Here's the situation. I am dating a guy who is quite a bit younger than me. I'm in my 30's and he's in his 20's. I have been having so much fun with him lately but I have been neglecting my responsibilities. I don't want to end this thing I've got going with him because I really like him, but I also don't know how to tell him that we are going to have to slow down because I have too much going on in my life to keep acting like this. I've been spending way too much time at his house drinking and playing video games. I know that it's been so long since I've had a nice fun relationship, and I am really enjoying myself but I feel like I'm not acting like myself anymore. Is it okay for me to keep having fun or should I try to be a grownup again?
2007-11-28 08:09:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you can decide what is right for you. My experience tells me that a relationship only works if both people in it communicate and live up to their responsibilities.
Be honest with yourself. Are you neglecting your responsibility? Is drinking and playing videos a good way to communicate or just avoiding?
2007-11-28 08:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lose yourself in a relationship, eventually the relationship will fail. And if that is what is going to happen you may as well act on it now. Save valuable time.
Losing yourself is always bad. For you and for your partner.
Of course here the real question is whether you are losing yourself really, or not.
If "yourself" is the person who truly likes to have fun, then you are doing just fine.
if "yourself" is the person who truly likes to be responsible, then you are losing yourself and should act on it.
Oh...and uinfortunately we don't get to be Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde at the same time for long. So...you'll have to choose which one is you after all, reconcile your feelings in a coherent way, and live happily with that.
Good luck!
2007-11-28 16:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by franz_himself 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is, if thats going to be your guys purpose for the rest of your life. I've been here to, usually a sign of having some bad interpersonal relationships in the past and finally finding one you can be comfrontable with, AMEN! GOOD F'IN JOB!!! Now be careful thou, BALANCE yourself, is all you need, just incase, this relationship falls apart. Becasue its going to be hard to feel good doing all that grown-up stuff after tasting how intense it is to be so comfrontable with a person. I've been here, I still talk to here, its an amazing relationship, but not balancing ourselves was one of the bigger problems, but darnit, good, true, love is so hard to find, so very, very hard not to fear lossing.... I wish you luck and if I can say anything else about this, be honest, be brutally honest, I actually got my name from the experience I had with a relationship like yours, also why I'm here, better then gold, better then sex, better then anything else but the love of my parents.......
2007-11-28 16:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not okay to lose yourself in a relationship.
2007-11-28 16:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋