Before my boyfriend, I was always very confident.Then he cheated on me ,we broke up , He told everyone i cheated on him! And all my friends beleived him!! and started saying how afwul I was and started talking about me, And when i tried to say it was the other way round, People started to hate me etc! I dumped those '' Friends'' and made new ones, But I dont have any ' Best friends' anymore, Which is upsetting enough, adding the fact that everyone thinks I'm some ****, and they all sympathise for him, When It was me who was hurt and innocent! And lots of peopel started to say I was just an ugly tramp, Some people insisted it was jealousy, But now they;ve made me think I am worthless and ugly and every1 is better than me, even though i know they arent!!! I hate myself =[
2007-11-28 08:14:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can I go back to being mroe secure? ,,,,I'm leaving school and all those TRAMPS in May THANK GOD =]
2007-11-28 08:15:21 · update #1
omg im sorry to hear that. i no how you feel something like that happen to me. at times yea i do hate myself from what my ex did to me but i just tell myself that im beautiful and i can do whatever i put my mind to and know one is gonna get in the way. when someone says your ugly even though your not or something like that just agree with them and then they usally leave you alone. i no it can be hard to agree with someone when they something thats not true about you but most of the time if you just agree with them or stand up for yourself they leave you alone.
2007-11-28 08:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never let a guy control your emotions. No man is worth making your life feel bad. Obviously, the people you thought were your friends really werent because if they were they would have believed you over him. It's good that you have mad new friends. Start to hang out with them more and get to know them better. Dont feel bad that you dont have a best friend. A lot of people dont. Forget about all those other people adn him because they are not worth it. Just move on with your life and go back to being the person that you are. Nothing has changed since before you met him. He just tried to brainwash you into thinking something differently. If you still continue to feel bad, you might need to seek help from someone.
2007-11-28 16:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends don't need an explanation & your enemies wouldn't believe you anyway.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You know the truth & really that's all that counts.
There are other fish in the sea & you will undoubtedly meet a real nice one sooner than you think & maybe this time they will be more deserving of you.
Life has it's ups & downs & if you don't allow yourself to get bitter you will learn some valuable lessons that eventually you will be thankful for.
So don't despair. The future is brighter than you think.
2007-11-28 16:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Gary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is try not to place the dependence of your security on everyone else. also, if you didn't do anything then you have nothing to explain. people are going to think what they think regardless so try not to let it bother you. this will all blow over and there will be some new person for them to set their sights on and you wont be targeted after that. when that does happen maybe you could help that person out by giving them the benefit of the doubt.
don't know if this has helped but i hope it does.
2007-11-28 16:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rouxe *(Rue)* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing them to make you feel this way. You are giving them power over you. Take back your power and control, and stand tall and proud. You did nothing wrong. Do not allow the opinions of others to affect how you feel about yourself. You know who you are. Read my favorite quote, which you will find at this link. I hope it is of some help to you. It has helped me many times in my life.
2007-11-28 16:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him, he is clearly the one with the issues you should feel sorry for him too, because he is insecure enough to have to make up lies, you are not worthless or ugly you my dear were they prey of a dogg, dont hate yourself he is not worth it, you are worth a whole lot more :)
smile x
2007-11-28 16:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by nonoodles74 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh darl!!
keep well clear of ppl like that,u dont need friends who call u names on something u didnt do,ur friends should have known that u didnt cheat on him,hes the one that should have lost his friends not u,
get on with life with ur new friends,make the one u trust the most ur bestest friend and im sure everything will fall into place for the future!!
2007-11-28 16:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by kerriann.cusack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont hate yourself. your leaving in may! you are going to make new friends, have a new life and look back on all this and laugh one day. i know it sucks now but try not to let them get to you.
2007-11-28 16:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by surfcarolinagurl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't base yourself on the actions of others. Take the high road and try, try not to date loosers.
2007-11-28 16:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by dude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore what they say. why do you care what you say. you know what the truth. and obvously you dont want those people as your friends if they can up and leave you like that. that is messed up
2007-11-28 16:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋