when do i finally give in and break up with my bf? he is so mentally abusive but i love him! i know i can say the words "i am braking up with you" but it is the aftermath that i am worried about! i don't know if i am strong enough to leave him! what do i do...i have been back and forth in my head wondering what to do. i just don't know when enough is enough!?
2007-11-28 06:50:06 · 36 answers · asked by Fighter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't wait any longer. tell him to F off and leave.
2007-11-28 06:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over and has been for a long time when you start to say to your self should I leave or your thinking about it constantly Break it up because your going to make your self sick. You'll be more healthier on your own also you can then have time to regain your self esteem and know what is important to you having someone by your side who is clearly is being abusive or being on your own and becoming healthy. I have been there and believe me it does not work in the long run you will be a much healthier person. If it's not mental abuse it soon will turn into something else.What usually happens is that if it's not mental it will become physical. He is trying to make himself better and keep you down so I would get out while you can. Talk to counsellor or a crisis line and let them know what has been happening. They'll help and good luck!
2007-11-28 07:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Vctory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... sometimes love just isnt enough. When you are unhappy and frustrated and they person you are with constantly makes you cry and makes you miserable, that is considered emotional abuse. He is already mentally abusing you... but understand this: You have the strength to recognize when you are unhappy, so you have the strength to find a BETTER man.
The "in the meantime" aftermath absolutely sucks - welcome to the club. It aint easy, but I'll tell you that the mental and emotional strain of getting OVER it, is a hell of a lot more healthier than staying with someone who CAUSES you emotional and mental strain.
If you love him, he should love you back. If he loves you back, he wouldnt hurt you.
If enough is enough, it should be enough for you to keep the strength you have and walk away.
2007-11-28 07:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby sorry to say that if you are asking the question, that means that the time to leave him is well over due. Often times we as females give too many chances and it's like when you think about it boo, what are you really gaining. Someone that loves you would not abuse you in any way. Think about that.
Word of advice
"It takes a fool to learn that love don't love you back"
I've decided that I can't be any body's fool. What will you decide?
Good luck
2007-11-28 07:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh your pro's and con's. When the bad is outweighing the good... that is when you know. Ask yourself if that person actually brings out the best in you... do you laugh and can you talk for hours about anything? Does he make you want to live your life to it's full potential? Most of the time, your reasoning for staying w/someone is because you are comfortable and it's easy... you may not like change. But realize that you lived before him and you can definetley live w/o him. Don't waste your time, you will only hate yourself when you finally do get the nerves to break-up because you waited sooooo long!
2007-11-28 06:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥appletown18♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say all this, and yet your screen name is 'Fighter'? Why would you let anyone put you down like that? If you let men treat you like yesterday's garbage, your relationships will always fail. Learn to love yourself. Think of you before you think of anyone else. And as far as the aftermath? Men come and go. At first it will hurt like hell, but you'll get over it. Find yourself a hobby, stay busy. Just leave this boy. Good luck.
2007-11-28 06:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there's abuse there's no question of "if"- you have to get out. You may have strong feelings for him but you'll just get hurt more in the long run. Make a clean break and walk away with your head held high. He may scream and rant and rave but just keep walking. It'll be hard at first but you're doing what's best for you.
2007-11-28 06:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What reason do you have to stay> Love is a 4 letter word like hate>A fine line>Your very unhappy>being alone is lonely with out the drama>Look at all the good time & Bad time>Is it worth stay for>
2007-11-28 06:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighter,
Well its hard to say when you will get to that point I hope for your safety and sanity that you get out of this soon. Trust me being alone isn't easy but I would rather have piece of mind. Know that someone can only do what you allow so if you carry yourself like a woman who won't stand for abuse its less likely to happen. Love yourself fighter and know your self worth once you get out of this I doubt very seriously you would think of going back. Good luck shug!
2007-11-28 07:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Blaqchinah Violation Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is sad. I think you are sad. What is love anyway, there are millions of people that claim to be inlove then are inlove with the next perso they meet. Its a bunch of B.S. People fall inlove with good lookin, nice, funny people. Thats all there is to it.
Stop wasting time in an abusive relationship and break up with him over the phone. If he tries to see you call the police. Also, meet someone else to get your mind of this B.S.
2007-11-28 06:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough when you're tired of being mistreated. If you think you should be abused, stay. If you think you're worth more than that, say goodbye to this abuser and move on. Understand that it's only you loving him. He doesn't love anyone--not even himself!
2007-11-28 06:57:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋