ok...the best boyfriend of my life is awesome..he is sweet and considerate and wae love the same things, including eachother...so there is NO problem!!! but my ex, which i have 0 feelings for tells me he is still in love wit me and thinks that we can work it out and that he cannot live with uot me and all dat mess, he his 21, my b/f now is 20 and im 20, jus to let u kno dat we rnt too young!! i want my ex to leave me alone n let me n my b/f now live our lives 2gether and be happy, but am i suppose to tell my ex so he will...i mean, i really dont want to hurt his feelings or be rude, but he wont take leave me alone for an answer...HELP!!!!
2007-11-28 07:05:35 · 17 answers · asked by kd_bug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you have moved on and he should too.
2007-11-28 07:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself unavailable to him. Don't answer his calls, email, and for a time anyway avoid him in person if you can. Time heals all wounds. If he isn't seeing or hearing from you, he has a better chance to get over it on his own.
If you absolutely can't dodge him...then sit him down and have a rational one on one talk with all the reasons that it won't work between you two. Not just why you don't like him, but also why you aren't the girl for him. If you lay ALL the facts out for him, maybe he'll get it.
2007-11-28 15:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex decided that he wanted me AFTER we broke up and I started dating my now husband. He came over and cried that he wanted me back- I had to tell him that we were done. We had our chance to try to make it work and now the time was to move on. I told him that he would find someone new and he would forget his feelings for me. I didn't yell at him or start a huge fight, I just told him that I was no longer interested. He called me once more a few months later, but that was the end of it. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 15:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mars1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but what about your bf's feelings? Tell the ex that you just aren't interested in rekindling the past. Tell him you don't love him. Also, let your bf know what's going on so there isn't any misunderstanding w/ him. Sever all ties w/ the ex.
2007-11-28 15:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by TwilightTwin2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't want to hurt his feelings? If this keeps up, your current boyfriend is going to get tired of it and leave you. So, SOMEONES feelings are going to have to get hurt. Tell your ex to leave you alone and MEAN it. Maybe you like the attention he's giving you? Otherwise you wouldn't be taking his 'I still love you' crap. Be honest with him and yourself. Good luck.
2007-11-28 15:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex you are involved in a serious relationship. If he wants to be friends then he needs to respect that. Be firm but don't put him down. Just state the facts and stay away from emotional words.
2007-11-28 15:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course he's not going to stop, no one has told him to stop and he thinks he still has a shot with you. Hurting his feelings is irrelevant; he'll take it how he takes it. Being rude shoudn't be necessary, but being direct definitely is. That's pretty much the answer. Good luck with this.
2007-11-28 15:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the impression you are enjoying the attention from your ex.
If not, stop taking his calls, block his texts and email. Do not agree to see or meet him in person. It is time for both of you to move forward.
Do not worry about hurting his feelings. It is time to be an adult and let him know you are not his property - he needs to look elsewhere.
2007-11-28 15:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love your boyfriend, and that you don't share the same feelings for him. If he truly loves you, he'll let you be with the one you love. Tell him or try to ignore him. I totally realize that it's easier said than done, but trust me, he may be angry with you now, but he'll definitely respect you more in the long run. Hope that helps. :)
2007-11-28 15:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by KM! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be completely straightforward with your ex. Tell him that you do not have feelings for him and that no means no. If he still doesn't get the picture after this and/or he becomes slightly stalker-ish, get the authorities invovled.
2007-11-28 15:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Erin has a crush on Brandon♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him this.
the time you guys broke up, other doors were opened for you and your relationship door with him was closed at that time and you plan to keep it that way, because its the best thing for everyone even if he may not believe it right now but he will thank you in time.
2007-11-28 15:16:02 · answer #11 · answered by dukesta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋