How do I deal with someone I have devoted my life to who thinks that I am the one doing wrong?

Question

I met the love of my life 7 months ago in my parents small town. He befriended my brother and was hanging around the house when I came up there on vacation. He was just getting off of drugs and trying to get his life back together. We had a connection that was unexplainable so he moved down to my city with me. Things were up and down but we got through most of our problems. He admitted that he needed to do things different and excepted that a lot of our fights were because of him. But now, somehow everything became my fault. The fact that he's being "followed" has something to do with me leading a "double life" which i'm not. If I read this I would tell the person get out, he's crazy. But does anyone else have any other ideas besides that? HELP

Answer 1

Insecurities force us to see two realities, two possibilities. Thats what typically makes people crazy, wouldn't you? Its fundemental. We live in a world or reality were we see that were worthy individuals with a purpose, then we also see a reality were we are worthless and purposeless and everyones out to get us. We well spend most of our time trying to balance these two, but the point remains, you picked one who used drugs to balance the equation thru denail. Congrulations your boyfriend their is going to be EXTREMELY bad at expression the truth of his emotions, because he spend ALOT of time numbing them out. Which leds me to the fear I have for you, you picked this guy, you let him move back with you, and he is having parnoid delisions that are ether drug related, or this guy has a cronic depression disorder that goes ALLLL THEEEE WWWAAYYYY back to the crib. So your messing with fire, and the fact you feel you deserve this sort of love, is the scary part, hunnie, I don't know you, and I know you deserve better, why don't you? The man thinks, feels, and believes you have a double-life, can't you see, that geniune love would be the ONLY thing to keep him from feeling that? The only other possiblility is that he is scizo, sorry for the slang, but schizophrenia would be the only geniune reason outside his neglected self to be the reason beyond his control why this is happening. Which means he does need some doctors help ASAP, because it well get worse and isn't dependent on how nice, or good of a person is, true craziness knows no face.