Me and my fiance have planned our wedding for next year and I just don't think we're ready financially?

Question

FOR ALL THE IDIOTS THINKING THAT I'M ONLY COMCERNED ABOUT THE WEDDING ARE ALL WRONG WE ARE GOING FOR A SMALL ONE AND THAT STILL IS TOO MUCH SO FOR THE STUPID IDIOTS TALKING ABOUT HE'S BETTER OFF WITHOUT ME NEED TO SHUT THA HELL UP IM THE CHEAPEST PERSON IN THE WORLD THATS WHY I FEEL THE WEDDING IS TOO COSTLY AND HE DOESNT THINK ITS TOO MUCH SO PLEASE IF YOU THINK IM GOLD DIGGER OR WANTING A CELEBRITY LIKE WEDDING THEN THINK AGAIN WE BOTH HAVE PART-TIME JOBS AND NOT MAKING ENOUGH TO LAST TWO WEEKS SO PLEASE BE POSITIVE DONT MAKE ME HAVE TO SNAP ON YO *** THANK YOU I ASKED FOR HELP NOT NEGATIVE CRITCISM!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Ready financially for WHAT? The big lavish wedding of your dreams, or a marriage? If it is the wedding, then you have your priorities all wrong. Since when did it become correct for people earning less than $40K a year to have a wedding fit for royalty?!?!? If you want to postpone or cancel just because you want to have a celebrity wedding, then he's better off without you!! Bad thing to start a marriage in debt!! If it is a MARRIAGE that you're thinking about, well, once again maybe you haven't got your priorities right. Are you thinking that a marriage depends on having a big new house with designer furniture and a pool? A good marriage needs 4 things - man, woman,love,commitment. Time for you two to sit down and talk about the REAL reasons that you're having second thoughts.

Answer 2

if it is the wedding that you are worried about, then here are some tips
1. Ebay is your best friend. there are lots of brides that are trying to get rid of the stuff from their weddings that they would never use again that are in either new or good condition. you can find everything from your dress, wedding party attire, to table cloths and decorations for you reception.
2. Don't cater. Have you family cook but you tell each person the dish that you need for them to make (give them what they cook best)!
3. If a band or dj seems to be expensive, make a few cds with you and your fiance's favorite songs on them and put them in the stereo system.
4. Flower can be the most expense thing if you want the really ones. Go to micheal craft store and look at the silk flowers they have and pick up a book from their about silk flower arrangements. you can even get your candles and flower holders there. they also have really nice inventations for cheap.
5. Put everything together yourself (along with one or two trust worthing friends and/or family members. Wedding planners are expensive.

Answer 3

When my husband and I got married, we didn't have any money either. We cared more about marrying each other than pomp and circumstance. My husband bought a white suit, I bought a nice white gown (notice I said GOWN, not wedding dress), we invited a few of our family and friends, and had a nice church wedding. We didn't have bridesmaids or groomsmen, nor could we even afford a reception or a honeymoon-but that didn't stop us. So what we did was get married (ceremony), go to a nice restaurant afterward (reception), and then we went home and locked our doors and unplugged our phones (honeymoon). And now here it is a little over two years later and we are just as happy as with one another as can be. My point is that if you love each other, that should be worth more than a lavish wedding.

Answer 4

Not enough information in your question. What is your main objective - to be married, or to have an expensive wedding? Getting married isn't expensive; if you go with a small ceremony, it won't break the bank. Are there any other concerns - such as the cost of moving in together? Living together and being married will most likely save you money - you can do your math and come up with some figures based on your situation. You need to give more details for people to be able to answer your question more accurately.

Answer 5

If I can be completely honest, if you wait until you are financially ready it may never happen or it won't happen for a really long time. No matter when you make the decision to do it it's still gonna be expensive. If you love each other just do it. If it is really that serious financially go see a Justice Of The Peace; they will marry you and it will not be that expensive. Don't wait for finances to get right or you'll wait for a long long time.

Answer 6

I just got married in August and will admit that the financial aspect of planning a wedding was one of the scariest things. To save money, here are a few tips:

*Create a budget first and allot amounts that you want to spend on things.
*The date of your wedding will greatly affect the price. Choose off season to save money or an afternoon reception or a Friday night of Sunday--these are usually the least expensive days.
*Keep your guest list small.
*E-bay. You can save loads on just about everything on e-bay.
*Choose flowers in season to save money. Roses are usually the cheapest and are available all year round.
*Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate. Everything is negotiable and it never hurts to ask. I was able to reduce my reception hall price by about $10 per head and had them throw in extras.
*Go the DIY route for things--you can do invites, programs, even favors yourself. Some even do their veils themselves.
*Can't afford a dj or band? Dowload songs on an ipod and play that during the reception.
*Instead of hiring an overpriced photographer and videographer, trying finding a student photographer and videographer--they will do it for less money, take the same great photos, let you keep everything and only ask that they can use some of the photos for their portfolio.
*Cut out the extras--it isn't necessary to do programs, cry packs, bathroom baskets and stuff...it adds to your cost.

These are just some tips. You can always e-mail me for more advice.

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 7

Change the date or do it on a small scale like friends or family gardens could be nice and and special. Like someone said have people bring dishes for it or have have a friend and helper who loves to cook cater for it like finger food etc. Its not how big it is or how much its costs its having the people you love and care around is the most important.Because looking back on it having them is important and the heartache of leaving you broke is not worth it at all. Good luck

Answer 8

If you have a year you will be fine financially. Start now and buy what you can each time you get paid. I had a pretty big wedding with 100 guests and about 150 guests at my reception. I spent total about $4800.00. I bought about 80% of my stuff on e-Bay!

Answer 9

A wedding is ONE day. The financial damage that you do on a wedding you can't afford can last for years!

Answer 10

Either scale it down, elope, or simply postpone for a later date. It's better you be prepared not only for the wedding, but for the marriage. If financially you're not prepared for either, then hold off until you are.

Good luck!