okay..when my friend's 16 month old puts cheettos all over my brand new expensive purse, do i have the right..

Question

to yell at him??
not to mention he put it all over my new babies' clothes that i was showing to his momma (im preggers)
after i told him no, he ran off and started to cry. then his mom was like.."aww you broke his heart"
she didnt punish him or anything she just sat there.
i still havent gotten it off.

NOOO i didnt expect for her to slap him!
GEEZ it would be nice if she had sid sorry, or if she asked him to!
he can speak u know!

yes im going to be a momma but im not going to let my child run around and destroy my friend's things, ..are you?

hell be 2 in a month!
when will she expect him to learn?

hes 20 months sorry....im getting confused with my sisters bebe

Answer 1

Let her know that next time he decides to nasty up a new purse of yours, she can buy you a new one. If she doesn't want you correcting her child, and she won't correct him, and he does it again, she needs to be held responsible. If the kid is not corrected, he doesn't realize what he is doing is that bad. But if she's got to buy a new purse, I bet she'll be sure to correct him!!!!!

Answer 2

16 months 20 months, it dosnt so much matter, its not like he did it knowing how mad you were gonna be, he didnt know how expensive your purse was, he isnt even 2 yet geez. maybe next time you will now be more carefull how close you let a toddler get to your things,,,, oh wait, you have a baby coming,,,, have fun...
You were not wrong for saying NO, but you dont yell at someone elses child, thats not your job, if the mother didnt, well thats the mothers way of handling things, now get some shout and wash the clothes, it will come out and relax a little. wait till you see the trouble you little guy is gonna get into,... ooohhhh boooyyyyy

Answer 3

Wow. I take it this is your first child. Get ready, get set----it does not matter how much you plan and prepare and what you say you are going to do and not do. This baby will change EVERYTHING. Unless you plan on being an overbearing mom that stifles every thing in your baby, better start hiding those expensive purses now, and any thing else you don't want baby putting yucky stuff on.
I know you feel offended by what happened but 2 years old is still a baby. They do not understand as far as you expect yet.
You were rude. If you had a problem you should have said something to the mom. Asked if there was a safe place to put your purse and shown her the clothes on a table away from baby's reach.
I expected my 2 year old to mind as far as she was capable, but it was not your place to decide on someone else's child.

Answer 4

At 20 months the child can not associated putting cheetos in or on your purse with anything wrong. Your sister should have removed the cheetos the minute he put the first on down and told him no. As for you yelling at him, a gray area at best. You can get away with a lot more with a sister's child than a strangers.

Answer 5

You have the right to get mad at his mother and at yourself.

The kid was eating cheetos and he was able to touch the things because????because his mom didn't stop him? because you didn't keep the things out of his reach?

A kid less than 2 does not know enough to realize that his orange fingers are going to make a mess on your stuff. His brain is just not capable of making that leap no more than you can jump 20 feet high.

If a kid that age is touching important things that he shouldn't be touching, then a parent needs to step in and remove the kid or the things.

Don't blame the kid for lack of adequate adult supervision---it isn't his fault.

I'm sorry your stuff was ruined but his mom should have headed him off before he could touch it. He should NOT have been running around with grubby orange hands in the first place.

So yell at HER---not at him. After all would you yell at the sky for raining? or be mad at your boyfriend for leaving the top down in the car? BF, right???

Answer 6

This is a touchy subject, but you really have to know what your friend would thing is right or wrong since it is her child. If you know that she is a good friend and will not take it as a bad thing then yes. How ever what was done is done, now you have to find out if your friend is still okay with you. I have told people in my neighborhood if my child is doing something wrong to please say something to them or to me, which ever they are comfortable with. So call you friend and tell her you are sorry if you think that will may things better, also explain to her that at 1 yrs old the child needs to be learning not to pour food on to people and things or she will be in for alot of him throwing a fit to get his way.

Answer 7

When you have your baby, you will learn very quickly that expensive purses should be put well out of the way if you want them to stay pristine.
A toddler doesn't understand how much things cost and so there is no reason for him to be told off. He was just playing.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Not to yell at him no.. But to tell him it's not right to do that and to apologise.. yes.

Whatever his age his mum should be teaching him manners to say sorry if he does something wrong, he's 20 months old..! When my little brother and sister where this age they were taught right from wrong, and it doesn't hurt to start teaching them early!

She should also appreciate that their your new babies clothes and she wouldn't have wanted them ruined when she had her baby. Just explain that to her and I'm sure she would be perfectly fine with it.
Obviously when we all have children we don't want to shout at them or tell them off... but sometimes we need to teach them.

Next time don't take any expensive things around him... Kids can be destructive lol...

I know I'm going to get a lot of thumbs down for this.. but it's my opinion and I'm sticking to it lol x

Answer 10

Truth be told it is your friend who is at fault - giving a child a mess making food and not having them in a high chair or other confinement is really irresponsible. She should offer to have the bag cleaned and now you know to only bring canvas into her house. Punishing a child for touching things when his mother did nothing to deter him is ineffective so now you know your friend has very lax discipline and cleaning rules. Good Luck!

Answer 11

He's 16 months old for goodness sake. Kids that age don't know any better. If you think that you're going to be upset about this a year from now, then yes, yell at him.