I have been dating a guy, who is depressed, on and off for over a year. I really do love him and I know he loves me. He is not very close with his family. He has a tough time opening up and has built walls up. I get very frustrated with him a lot because he always makes plans with me and then cancels them at last minute. He spends most of his free time sitting inside and watching movies by hiself. I try to open up to him and let him know that I care for him. I think he is scared to let me in. Somedays he is so caring. We will cuddle together on his bed and it feels so good. Other days he pushes me away and it hurts so much. I don't know how much more I can take him pushing me away. I love him and don't want to give up on him. The last time we were suppose to get together he was suppose to come see me. He canceled last minute. I was upset and hurt again. I called and yelled at him for pushing me again He got upset and told me he wants to be left alone. I know he needs me. What do I do
2007-11-28 11:29:34 · 6 answers · asked by JMR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he seems pretty wrapped in in his own feelings..he doesn't seem very considerate of yours.
i would tell him you want a break...so he can get his issues straightened out.
2007-11-28 11:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only help but so much, especially if he doesn't want to be helped. If he wanted help, he would be somewhat glad that someone's trying to pull him out of a slump. He should see about getting counseling for his depression. If he keeps pushing you away, you'll have no alternative but to leave him alone and hope for the best. Good Luck to you both!
2007-11-28 19:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to learn more about his problem. You should also tell him how you feel, even if you have to give him a bit of a smack across the face (I know, a bit rash, but sometimes it's what you have to do). If none of this helps, then all in all, I would say your farewells to him.
2007-11-28 19:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Amy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want any help. And if you continue to see him you will end up like this also. Move on and get a life with people who enjoy life.
2007-11-28 19:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not make any long-term commitments with this guy. You might want to put on your track shoes and run like King Kong was chasing you...
2007-11-28 19:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by thinkaspell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both start martial arts classes.
Bouncing(running, jumprope, jumping jacks) and exercise will help.
2007-11-28 19:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋