did you have your wedding on a weekday?

Question

how did people react when they found out you were having it on a weekday?

i'm planning my wedding for august 2010 and it lands on a wednesday. since it would still be summer, would people show?

well, most of the people we're inviting are from other states and a lot are from canada also. i figured maybe they could use the time for vacation??? is it that odd to have it in the middle of the week?

the wedding will be in California....Orange County

Answer 1

mine is planned (booked, deposits paid, etc) for Wednesday september 17th, 2008. My family all lives in the US (my fiance and I live in Canada) and his family all lives in Canada. We decided on a wednesday because it will be cheaper for our guests to fly (tuesdays, wednesdays and thursdays are cheapest) and it's an added bonus that some vendors offer a discount for weekday weddings. I know some of my family (and some of his too) won't be able to come, for financial reasons, can't take time off work, don't want to, don't want to fly, etc but it's a chance we decided to take. We were pushing for our anniversary (which falls on the 10th, but it was already booked, so a week later it is). So far I've had nothing but good feedback from my family, but I know when it comes down to booking plane tickets and hotel rooms, opinions will change.

It's not to be insensitive - but it is your wedding. We chose the time of year (and the date) because it was significant and convenient for us. We know that the people who really want to be there will, and some may have a hard time, but we'll do what we can to help. My feeling is to lean towards the opinions of who is paying for the wedding. If ti's you and your partner - you can have it anytime you want day or night, month or day of the week you choose. If someone else is paying for it all or in large part, you do yourself some favors by finding out of the money has strings attached, and if so, of what kind and if their were "visions" that went along (ie, grandma is giving you 50% of your budget and she thinks it improper to have anything but a saturday wedding - you might want to consider or have a good argument why not) If you're still not sure - poll those people you really want to be there. Chances are those are the people who'd come out in all kinds of weather though.

hope that helps.

Answer 2

I've never been to a weekday wedding that I can remember... maybe a Friday. My family recently got an invitation for a Wednesday wedding and everyone was surprised. They thought it was weird.

I would expect a much smaller attendance at a weekday wedding...people are working, have to get up early the next day, they may have to travel over an hour to attend, etc...
You may save a lot of money do a weekday wedding!...Not only on the number or attendees, but there are also good deals on halls, caterers, photographers, etc... during the week.

You'll probably get some comments about how strange it is and maybe inconvenient for some guests, but remember...while you want to please your guests, it is YOUR day, so don't let people change your plans unless YOU want to. If it works for you, and the people you HAVE to have there can come with little problem, then why not do it during the week?

Congratulations!! :)

Answer 3

Hi. Your wedding is far off .... 2+ years! Why do you want to get married on a weekday? I am assuming this certain date is significant to you...but it's ONLY a date!! I can understand maybe a Friday....but certainly NOT a Wednesday!

Any day of the week is fine, as far as I am concerned, but ONLY if you are inviting all local people. Personally, I would love to go to a wedding on a day other than Saturday. But I don't think you can expect your family and friends that live in other states and in Canada to make it their "vacation" just to attend your wedding. That is asking a lot. My advice would be to move the day to a Friday or Saturday so that some out of town family and friends may be able to attend.

Answer 4

Our wedding was on January 3, 2006 which fell on a Tuesday. No one said anything to us about having it on a weekday. Almost everyone we invited showed up even though it was a weekday right after a holiday. The people that really care about you will show no matter what. Even if you had it on a Saturday people from out of town would probably have to take days off work for travel anyway. I wouldn't worry about it. Have your wedding on the day that is special to you and your future husband.

Answer 5

I am a wedding officiant and this year I did more weekday weddings than ever before. Thursday in particular. On a Saturday night at one mid-range popular hall the pp charge is $120 as opposed to $65 on a Thursday. Many of the couples are retired and their friends have no qualms taking off work. If you are planning a big shin dig for a lot of younger people they'll party harder on a weekend. Sunday day is also cheaper.

Answer 6

I think, Fridays are usually okay and will have a moderate turn-out. Mid-week can be a bit iffy IMHO.
If you have alot of people travelling, and you are close to some/many, I say ask them. They may save on airfare coming to town on Tuesday or Wednesday and leaving Thursday or Friday. Some, as you note, may want to use their vacation time.
I found that going to Florida and not staying on a Saturday night caused airfare to be lower! Maybe CA will be similar?

If the wedding were local for me on a Wednesday, I would probably take 1/2 day off from work and attend (I've done it for a couple Friday weddings). I wouldn't be as crazy about having to travel to/from a wedding mid-week.
BUT if the majority are travelling - ask them!

Answer 7

I don't know babe--I just think it's kinda mean to force all your guests (which you already know are traveling for your wedding from far away) to take their vacation for you. I mean they have to take several days, not just one like if it were Friday. Then they could work Thurs, fly down and go to the wedding Friday.

But Wednesday, they have to take off perhaps Tues, Wed, and Thurs, depending on how late it goes. If they only get off one week a year, they may would rather take a vacation with their family.

The summer only works for students, teachers or retirees. The rest of us have to work in summer, no different from fall. Where is the wedding? If I were invited somewhere that I could tie into vacation, I'd go. Like Florida. They could go down a couple days at the beach, then your wedding. But if it's the middle of nowhere, and they have to take a week just for your wedding, I think thats rather bridezilla. Unless it's a really small wedding with like 25 people. People that close wouldn't think anything of traveling for your wedding.

Answer 8

I got married on a Monday at 5:30 pm. Everyone invited showed up. We had the wedding outdoors and it was early June so the weather was great. I don't think the day matters too much. Just make sure people are off of work for the timing.

Answer 9

I am having mine on a Friday, the Friday after Thanksgiving actually. But it's a destination wedding so I'm not worried about people attending. I think that people take time out of their lives to go to weddings. You may not get everyone you know to come but important people that love you will definitely take a day off to be there.

Answer 10

I hate to bring you down, but I doubt anyone would want to take a week of vacation time to go to a wedding in another state (on a Wednesday)... If you must have it on a Wednesday, I'd suggest having it in your own state...or else plan for a really small intimate wedding!