Why are men so SUPERFICIAL?

Question

Atleast most guys are.

Answer 1

Wow. I hope that these answers aren't an actual reflection of the ratio of superficial to non-superficial people! If they are then i'm a total Azshole! lol.

Anyway... I am superficial so I thought i'd answer this.

Point blank, looks are the most important thing to me because (1) I have to feel good about the person i'm with and (2) I may have to look at that person for the rest of my life. I'm not saying that personality isn't important... because it's huge. If I met a gorgeous gal who was a bitc.h, an idiot, or any one of a hundred other different screwed up possiblities then i'd walk away. I look for a very attractive girl who also has a great personality... And contrary to popular belief there are just as many attractive girls who are bit.ches are there are fat girls who are bit.ches. Appearance doesn't change personality much.

I for instance won't date a girl unless she is shorter than 5'6", weighs less than 125 lbs, and is somewhat outgoing. After I see these 3 things I can discover whether she has been to college, still lives with mom and dad, and has a sense of humor.

Everybody is at least a little bit superficial. Maybe you wouldn't date a guy who is 400 lbs... or maybe you wouldn't date a guy that has a cratered and scared face from horrible acne while they were a teenager... This doesn't make you a bad person. It simply isn't what you are attracted too. It's no different for guys.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

what EXACTLY do you mean?
Superficial is a general term meaning "regarding the surface"

maybe your not explaining yourself properly to them when you start hanging out. so they seem superficial because they don't understand what you REALLY want.

and maybe, just maybe your meeting men in the WRONG areas....... if you meet them at the bar, don't expect much besides a guy who's drunk at the end of the night, about to go home alone and takes ANY shot he can to get down SOME pants.


try being a better judge of character and more picky, instead of beign superficial TOO.

Answer 3

Men like, Shakespeare, Enstein, Charles Dickens, Graham Bell, Edison, Bethoven,Mozart, Da vinci, Van Ghough, Newton, Carl Benz, Socrates ,I can keep on giving names till dawn and will not be enough.
Do u still thing that men are superficial, may be you had a bad experience which made you give such a judgement.

Byes

Answer 4

That's the way we are designed. Most animal lifeforms seek out the best candidates for mating and procreation by the way the potential mate looks. That is why many animals have mating rituals, dances, songs, sounds, scent markings, and displays that they create/perform in order to attract the oppsosite sex. It's usually the FEMALE of the various species' that chooses the male based on LOOKS and display.

Human beings are very similar to "less intelligent" animals. We instinctively seek out our mates INITIALLY by looks. Why? Because unknowingly, we are programmed to find mates with strong genetic markers and characteristics that will benefit us in "the wild".
Example: Men subconciously see women with large breasts as mother figures, because they will be able to breast feed the children in times of hunger. Men look for women with strong bellies (belly dancing) and good hips and thighs (Shakira) because they appear genetically strong enough to bear many children. Men look for healthy nurturers with a tendency towards nesting because THAT particular type of female will be a good mother and homemaker.

Women are just as guilty. Women look for strong men who are tall, dark and handsome, with good hair, washboard abs, strong arms and broad shoulders. This type of man will be a protector and can hunt and provide.

Scientists say that women are also turned on by a man's scent. The hormones and pheromones flying through the air, tell each prospective mate that this man/woman is a genetically strong person. It has been documented (unfortunately) that more "attractive" people have a "better" more attractive scent to the opposite sex. Why do you think the perfume and cologne and makeup industries are a booming multibillion dollar business?

Being the "intelligent" animals that we are, we also choose mates by their speech, their mannerisms, their Religion, their financial assets, social standing and power. So there are several factors that play a role in the mating game. As far as looks are concerned though, "The heart wants, what the heart wants." Like the old saying goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder."

Answer 5

I'm not superficial, but looks are the first attraction a lot of times.

Answer 6

You are looking for what kind of reaction? Who is the one being superficial now.

Answer 7

because all people like pretty things. im sorry but i dont think girls will go out with a fat ugly guy either so dont go saying guys are superficial when gals are always preoccupied with how they look, how everyone looks and about how guys look and they tend to go out with the hotter ones.

Answer 8

Yeah most are, problem is the rest of us get labelled too!! The good guys are often the quiet ones so keep your eye on them!!

Answer 9

Well, if that's really a picture of you in your av, then I'd say it's a physiological response ... they can't really think about more than one "superficial" thing when they're around you ;-)

Answer 10

It's a two way street, lots of girls are too. I consider myself pretty cynical, but still can see there are some great ones out there. Good luck on finding one yourself! :)