I mean if she truly liked me wouldn't she sleep with me for free. I'm not saying that she is always asking for stuff, but I know she expects it. So, isn't that like paying for sex? If i take her out I her laid, if i by her flowers I get laid. It's kinda like I'm leasing her, with the opsion to buy. I know that sounds bad, but thats what it feels like....I go buddies that say the samething. Any advice. Women won't even talk to a man unless her has a job, car, money and his own place. ( not at home)
2007-11-28 06:42:17 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All men pay for the company of there girlfriend.
2007-11-28 06:56:56 · update #1
If your girlfriend only sleeps with you because you buy her things, then she isn't your girlfriend, she is your prostitute. If you stop buying her stuff and she stops putting out, then you will have your answer and yes, you are paying for the right to sleep with her.
If she sleeps with you anyway, then the answer is no and she is not your personal hooker.
2007-11-28 06:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know that's exactly what it seems like, but that's not what it means. If she truly likes you she would give it up for free, but if you truly like her you wouldn't mind spending money on her. In a relationship it should be a two way street, you both should be doing equal amount of things for eachother. Also, when you take her out to eat you'r e doing it to spend time with her. If you really feel that way try asking her to pay oneday just to see where her heads at. Or you could even go some place that doesn't cost anything then go home and get you some then you would probably feel better cuz you didn't PAY for sex.
Now about the fact that women won't talk to a man with no car, job, house, etc. Most women think that a guy is mot a man if he doesn't have those things. To some people if a man is 25 or older he should not still be living home with mom.
Well as for me I look for guys that have what I have or more. I think it's wrong to expect a guy to have his own place if she don't. It all depends on his situation, For example. If he dosen;t have a job b/c of a physical injury, retired or got laid off, but is currently looking then cut him some slack. He dosen't have a car because he just wrecked it less than a week ago, but he should have insurance and should at least have a rental. Last but not least if he still lives with his mom the only reason for that should be that his house his bieng built as we speak. But there's nothing wrong with him having a roommate.
2007-11-28 15:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by tc22 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not really true at all. Truth is, women want it as bad as guys do, and being really sweet to her makes her feel more like doing it with you. You are reading into it more than you should, just accept that she likes you, and honestly, it just gives her that warm loved feeling when you take her to dinner somewhere nice, or give her flowers or whatever. Women want a successful person that is why they like it when you have a job, a car and a place of your own. Yes, she probably will sleep with you for free, try cooking her a nice dinner at home some night, you know, candles, etc. Technically not free, but definitely not spending money on her directly. See what happens then.(unless of course you cannot cook, don't try that if it isn't something you are good at, I forget this usually, and assume everyone can cook) There are alot of guys out there that feel like women have to be bought, not true, just have to treat them nice, love them and they will love you back. Good luck.
2007-11-28 14:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like that's wrong?
Are you upset with the trend of purchasing things and getting booty in return?
I don't think you are paying for booty per-say, but just paying to keep her happy..right? If she puts out every time you do something right, maybe she is trying to send you a hidden message. Do you ever just turn the sex down for just cuddling or anything? I think if you didn't take everything that she gives and just enjoy being with her, the free booty might come a bit more often. Good luck!
2007-11-28 14:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd cut off the money line my friend. Stop buying her stuff unless you really feel like you want to, like for a holiday or her birthday. You are right... she should do you for free. You might even put in a little plee for your buddies too. Maybe she will retroact some of your gifts by doing your buddies too? It's worth a shot.
2007-11-28 15:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are saying your girlfriend is a whore.
Niiiiiice.
This is laughable.
As women we are supposed to make relationship decisions without regard for things like if I guy has a job, a home or a car? Should we be ignoring issues like general manners and hygiene as well? Sortof like equal opportunity slot machines?
What a lovely veiw of relationships.
Be sure to share this attitude with your girlfriend!
2007-11-28 14:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're obviously not seeing the right women. Girls don't need gifts, they may want them but that shows their true colours. Tell her to get a job and buy her own flowers.
You should date less shallow women.
It's nice to date a guy who has a job and his own place because it shows he's an adult and can take care of himself and has goals. But women who care about what kind of job and place are shallow. Avoid them. Personality makes the man, not the size of his wallet.
2007-11-28 14:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only paying for sex if sex is the only thing you get out of being with her.
Do you not like being around her for the enjoyment of her company without sex? Do you not like giving her things for the pure joy of giving them to her? Do you not like seeing her happy because you like her as a person?
If none of those ring true and all you're looking for is sex, you may as well just go to a prostitute, buddy.
Also, plenty of women will date men without jobs, cars, money or their own place... But most try to avoid it because it sucks being with someone who has no job and does nothing with their life. It sucks driving people around all the time. It sucks being the only one paying for things. And it sucks having to be around parents or room-mates all the time. And that goes for a partner of either sex.
2007-11-28 14:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most women will deny it but that is pretty much the gist of it. Of course, everytime you do something for her you won't always get laid, so sometimes you're making payments the next time. Or for the time before.
And I would suggest women take an honest look at themselves for a change.
2007-11-28 14:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you truly liked her it wouldnt matter if she slept with you or not. Taking a girl out on a date doesnt mean that you now have a right to sleep with her. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?!?! If she likes you enough that she wants to take that step its up to her. AND you need to get your head screwed on straight about women mister. If it feels like you are just paying for sex try a relationship without sex and get a better girl.
2007-11-28 14:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you will be paying for it for the rest of your life, so get used to it
if it is not money, it is energy... you have to keep her happy
that is what a relationship is, it is about sacrifices
women want a successful man because that is something to respect, who would want to date some scum bag who cant even take care of himself, that is not attractive to a woman. Just be confident and have class, if she finds out you are buying things to get sex.... well if she still likes you then she is the wrong type of lady.
2007-11-28 14:45:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋