First of all, I know for a fact that he hasn't been married before, and does not have any kids either.Well I'm 20 and he's almost 32. We were seeing each other casually and I ended up getting preg. about a month after we met, I'm 5 and half months preg. now. The thing is that before I got pregnant, he would always look for me, was very sweet, wanted to see me all the time, and even asked me to be his girlfriend; i always said "no" because i didn't want anything serious. Plus our sex was great too. Things changed when i told him I was preg. because he was in denial, mad at me, confused, etc and. would pressure me to decide if i was going to have an abortion or not; plus he would tell me that we were just seeing eachother and that i wasn't even his gf, etc. After I decided to keep the baby he got more calm, but wasn't as close or sweet as he use to be. Now, we do still see eachother but not as often, but when we have sex, he hardly touches me, and is not as interested as b4 and idk why??
2007-11-28 07:45:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The pregnancy changed your whole relationship dynamic. Prior to it, he felt like he had to work for your affection. Now he is confused and unsure because the fun from chasing you has now passed.
If anything else, the situation revealed his true motives. He does not appear ready to be your husband or even the child's father.
Age is no indication of maturity. Although you are 12 years younger, you seem to recognize trouble for what it is.
2007-11-28 07:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Andre 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he feels very conflicted and scared about the whole thing. He is worried about what all of this will mean when the baby comes and he doesn't know what to do. To be honest, he may want to get out now but feels that he can't because you are pregnant. As far as the sex goes, it isn't uncommon at all for men to feel weird about sex with a pregnant woman, no matter what the situation is. He has probably never done that before and it seems different to him. You guys are about to be sharing a very big responsibility as parents of a child and you need to have a serious talk about his feeling, how your relationship is going to be and everything else that you can lay out on the table. Things will only get more complicated when the baby is born. You need to start communicating ASAP.
2007-11-28 15:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't ready for a baby and wanted things to be different, before any kids came along. Well that cant be helped now, it takes two to make a baby, unfortunately you are the one who has to take all the responsibility at least until the child is born. Tell him things didn't go as you had planned either, that you didn't intentionally get pregnant, but it happened and now you both have to deal with the results of your actions. Your child deserves nothing less than to have both parents in his/her life and caring and loving him/her and taking full responsibility for him/her. After the baby is born he will come around, and maybe things will work out for the two of you, or maybe you will end up just being the parents of your child and nothing to each other. It doesn't matter how old guys are, they all act the same if they aren't hoping for a child.
2007-11-28 15:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels like you deceived him. You said you didn't want "anything serious" yet your having his child. This doesn't make sense. He feels trapped and is not in love with you. This is not what he wanted out of his relationship with you. You are both to blame unless you did truly deceive him and only you know that for sure. You are 5 1/2 months pregnant some men find this repulsive. He may only still be sleeping with you because now he doesn't have to worry about you getting pregnant there's not else that can happen. Why take a chance and sleep with someone else and have this happen to him again?
2007-11-28 15:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't changed. You have and you need to accept responsibility, which doesn't seem to be your strong suit. You had casual sex, with an older man who chases young girls. You didn't want a relationship. You didn't use birth control. You got pregnant, yes he helped, but lets face it you told him you didn't want a boyfriend, yet you were sleeping with him, why wouldn't he think you were on some kind of birth control. You're 20, you don't have a degree, you're an unwed mother and you can't figure out why he's doesn't like you anymore? You might want to rethink your priorities and stop worrying about him and start worrying about your child and how YOU are going to take care of him.
2007-11-28 16:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Katie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't want a relationship but you got pregnant and now you wonder why he has lost interest? Say's it all to me. You can't get more serious than having a baby. The poor bloke just wanted a girlfriend and then you turn round and said I'm pregnant. And he STILL doesn't have the girlfriend.
2007-11-28 15:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still having sex with this guy? He's a jerk. Good for you for not aborting but think twice if you are going to try to raise this baby and have him involved. He sounds like a selfish creep. I feel bad for you because you seem a little confused but that baby should be the priority not him.
2007-11-28 15:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 32 going on 20. Some guys are just destined to be bachlors for life or until they slow down in later years. I bet you are not his only sex buddy.. I suggest you move on. They sex is not that great anyways lately. Once you loswe interest he will wonder why. Find a guy that is more your type of personality.
2007-11-28 15:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Poppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he sounds married to me. He may not have been married before but might be now and didn't tell you. Anyhow, since you are keeping the baby, that can change the way he views you (mother of his kid vs sexy girlfriend) plus, he is probably faced with the reality of his responsibilities.
2007-11-28 15:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got what he wanted BEFORE you got pregnant. You need to find someone a little more willing to be with you instead of on you.
I hope you 2 work this out before the baby is born.
2007-11-28 16:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋