i made someone commit suicide?

Question

ok im an emotional wreck right now. before you start judging me listen to the story. well today we found out a girl in my grade hung herself. school has been dreadful everyone cried all day and i think its ALL MY FAULT.
this girl, mackenzwas going out with this guy, but he actually liked me and i liked him. so he cheated on her with me. she found out and started hating me and sabatoging my life. she hid my field hockey stuff so i missed the bus and the game, destroyed my pot in ap ceramics, and spread nasty rumors about me. at first i was like ok well i did steal her bf. but then it got outta control and she was ruining my life. so i retalliated. my friends and i made a fb group called i (effin) hate mackenzie and got the school to join, we also wrote on our hands IFHM (i effin hate macken) and got everyone in the school to do the same. so when she got to school it looked like everyone hated her. then we found out she killed herself. it was a mixture of things but mainly (ill continue

fighting with parents, losing her boyfriend (who i stole) and the whole shcool hating her. i feel AWFUL!

ok so my question: is there anything i can do?
i must be the meanest perosn in the world

Answer 1

You did something bad, but honestly we have all been in high school fights. You didn't think & retaliated. It was extremely immature, but nothing to kill a person. I love the verse in the bible that Jesus tells a crowd to let the first person without sin to cast the first stone. We are ALL sinful & all make mistakes.

It sounds like she was very troubled & she also made a poor decision in taking her own life. That was HER decision, not anyone else's. There are a lot worse off people in the world that decide every day not to take their own life. I'm also sure a lot more was going on then just what happened at school.

You didn't kill her & you didn't make her die. I would talk to a counselor about your guilt & learn from this. Look what gossip & hurtful actions can result to. We all know what it is like to be ganged up on & feel alone. I'm sure that the next time you interact with someone you don't like, you will act differently. Get some help, pray & please know it wasn't your fault.

I hope that you and your schoolmates show support to her family. I'm sure it will mean a lot to show you do care. I'm sure they are also wondering what they could have done differently. They lost a sister/daughter and friend.

Answer 2

I think it's normal to feel this way, I'm betting you aren't alone. People who commit suicide almost never do it because of one person or for just one reason, school can be tough and if you don't have someone to turn to it can get overwhelming especially with a negative home life. The best thing you can do (and this really will make you feel better) is find someone who could really use a friend that nobody is paying attention to or worse and be a friend to them. You don't have to stick with someone you don't like, there's probably plenty of people who could really use a friend and you'll probably discover you really like someone you never thought you would have before.

You also might want to talk to someone, a professional or just a friend, and let them know about what you are thinking, they may have some good advice.

Answer 3

FIRST...you did not make any one do anything that they didn't want to do first. You may have played a contributing role in things but it was the young girls choice about how she handled the situation.
SECOND...the are NO mistakes in life, that is unless you did not learn something from it. Did you learn a lesson here? and
THIRD...people are only people. We are not Gods or immortals. Sometimes some people just don't have as high of a tolerance level and we would hope they could. That's when things get out of hand.
Don't blame yourself, but own up (as you already have) to your part and perhaps in the future you could be a deciding factor in a positive direction.
In Love & Light,
Lady Ice

Answer 4

What you & Mackenzie did to each other was wrong. However, you could not have known how Mackenzie would react. You also don't know what was going on in her life. And you were not alone in your actions.

You will need to seek out counseling. You need to tell your parents what happened and how you're feeling. And you need to go to Mackenzie's funeral.

The terrible thing about suicide is that it can't be undone. There's nothing you can do to change the past. But you can change the future. You can help make sure that your classmates forgive themselves for what they've done. Start by forgiving yourself. You can ask a counselor to help you apologize to Mackenzie's family. You can help prevent bullying in your school.

I want you to know that I am praying for both you & Mackenzie.

Answer 5

The one comment that was made by someone here that was the best was NO ONE CAN MAKE SOMEONE COMMIT SUICIDE SHE DID IT TO HERSELF YOU DID NOT DO IT

Yes there was a lot said yes it would be a good idea to see someone and talk with them about the situation -

But no one can tell you what to do you have to do it yourself and if you what to get better and feel better you want to think about doing it know

Answer 6

Well, while I think that what you did was horrible, I doubt the suicide was your fault. After all, she was the one who decided to do the deed. Not only that, but she more than likely already had poor coping skills to begin with and it all just snowballed. That being said, though, I hope you've learned a valuable lesson from this and that from now on you'll take into consideration the effect you have on others.

Answer 7

Yes, you're somethin' like Hitler.

Since the guy likes you as you mentioned, and you also like the guy. What you can do is to let the guy tell her that he didn't like her. The decision should be coming from the guy himself to tell the girl in such as nice way.

You could have told the guy that unless you confront/break-up with that girl before you and the guy engage into something.

*You should have think that you're the antagonist on this play.

I suggest for you read this line of song.

1. Break it to me gently if you have to then tell me lie.
2. Make it easy on me just walk away and set me free.

It's her against the world(when you form a group to hate her), that's why she committed suicide. You could have prevented that to happen.

But the past is the past, move on gurl. Don't blame yourself. You can't turn back time.

Answer 8

That's a tough thing to live with for the rest of your life. It wasn't your fault for her death but I'm sure it didn't help her situation, whatever it was. Kids were evil when I was in school and it seems like it's just getting worse. I would want to apologize to her parents to not only do the right thing but maybe they will forgive you and that can help you to get over it.

Answer 9

This girl was plenty troubled all by herself, i'm sure. Don't go through life thinking it was your fault. What you did was just another bad thing in her life, but i'm sure it wasn't the first.

Tough, tough situation. If this really starts eating you up, I would suggest you talk to the school counselor.

Answer 10

Wow! Honestly, I think you need to talk to someone about your feeling of guilt. (school psychologist or some kind of a social worker who does psychotherapy)

I don't think she killed herself because of you. It seems like she was having a difficulty time. Thing maybe in her life got overwhelmed. The only thing maybe had left was to take her pain away. Which lead to her death.