my 'boyfriend' and I have been seeing each other for 3 months.
Normally I go to his, and stay over. But Sat eve he came to mine, we had dinner, watched a film. Then had sex ...
After he said he was unsure about gettting close to someone and was going to catch the last train home.
Just the evening before he'd taken me to his sisters and had been showering me with affection.
Am I right to feel hurt and what should I say?
2007-11-28 07:45:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definatly cut him off tell him your unsure about having sex with someone that doesnt want to be close what are you a booty call F that i bet he trys to sweet talk you and F that to he should respond by saying that he understands and if he really cares he will still want to see you without the sex
2007-11-28 08:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's alright to feel hurt or upset, it's normal. Are you sure the two of you are dating? Maybe he doesn't consider the two of you a couple. This is something you need to ask him. Sit down with him and have a talk about where the two of you are together and what the both of you want.
The affection he gives you doesn't necessarily mean that he loves you and wants a relationship. Don't forget to bring this up in your convo.
If he's not willing to talk about it, then chances are you were never a couple in the first place, and you need to take more time in a relationship before you make a serious move like sex.
2007-11-28 07:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by myluv115 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, now that is confusing.
You guys stay at eachother's houses, you went to his sister's, he is affectionate, and most importantly you guys make love.
Then, one day he says it's too much.
Sounds like he is having second thoughts that he isn't telling you about. Personally, I do not believe that he is worried about getting so close to someone but more worried about having an actual commitment with you. You should talk to him and see where he actually stands. If this boy, after 3 months, is having second thoughts..who knows where his head is at & what he is exactly doing.
Talk to him and then dump him if need be..that just wasn't right. I say, tell me you don't want a commitment before we have sex, not after.
That's a punk out.
ashummz05@yahoo.com
2007-11-28 08:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's rude. VERY rude to say the least. As for what you should say? First of all, don't call him. If by some chance he does call you - you tell him that you will not stand for being treated badly. You probably won't hear from him again but who cares. Who needs someone like that? I can promise you one thing - when you hang up the phone he will respect the fact that you stood up for yourself. Men don't respect women that they can walk all over! Good luck!
2007-11-28 08:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by alianndees 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be hurt. I think if he was unsure about getting close to someone he should have left before you had sex. Give him some space to decide what he wants and make sure nothing else happens until he has made up his mind. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 07:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not understanding why your hurt?
I think sex is about the closest you can get to a person
If your second guessing your feelings after
sex, maybe, he's not mature enough to
handle that kind of relationship your looking for.
You could either talk to him, and tell him how you
feel, or you could dump him, if you think he's just
using you for cheap thrills....
2007-11-29 04:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by lashawn0676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he unsure about getting close to someone before he had an orgasm? What a jerk. If I were you, I'd never speak to him again. He got what he set out to get and he's done now.
2007-11-28 07:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would, he shouldn't give you a false sense of security if he doesn't even know what he's doing or feeling himself.
Yeah he's probably confused but that's no reason to string you a long. Ask him what he wants (not in a well serious way) but if he cant give you a straight answer get rid! unless of course you wanna be messed around!
2007-11-28 07:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
when men (may not be all men) want sex they say things to you cus they feel realy nice around you.. however if u give him sex..... like 10 seconds after u finish he will forget about it all, and sex wont matter to him,, most mens desire for sex drops completely after it....
2007-11-28 07:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tom W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is scared now that you have had sex that your gonna want more than what he is willing to give... or maybe he got burned in the past and is afraid that you are going to do the something....Something you need to talk about....
2007-11-28 07:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋