The bigger the rock, the more he loves you?

Question

My friend said this today and I thought this was RIDICULOUS.

Your thoughts?

Can't-Wait-to-be-Mrs., my thoughts exactly!!

Answer 1

The bigger the rock, the more irresponsible he is with money, and the more he's in to impressing other people. Not my kind of man.

Answer 2

Either your friend is shallow or has never been in love. Carat size has nothing to do with how two people feel about each other, and throughout the centuries the greatest love affairs/couples didn't have or need a diamond ring. I love my engagement ring: Marquise cut 1/5 carat diamond in white gold. It's not the biggest stone, but it is EXACTLY what I wanted (my fiance' didn't even know that when he picked it out). Remind your friend that the bigger the rock, the faker it looks. Who cares if you know it's real when everyone thinks it's costume jewelry?

Answer 3

I'll probably be thumbs down; however, Yes AND No.

No, b/c love isn't about material possessions.

However, I say yes b/c a bigger rock may symbolize love too.

For example, if your Fi works overtime for 6 months straight months to get you a larger stone, it could symbolize this love for you. Not nessacarily the actual stone. But, the fact that he's willing to do ANYTHING and WORK HARD to support you (and him)

Lots of time people will say, "a man will move mountains for the women he loves"

I think you can apply that statement to the size of the diamond to a certain extent.

Like I said above, say a man can only afford a $1500 ring. But, he saw a great ring for $3000.

Isn't it ADMIRABLE of him to work hard in order to obtain something he wants for the women he loves? He could have easily bought the $1500 ring, BUT he wanted to give his future wife something she would love (and possibly be complete sized about)

I'd never pressure a man to give me a certain size ring. But, if I got 1 carat (just as an example) I would be floored. I would ask how he afford it (as I don't think using a credit card is smart)

If I found out he work overtime, sold this Xbox or something "self-sacrificing" that required this time and effort; I would see it as a good character trait.

Meaning he's hard working, b/c he wanted to get a larger ring and UNDERSTOOD that hard work, saving and patiences could help you obtain what you want.

I would not say he loved me more. But, I see him as someone who is willing to work for what is important in life. Working hard for someone you love can equate love.

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Answer 4

This MAY be true if you are measuring in terms of how many paychecks the fellow spent or what he did without in order to save up for large stone. Then again, it may simply mean that he is an idiot about money and has racked up a big credit card debt with no plan for how to pay it off. A guy putting himself into debt merely to impress others (his girl, her family, their friends) with what a big shot he is probably doesn't love anybody except himself.

Answer 5

YOu friend has it all wrong and it is sad for her that she feels this way. I know my fiance loves me. My diamond is small, altho it looks big to me. It is a top quality E white diamond. Absolutely gorgeous. I could of had bigger, but the quality may not of been as good.
We have a nice new house together, with a pool and want to travel overseas....these priorities were more important than me having an expensive and huge rock on my finger. As it is he spent more than I wanted him to.
Your friend is definitely wrong.

Answer 6

I agree with you. 100% ridiculous. Before my now-husband proposed, he asked me a whole bunch of questions about June's (my birthday month) birthstones, like which one I preferred and if I already had any jewelery already containing the stones. When he proposed, I was given a beautiful ring that has an alexandrite as the stone. I love it more than anything because he took the time to get me something special.

Answer 7

Yes shes def. ridiculous! The bigger the rock, the more trouble you have figuring out how to dig out of all that debt! I'm guessing your friends brain is about the size of the half carat diamond that my VERY loving husband gave me when we got engaged. lol!

Answer 8

I dont think so... I think the bigger the rock the more he is trying to win her heart. and i believe that a person that thinks this way dont love that person the way they should be love... its not about the size of the rock.. Granted it would be nice to have a nice size rock but if that person dont get it. its the size of the love that matter and thats the truth.

Answer 9

I would rather be with someone who proposed to me with no ring at all than have a huge chunk of money (usually on credit) dropped on a ring well out of his means to purchase. It shows me that he is into the love and me... not the money or status.

My husband loves me to no end and when he proposed, he gave me all he could afford within reason. There is no ring big enough to show how much he loves me!

It's not the size that counts :)

Answer 10

I guess that means that nobody loved anybody before DeBeers:
(a) made diamonds popular as engagement rings,
(b) brainwashed consumers with the ridiculous "two months salary" rule
(c) made people think that a real engagement ring is at least a carat....

Answer 11

I'm with you - it is nuts!
I don't want a diamond so my fiance can afford a larger non-diamond stone ( I don't care about the stone size, I just prefer gemstones to diamonds). He had me try on a 3-carat aquamarine ring. The saleswoman & I both said its too large for me to wear and put it right back into the display case.