?
Or if you're too pissed at them to even say anything to their faces,
you could write them a huge note stating that what they're doing isn't fair/etc/etc and stick it in a place where they'll see it.
You say you can't hangout with your friends unless you beg or just walk out.. you could always help around the house and stuff so you won't have to beg or walk out anymore.

I hope this helps and everything at home gets better.
I don't know what to say about the failing in one class problem because I'm failing all of mine lol.

Answer 6

I felt the same way, once. I hated my family life...so boring and full of boring rules. I thought I'd be better off living with my friends so I ran off and got a motel room. My friends and I partied and had an awesome time until the next week's rent was due, I had no money, I had stopped going to work, I still had another year of high school, and I was really hungry.

When I called home after two more weeks and being evicted from my party room, having eaten about four solid meals and having my stereo stolen and my grades at school fall (oh yeah, I went once in a while) my parents told me that I was welcome to come home. But, I had to follow their rules of school, part time job, curfew, and house chores. You know the rest.

Please stay at home and know you will have tons of time for friends and fun but there is nothing better than a parent telling you that you are loved, missed, but can't do it all right now. Your parents would have waved goodbye and not gone to court if you didn't mean something to them. They may be angry and mean but eventually you'll understand. Best to you and please, please stay at home.

Answer 7

Believe it or not, this is normal. You are at an age where you want to assert your independence. Stay home, stay out of trouble, and get your grades back up. Right now you are not behaving responsibly, so your parents are not treating you as a responsible person. You have goofed up-stealing? poor grades?taking off without their permission? Just as you don't have a guide book about getting through your teenage years, your parents don't have one on how to get you through this. You need to try to reconnect with your parents. They really aren't the bad guys. They know what you are going through, because believe it or not, they went through it too. They are just trying to get you through this without making the same mistakes they made. It's really frustrating, I know, but it's really frustrating for them too. Just go up to your Mom and ask her if this isn't a crazy time for you. Then ask her how she got through her growing up years. I bet you will have a lot in common. Ask her what she did when her parents were driving her crazy. Maybe you two will get a few laughs out of it. Corny as it sounds, your parents have been there and done that. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

You need to focus more on the class that you are failing.
You need to focus on all your classes.
Don't submit to fooling around in class, because your friends are doing it. If you do, then you will be a follower, not a leader.
This world needs leaders with a positive mind.
If you have homework, go straight home and do it, and show your parents that you are being responsible.
When they see the change in you, You will see a change in them as well. Also, you should not be stealing.
Sometimes people steal to try to impress their friends or
because their friends are doing it. They figure if their friends are doing it, it's a cool thing to do.
Stealing will lead to jail time one day. Being a jailbird is not a cool thing to be. When you get out, you will never find a good job. IF you ever get out. Focus on yourself and your future.
When you went to court, were those friends there?
NO! I don't think so!
School time is learning time. Not time to focus on friends.
Be a learner, not a squirmer.

Answer 9

I felt just like you did at about 14. Only it was because I was being abused at home. I thought anything else had to be better. So at 14 i hitch hiked from Michigan to Texas.

Guess what??? It wasn't better. Everything was harder. I had to work, get my own food, pay my own rent,(lie to get a job) walk where ever I had to go, if I had a problem I had to figure it out and I didn't always know how. Alot of things scared me, and I knew I was alone.

Friends don't stay. They go back home. If they ever leave. When your working, your friends are to or they are out hanging out. When your done working and you have to wash clothes and cook food, your to tired to hang out let alone eat some nights.

Its a constant struggle with out the assistance and guidence. Then by the time your an adult and have to be on your own, your really really tired of it all because its not new and exciting anymore and now your stuck with it just as you'd rather not be.

It never EVER changes back once you go. We only get ONE childhood whether we enjoy it or skip it and trust me one day you'll look back and want just that very badly and once your grown honey there is no more childhood.

As much as you hate it right now, you have no clue how badly later you'd give anything to have it back again knowing in your heart, that you never ever will again. And the memories of it are even shortened so you are even cheated out of them looking back.

Being your age is some of the best years your ever going to experience. Don't waste them fighting and disagreeing or geting in trouble, and don't waste them giving them up to be the "adult" your going to be forced to be for the REST of you life......

Stay close with your parents and be damn glad you have some. ALot of kids don't have any and alot don't get the choice you sit and dwell on right now. Many are lost in the system, abandon, given up on, or runaway and lost to the streets. Don't give up a gift thats linked to the two most precious things you will ever have at your age. Childhood, and family. Friends will come and go your whole life. Your parents are one set..........forever. The law sweetie, will be the least of your problems.

Answer 10

You're at the age where your life is changing in every way. Physically, emotionally, socially - it's a lot to take in at once and is certainly overwhelming to everyone. First of all - you're normal. Secondly, your parents grew up and left their parents, and someday you will too. Until a time comes when you can leave on good terms and live a healthy life on your own, learn to deal with these new problems and feelings. Talk to people who love you about it. There will come a day when you're fully grown. It's not a question of if, it's a question of when.

Answer 11

You sound typical for your age, I went through alot of hell growing up and I did alot of things I shouldnt of. And now Im older and more mature. Keep in mind that your family will always be there for you even if you arent there for them. Your friends wont be the same friends in 10 years and your education is one of the most important keys to life, you just dont know it yet. For example I hated my mother and father was in prison, I ran away and stuff too, I slept all the way through school, if I was there. And now I'm 25 and I talk to my mom everyday(she was there for both of my children being born) and I dont have a proper education to get into any good colleges, which means no good jobs, minimum pay wage and life still has to go on. Bills and food dont pay for themselves. Life is a challenge. And your family will be there when you fall flat on your face. Trust me I know from experience.