my parents dont approve of my boyfriend?

Question

im dating this boy in college and we really like each other but my dad doesnt like him because hes older what do i do im so stressed!!

Answer 1

he obviously has to be one hottie to win your attention!!! have a one-on-one with dad. try to get him to understand your boys point of views and his attitude!

good luck!

Answer 2

Why doesn't dad like him? Is anyone good enough for his little girl? Is this guy doing things dad does not approve of? Or is it just because he is older? Dad is afraid this guy will take advantage of you. You need to remind Dad that you are a big girl and won't be fooled. Let Dad know you are taking measures to not be mislead, like not moving in with him, not giving up your apartment if you do move in with him, keeping a tight grip on your wallet. If he's worried about sex, well, remind Dad you are an adult and can make those decisions on your own. And if none of that works, leave the boyfriend at home when you go to visit Dad. sooner or later he'll get used to the idea.

Answer 3

First, ask yourself if this guy is really who you want to be with right now. Chances are, your dad will still be around long after this guy is gone. But if you consider this guy is worth the trouble of standing up to your dad, then here's what I think you should do. You need to show your dad WHY you like him. Maybe if he got a chance to talk to the guy, and see that he's really nice/gentlemanly with you, he might ease up. Also, ask your dad what reasons he has for disliking your boyfriend, besides him being older. He may have a valid reason. Or if he doesn't have a good reason other than age, then point that out to him. Let him know he needs to trust your judgement.. that you wouldn't be going out with this guy if he was a total loser. If that doesn't work, then get help... get a neutral party involved like a family member or even a family counselor to help you work through it.

Answer 4

Dads worry about their daughters, and especially if they see them in situations that might be potentially harmful. You didn't say how old you are or how old your boyfriend is, so it is difficult to know how serious your dad thinks the age difference is. If your dad and your boyfriend cannot get along, you need to think seriously about the whole situation. boyfriends will most likely come and go for a while for you yet, but your dad is your dad for the rest of your life. I suspect he has your best interests at heart and doesn't want to see you hurt or taken advantage of.

Answer 5

If you both love each other very much... calm down n dont let your father stress you so much... when you become 18... (since you're probably not since you worried bout yo father's approval).. yo father not likin him wont matter, because yall can do as you wish when you're 18.. over time yo dad may learn to like him... or you could get yo dad n him bother together and have a talk about the whole thing... get insight into why yo dad feels the way he does.. n get yo bf to show he's a good guy n loves you so he'll get yo dad's approval... I'm in a similar situation like you, except im the older person... n my girl's father doesn't know me (even tho i tried to talk to him n introduce myself) and he doesn't like me because of my age and so forth... he has no reason other than my age to really not like me.. however, that's jus how some fathers are.. n ima have to wait til my girl hits 18.. then her father cant say anything.. so jus keep loving each other, n calm down, don't over stress yourself over yo father hating on yo bf.. if he a good dude n you kno it... dont let yo dad stress you.. keep the love strong n yo dad will learn to accept him int he future when yall together more n he sees you not givin him up.. but you needa see why yo dad dont like him tho, cuz you never kno.. he is tryin to protect you yes.. but some fathers overdo that n jus be assholes or have a secret like of their daughter that is jus sick (i kno it seems extreme but it does happen).. so yea.. see yo dads view n also try to get yo bf to prove himself to your dad, show why you love em

Answer 6

First of all... if you are happy with this guy, you're family will have to get over it. If you aren't sure how long the relationship will last or haven't been dating for very long, don't push your family to like him. Bring him around every once in a while and tell him to be on his best behavior. You could give him some advice about what your dad enjoys. (ie. football. fishing... building) and the next time they are around each other they could bond. If he's that great of a guy, your family will come around eventually. If you're happy, they'll be happy for you.

Answer 7

I went through that i while back and so did my sister. Usually its a fathers way of deffeding his little girl. But if you bring your guy over to the house so he can meet your family, he will grow into him if he seems like a good guy. If not then maybe you should listen to your dad. Sometimes dads think "What was i doing at that age" and well you know. He is just defending you. So just take him over, and see what happens from there.

Answer 8

Trust me, they never like the boyfriend!, no matter how great he is. not to be gross but its because dads have to think about what the boyfriend is doing to their little girl! they don't want a boys hands all over their daughter. I'm 29 and I still go thru this with my dad, its in their nature to always protect you. So really you should grateful that you actually have a dad that cares so much, I AM! If the boyfriend means that much to you then you need to sit down with your dad and find out exactly what he doesn't like about him. If its for a good reason that he doesn't like him, then you need to kick the boy to the curb. Because in the past my dad was always right about my ex's, and yes it gets old for him to always be right, but its only cause they love us so much. And remember, GUYS ARE A DIME A DOZEN BUT YOU ONLY HAVE ONE DAD! never forget that.

Answer 9

You don't say how much older this boy is. And is that all your dad doesn't like about him? Most parents are alot wiser than we are about things. Talk to your Dad some more, and your Mom too if she's in the picture. There may be more to it, and if so you should probably listen to him.

Answer 10

Listen to your parents. If this boy is in college what is he doing with a high school girl. There are tons of girls his age. Listen to your dad, parents don t say things for no reason. They love you and only want the best for you. Think before you act.... has your father ever steered you wrong, why would he start now??????

Answer 11

Its depends on many things. Your relationship with your father and his opinion, your feelings for your boyfriend and how long you have been dating... Its really up to you. Try explaining to your dad that his age is not TOO dramatic and that it does not matter. Have they both met yet? I know this situation is stressful but try & pull through and talk things out first.