I am 24 and three months pregnant. I lived in tennessee and dated this guy for a short period of time. I then moved to Manhattan and found out I was pregnant. I called the guy and instead of freaking out, he was very supportive. We talked everyday on the phone for hours and hours. I started falling for him. He even flew to New York to suprise me and treated me like a princess. We planned for me to move back and we were going to move in together, raise the baby, and possibly get married. He said he was happy. One night we got into a fight over where we would live. The next days he stopped calling or answering. He still wont talk to me. I flew to TN to try to fix it, he said he made a mistake. I havent stopped crying. I feel so alone now. I didn't see it going this way. What do you think happened?
2007-11-28 11:14:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
maybe hes freaking out and needs some time, regardless... dad's cant just dissappear when they feel like it...and you need to let him know that.
2007-11-28 11:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by SueWithTwo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a religious person.............but I do believe that making children should be for the married......... this is exactly the type of reason why.
When you plan a life without a real commitment you run a bigger risk of getting rejected or dumped. Society has become so permissive because they are now afraid to speak up because they might offend someone.............so they act like it's ok to be a single parent and to have sex and make babies outside of marriage.
You are an adult. You know that sex can lead to babies. If you had sex then you ran the risk of conceiving a child.......... now you must live with your consequences. Why are you blaming the guy? He got what he wanted because you gave it to him for free. You can't blame him exclusively since you were there and knew what you were doing........How could you not have seen it that way?
2007-11-28 11:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just freaking out about becoming a father. A lot of guys do this and then come around. No matter what, you need to make sure that he supports this baby. If he doesn't come around he still has to pay. Take him to court when the baby is born.
2007-11-28 11:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has someone else in his ear telling him the grass is greener on the other side and making him think he isnt ready for kids even though he thought he was so now he is back tracking. try to give it a little more time. hormones have just as much of an effect on the guys as they do us women! hopefully he will come around...
2007-11-28 11:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what happened. It may just be reality hitting him that he's goin to be a father & he's scared & don't know what to do. I wish u the best of luck though! It know it's hard, but try not to stress so much for the sake of ur baby. Good luck! =)
2007-11-28 11:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared.. maybe about the money. maybe about the committment. Any excuse will do to bail on someone with child, just tell him if he doesn't make good his promise you will sue him for breach of promise and he will still have to pay child support.. with you or without you.
2007-11-28 12:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was looking for an excuse to bail...you can do this on your own, and get support from him..rely on your family and dont look back..you need to think about yours and your babies future...don't cry, you have to be strong...and if your daddy is around, use his shoulders to cry on..if not then your mom's, it will be alright, you'll see.
2007-11-28 12:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just needs some time to think about it =]
2007-11-28 11:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋