My 20 month old daughter is very smart. has been speaking full sentences, conversating back and forth for several months now. I love her very much & am proud of her and how advanced she is but its frusterating, because she has now gotten to the point where she will cuss. Yes its embarassing, that she has picked this up, but my question is how do we get it out of her memory all together. we have made a pact to never again cuss and try very hard not to raise our voices since she picks up everything. Its scary. She will have a temper tantrum and then right in the middle of screaming and crying she will stop all together and just scream the F word or "Shut up". She also will hit and try to bite anyone near her. I know the best thing to do is ignore this behavior but its so difficult and seems to only make her more upset. this happens several times throughout the day. She'll drop something by accident and say the S word or "D***it". She knows all the curse words, and the right context.
2007-11-28 07:34:47 · 11 answers · asked by lacyma03 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
In the middle of the night randomly, she will wake up in the middle of the night, we think from having a bad dream, only its close to impossible trying to console her, its like shes throwing a tantrum in the middle of her sleep, and she does the same thing, after screaming & crying nonstop for about 15 minutes, yells the F word real loud. then screams an additional 20 minutes. I know this cant possibly be normal and scares me to death. She is just so angry. even in her sleep. Last night at 3 am, it was about a crayon.. in her sleep, eyes closed and everything shes screams for a crayon, reaches her hand out.. and just continues to scream, " I want the crayon, gimmee the crayon!". Has anyone else gone through this??
2007-11-28 07:41:03 · update #1
to wifey wifey and Kandy....
your answers are insulting. If you had read my question and details to the fullest, you would have seen that I already in fact have admitted & acknowledged that my husband and I play a huge part in her language development and therefore have made a pact not to use curse words around our daughter or even raise our voice for that matter.. so the answer you two provided was not only repetitive, it was unnecessary, insulting, and just plain out rude. My question was what can we do to stop this type of behavior, as far as discipline is concerned. It was not a difficult question, others seemed to have been able to give some valuable advice, I dont see why it was difficult for you to do the same. If people have no "constructive" criticism, I dont believe people should be allowed to answer questions period. Its a waste of time and the whole purpose of this website.
2007-11-28 07:57:44 · update #2
Admitting you & your husband made a mistake & refusing to repeat is the biggest step. She needs to be made aware that those words are off limits. Since you don't say them anymore that will help. Use the same punishment over and over again every time uses a "bad" word eventually she will figure out that you are not going to allow her to talk like that and quit because she doesn't want whatever punishment you choose.
Some people use time out, taking away toys, washing the childs mouth out with soap, etc. There are various things you can try to see what works best for your child. Good luck
2007-11-28 09:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my 2 year old doesnt talk at all. Not even one word!! I have to keep reminding myself that Einstein didnt talk until he was 3. I have got him tested and they say that he'll just talk when hes ready but its really hard because he just screams when he wants something!! So I cant help you with the cussing but I wanted to tell you my kid wakes up in the middle of the night and screams like hes had a bad dream and its pretty scary. I thought it was just gonna be a stage but its not- hes been doing this since he was 8 months old and he just turned 2 in Sept. So I actually envy you- I wish my child was talking- even if he said cuss words I would still just like to know what hes thinking!! Good Luck!!!
2007-11-28 15:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my twins had an incredibly foul mouth for a while. He picked it up from some older kids in his day-care. I came home one day to hear him conjugating the F word. At first we just ignored it, hoping that by not responding he would stop doing it. When that didn't work, we started to take away privileges. No TV, or no dessert. We would also specifically start paying attention to his twin brother, giving him praises for being such a good boy, and rewarding him for good behavior. It still happens when he is really hopping mad about something. When my mother was visiting he did it to her and she put hot mustard on his tongue. He now knows to bring me the hot mustard if he uses "bad" words, which has become few and far between. I think the most important thing however is to watch what you are saying in her presence, they pick up so much from parents.
2007-11-28 16:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mummum of 3 boys under 4! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do kids learn there first words?.......FAMILY!! Don't use those words around her!
Edit: Ok, obviously you DID NOT have that "pact" when she was first able to comprehend those words. So now that momma and daddy "dont" use those words "anymore" she should she your "new" behavior and do the same. Kids learn fast. They wanna be and do like their parents.
Or go see a child behavior specialist.
2007-11-28 15:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kandy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure she knows this is bad. like give her a warning the first and secould time in the day and then the third time give her a time out or say that everytime she says a curse something bad is happening but you should try to avoid to lie. but still when she starts pre-school teachers will not mike to hear this. don't ignore it because she thinks that it's no big deal when you ignore it she dosn't know that this is bad.
2007-11-28 15:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by guuuuuuuuuuuuuurl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to know that there are consequences to her actions and if she continues she will be punished. The first time she swears...reprimand her whether it be a time out or whatever you do to reprimand your child. Be consistent and do not stop the punishment.
2007-11-28 15:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children copy what they see and hear. Correct or get rid of the source first.
2007-11-28 16:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop cussing around her and punish her a pop to the mouth works best when she says one. no laughing or anything get firm before it gets worse this is not cute
2007-11-28 15:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hahah thats awesome id be congradulating her for cursing but take her to therapy for the anger issues.
2007-11-28 15:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children do as they see and not as they're told. So if you want your kid to stop cussing, you should stop too.
2007-11-28 15:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋