Did anyone else get very anxious thinking about all the planning needed for a wedding?

Question

So I just got engaged two days ago & I was at the mall today and was wondering around a bookstore. I found the wedding section and picked out a few wedding planning books and sat down and started to go through them. After going through them I started to feel really anxious and I like I needed to take some deep breaths and maybe stick my head inbetween my legs and calm down.
I don't know if it is just the stress of thinking of all the planning needed and money needed. Or it's just all my stresses combined.
Basically my stresses include: college classes, currently in the process of transfering colleges for the spring, work, finances, & problems between boyfriend & mom.

Did anyone else feel a little faint when they started thinking about everything they would need to do?

Answer 1

First thing is pick one weddding planning book and throw the rest out. Pick one with some type of timeline, and just do what it says. People can really go insane trying to plan a wedding, so you need to keep things as simplified as possible. Another option would be to go ahead and hire a wedding planner. You might have to pay a little extra to them, but they can manage your budget and save you money and your sanity. Since you are also trying to juggle college at this point, and mom + boyfriend are already causing drama, it might be a good option.

So take a few deep breaths, go to a spa if you need to relax, maybe put off wedding planning for a week just to calm your nerves. Then go about it one step at a time.

Good Luck

Answer 2

This happens to every bride sooner or later to some worse than others. Just stay calm and remember to breath deep and you will get through it OK. Remember no matter what goes wrong or not exactly the way you planned, don't let it upset you because those are the very things that you will come to cherish and the things that will make your wedding story unique and different from any other wedding story ever. Congratulations and remember to have a good time, most brides are so anxious and worried that they do not get to enjoy all they worked and planned for for so long.

Answer 3

Yes!

I am a full time engineering student, I work part time, I have to maintain my apartment, pay my bills, somehow pay for my wedding?!???My boyfriend and I are from USA and Canada respectively...so throw in some immigration issues into the pot..

...fast forward to a close friend talking about caterers, invites, chasing after non-RSVP-ers, alterations....so I decided to have just the vows exchanged

I am a very easygoing girl and my boyfriend is ultra low-key too. I never envisioned my "big day" as a little girl. We decided to just exchange the vows with an officiant, get all the paper work out of the way, live happily ever after, and have a family party next year (NOT a wedding reception)

Answer 4

Oh honey, those wedding planning books would make ANYONE nervous!! Of course that's natural. When you start looking at all the lists of things to do, it can feel very daunting....as if you'll never get it all done. That's why my husband and I were engaged for a year. We didn't want to be all stressed out over the planning. We wanted it to be a joyful thing we could just do at our own pace. If you approach it like any major college project, you'll be fine. I got one of those planning books and a couple "tips" books which were good. But overall, I'd say just jumping in and talking to various vendors really helped. It doesn't HAVE to be a stressful time. Brides who make the planning dramatic and have an attitude of "it's all about me" will be the ones who go through HELL but it's usually because they brought it on themselves. Sit down and just make a list of things to do. You'll be fine - and be sure to assign tasks to your fiance too! He can be a huge help!!!

Answer 5

Planning a large wedding is alot of work, thats why i never had one and my second wedding (which I am in the process of planning) will also be small. After all, who really wants the uncle who is grabby and the aunt who's a lush at their weeding? My mother, ex mother-in-law, and future mother-in-law are all in on the planning, helping out with their specialties and advice. Don't be afraid to ask for help, go small and enjoy it. Too much stress makes for an unhappy bride. Also-for the reception we will be doing a pot luck, so that we can enjoy favorite dishes without the pricey caterer. Less planning involved too.

Answer 6

Welcome to wedding HELL !!! i am dead in the middle of it and guess what it get's worse.

Bridzilla's are not born that way they are made that way... by pushy relatives, jelouse friends and families , people who want to be you, and then add a touch of your own day to day life drama and put it all together ..oh and let's not forget the money... . you will become a ball of fun.

I already had my major snotty runny nose two hour balling fit break down over my wedding planning.. Expect to cry .....it will happen.. but just know there is a bride to be out there in the world who totally understands you. and is freaking out as well.

try to enjoy it should be fun. And when it isn't focus on the little things like colors, and shop online for dresses.. that brings the dream back .

Answer 7

Sounds like you had a panic attack. Books like that are stress inducing. Forget about them. Concentrate on your love and less about having the perfect wedding ceremony. You'll be happier and everything will turn out alright in the end. The bigger the wedding the sooner the divorce is the old saying --keep that in mind and keep it simple.

Also you sound like a very caring person who probably doesn't put herself first and worries about doing everything right. Take some time for yourself to relax and don't feel guilty about it.

My Compliments

Answer 8

LOL, you are normal. Its an overwhelming thought isnt it? The best advice I can give is to tackle one thing at a time. And only buy 1 book, you dont need three because most of the time if you buy more than one you will be getting alot of conflicting advice. So choose the one that suits you best.
If you go slowly and get a trusted hand involved (your mom or best friend) it will be alot of fun planning and wont seem so daunting. Enjoy planning, I will always treasure the moments I shared with my mom planning my wedding, she and I had a great time together.

Best of luck!

Answer 9

Like you, I get very anxious just thinking about it all. I have less than two months to plan my wedding, so yeah, I am freaking out. Fortunately, money is not a huge issue, and our parents are really helping out with the planning.

Congrats and good luck. Remember the reasons why you are getting married, and don't dwell too hard on how to get there.

Answer 10

At some points I wished I had eleoped. but I knew it was worth it in the end. the more people you have to help you do things or to talk to about things you will feel a little less anxious, plus pick four hours a week, one day a week untl you can devote more time to the project. on the days when you have school break take 8 hours one day a week to work on things, It will be like a job, hopefully you can stop your mind from racing if you take specific times to go through things.

Congrats.