Ladies: why not give it up on the first date? :)?

Question

Seriously though, I don't know why it's sooooo important for girls nowadays to wait until the second date at least. From a guys perspective, whether she gives it up on the first or second date--the opinions don't change!

Answer 1

i personally will go for it on the first date if i thought the guy is worth it/cant take it anymore.
why i usually wait is when i dont trust the intensions of the guy completely, or maybe because he's made a hint during the date that implies gender roles. i wouldnt give myself up to this guy untill i'm clearly sure what he means.
usually being open-minded and not acting judgemental works with me besides being charming of course :D
everybody sounds like its only the guys that get something!

Answer 2

Is this really a serious question?

OMG, I don't know one girl that even gives it up on the 3rd date. What is the world coming to and where are you finding these sluts? I mean, making love is becoming more of an "easy ****". Sex is suppose to be for not just a physical connection, but a mental connection also. If you are finding these girls that will give it up on the 2nd date and you are upset about that then I wish you luck when you contract a serious disease.

Personally, I think waiting is the best possible solution. Who could love someone that is so easy to get into bed?

With me, if you don't buy the cow..you don't get the milk. I guess you've never met a girl with morals like that before, huh?

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Answer 3

Well, I'm not a lady but I can make an educated guess from friends of mine. They don't because they hardly know you and even if they do give it up on the second date, they at least had the first date to know you even a little bit before they decide. Also, if a girls gives it up on the first date, guys typically are willing to spread that around. "Oh so and so gives it up on the first date" Then people will just think she is an easy lay.

Answer 4

Uh huh...that's what they all say. Everyone knows that's not true though. There are some men out there that don't believe in double standards and that if it makes a woman easy if she sleeps with a guy on a first date then the guy is easy too. But most men think that a girl who gives it up on the first date isn't relationship material. For me, I hold out because I want to get to know someone better before I exchange bodily fluids with them. I am also not into casual dating and sex on the first date can get you trapped into that category pretty quickly.

Answer 5

Because some of us are looking for relationships and don't just give to EVERY guy we go out with. The men that EXPECT that on the first date don't get a second with me. I prefer to get to know a guy and see if we have any potential for more than just sex before I go that far with him.

Answer 6

Seriously for me I don't just give it up for anyone. I'll have to have feelings or LOVE that person before I go any further. I am not the type who settles for one night stands, meaningless relations of that sorts. Not to pass judgment on other women, but it's like doing such a thing makes you out to be a S-L-U-T, easy, no sense of morals, etc. For some women I understand it's their preference, their lifestyle, some just aren't the committed type. I'm sure you'll find plenty that are willing to give it up easily. Just don't expect it from all of us since we all are different in our own ways.

Answer 7

No respectable girl would give it up on the first couple dates. Only until it is a relationship for a while. And girls who do have no morals.

Answer 8

i dont know where you are but alot of girls i know of, do give it up...and they are all ho's. giving yourself up on the first day is like saying "im not worth anything" so take me. They are like a penny when every other girl who waits for a real relationship is like a shiny new quarter. They dont compare, arent worth the same and the quarter can get you farher in life.

and by the way, it would be nice i guy turned down a ho like that once in awhile...

Answer 9

I think it is because society tells them if they do they are a s-l-u-t, I personally couldnt do it, but I dont think there is anything wrong with it so long as both parties are above the age 18, protect themselves, and act like mature responsible adults about it and both parties are consenting

Answer 10

Because we want him to keep wanting us longer... it's like waiting for Christmas. Sure, you could give the gifts when you first buy them, but you wait. You want to wait until you can hardly stand it any longer.

Trust us, we know what we're doing.