My brother was killed in Iraq 3mnths ago by a roadside bombing. I often think about how he died and did he suffer it was an IED that killed him. Does anybody know anything about them that could tell me for sure he died fast. I just have to know I feel like he cryed for me or my mom. I don't know what to think Help!
2007-11-28 06:29:20 · 16 answers · asked by Debbie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He was a gunner in a Hum V
2007-11-28 06:57:17 · update #1
My husband just came home from Iraq. He's fine but wishes he was there to protect my brother. He feels that he is the blame
2007-11-28 06:59:01 · update #2
Debbie,
Your brother accomplished many things in his lifetime. He loved you and your mother. He made you angry and he made you laugh. You and your mother should sit and talk about all the ways he made you both feel better with his presence. I for one feel very sad when I read about one of our brave young men or women who paid the ultimate sacrifice for my country. They are heroes. They have stood up and been counted. They took the oath to protect and defend the Constitution of the United States of America. In today's world, I am not sure the majority of Americans would take the same oath.
Your brother served our nation with dignity. I am very sorry for your family's loss, but at the same time I am very proud of him. I would suggest that you write him a letter telling him about you and him and also how you miss him. Keep that letter always. Read it once a year to keep his memory fresh in your heart. When you have children tell them about him, and read them the letter. As that letter is passed down from family member to family member, your brother will never die.
2007-11-28 07:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the size, No offense but if it was a thousand pound 152mm shell in a trunk and a closed casket Funeral he might have not even had time to blink much less see what got him. If it were a small shrapnel bomb, and it didn't score a neck or other vital spot hit and peppered him, slow and painful. If a quick neck hit, maybe a little bit of surprise and a quick death. If it were an incidanry device, very painful, but quick.
Several unknown factors. For instance there have been cases of Soldiers in early wars (ww2, ww1, Korea, Vietnam) of being hit with Heavy Mortar or Artillery Rounds, and nothing but the Boots being left litterally. The weapon was a booby trap, he might have not even know.
But I doubt he didn't think of you guys, in any military service, any nations, most soldiers when going on Patrol or a combat mission are asked to write letters to ones husband, wife or parents, or say prayers, even if need be cry for there loved ones. An IED though, it all depends, Shrapnel, blast, material, bomb container. All of those can make a death fast or slow death depending on the Circumstance, the IED is not a set design weapon and as such each bomb is differnt.
One can be a simple bomb full of nails and a trip wire, or an Artillery Shell with a Pager to set it off with the press of a button a mile away.
2007-11-28 07:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by TK-421 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to know how fast he died unless you ask someone who was there with him. But don't let that worry you. Your brother died fighting for something in which he believed. I'm sure he thought of both you and your mom not only before he passed, but every minute he was over there. And he is now watching over you. His death doesn't matter anymore. What does is the legacy he left behind with you and your family. God bless you. Thank you for the sacrifices you have made being a military family member.
2007-11-28 06:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We had a saying in Nam you get hit bad you don't feel a thing. The body goes into a form of shock when a person is hit bad.
So very doubtful he suffered any at all. Most like never knew what hit him.
He probably came to in Heaven looking up at Christ asking what happened.
Now for the present problem of your husband blaming himself and feeling guilty. You might coax him into talking to your pastor about it. Or better yet getting him to talk to a pastor who has been in combat.
Kid I hate it and words can not describe how sorry I am and how much I detest any of our men getting killed over there.
2007-11-28 09:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debbie.....I am sad at your loss and please accept my families condolences. My son sereved for 4 combat tours there as a frontline infantry combat sgt, and I worried more about IED's than anything else. Any physical confrontation was taken care of by them, but you can't know about IED's. My son has sent to me several "movies" of IED's and them going off and some of them that they dentenated on purpose. I am not sure if it helps, but the explosive power of those is tremendous. Death is usually instinatinous and there is no suffering. Those that suffer are the ones that "live" thorugh it and are handicapped afterward. I think you need to cry about your loss and if you don't I will for you. I am grateful mine made it back. It is easier for the soldier than for the ones they leave behind whether even when that soldier is alive and well. I know I am a former Vietnam Marine 1968! God Bless you and your family!
2007-11-28 06:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry for your loss!
IED by their nature are not exact. Much depends on where he was in relationship to the device. No matter what you are feeling, if he did suffer, if he wasn't killed right away, the point is that right now, and forever, he is no longer in pain, and he is not suffering. I know it is hard to let go, but you must not dwell on what he may or may not have suffered, and know that now, he is at peace.
Feel free to email me.
2007-11-28 06:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tira A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I spent a year in baghdad looking for roadside bombs. it is hard to say if he suffered. it all depends on the type of bomb and where it hit. If he took the direct hit then yes i would say it was fast. but if he was just in the vehicls or was the gunner i would say it was probably not fast. sorry for your loss. I feel for you and your family.
2007-11-28 06:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by TDAL 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetie... I don't have any answers for your questions.
I hope it was instant. And I imagine he missed you and your mom everyday. I am soo sorry for your loss. And I am very appreciative that there are great ppl out there like your brother and husband willing to serve.
2007-11-28 07:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by your_sunshine78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a breather love. It depends. What type of vehicle was he in? A humvee or a stryker? Besides rather than thinking of it like that. He died to protect the freedoms of thousands of Iraqi people, he is a hero. Take faith in knowing that he didnt die in vain. You should be proud of your brother.
Thank you to your brother!
2007-11-28 06:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by woofywaffles 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss, may God hold you and your family close at this time and give you peace that no matter what happened in those last few moments He was there with your brother.
If it was his time your husband couldn't have done anything either.
2007-11-28 07:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋