I met this girl through the internet,we had dinner,good conversation-went to her house,watched a movie,made out for a while. I emailed her a few days later saying I had fun,let's meet again,she emailed me back the next day saying she had fun too, wanted to get together. I emailed her the next day... Didn't hear a response for a week and a half. I emailed again, she emailed saying she was "busy trying to get time off from work". I asked if she wanted to catch another movie that week or weekend, she said yes, definitely. Weekend came,I called,no call back. Wednesday I emailed her asking what happened--I said if she's too busy to date, that's fine, just tell me. She said she wanted to see me, but her phone was not working. We made a new plan for the coming Saturday. I called that day,but she cancelled saying she forgot she had plans already,but she'd call me that night. She never called. I emailed her and dumped her. She wrote back,said I'm a demanding a--hole,not worth her time. Wtf?
2007-11-28 06:20:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the great responses everyone! Just to add: I only kept contacting her because each time she emailed me, she said things like, "I definitely want to see you soon!!!!". Yes, normally i would've just waited to hear back from her, and forgotten about it if I hadn't heard from her. But she kept insisting she wanted to get together. Of course she was busy, but should not have made plans she couldn't keep and then just ditched them without communicating in any way -- that's disrespectful.
And I only used the word "dumped" because I was out of characters :) I told her, "Let's just end this, whatever it is."
2007-11-28 06:37:23 · update #1
She is spineless and doesn't know how to tell you she isn't interested.
Move on, there are all sorts of girls looking for a decent guy.
2007-11-28 06:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you overreacted. You were just trying to arrange dates with her. She was the one not calling you back, and cancelling last minute.
She either doesn't have the time to date or is just inconsiderate. You probably bruised her ego by dumping her via e-mail. If this is the best way she can act, you're better off just letting it go and moving on to the next girl who does have time for you.
2007-11-28 14:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she had no time obviuosly or she was trying to play with 2 guys instead of one. I know cus i've done this and trying to juggle work and 2 men is work itself. Be glad your done with her..demanding after the first date trying to plan a 2nd date..if she thinks thats demanding then i would hate to have a 2nd date with a bitchh like that. Poof she's gone!
2007-11-28 14:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not over reacting. This girl is definately not into you.
But you guys only went on ONE date, you aren't dumping her, you weren't even in a relationship!
I think her calling you a demanding a--hole has to do with what you wrote in your email where I easily imagine you being rude and condesending to her.
She was not into you. And you just kept trying and trying.
That's all. Get over it.
Move on.
2007-11-28 14:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW did you dump her?I'm not seeing this as a situation where you had to be mean about it.When she didn't call you back that last time,I probably would have left the ball in her court,just let her never call back and basically dump herself.
2007-11-28 14:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not over-react.
You both had a great time; and she'd probably enjoy spending more time with you. But it is clear she has other priorities in her life that are more important than spending time with you. You could continue chasing her, but you'd get more and more frustrated as time went on, as she seems to want to keep your relationship on a back burner.
2007-11-28 14:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by MarkyP00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you called her too frequently after the first date.
Also, you took it too personaly. If she didnt show up or call...well at that early stage you should have kind of just blown it off and considered a date and thats it
More fish in the sea
2007-11-28 14:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she wasn't interested in a second date but led you on to believe she was. so she is a b*tch, i'm sorry to say. next time someone is flaky with you, just wait for them to make the next contact with you. if you don't hear from them, they are probably not interested, regardless of how nice they sound in their email.
2007-11-28 14:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.-She´s not interested and anything else will distract her...
You are talking about 2 weeks of calls and mails,
2.-maybe she was really busy, you don´t know her well enough to assume she didn´t want to see you...She has a life and keeps her busy...she has priorities--
2007-11-28 14:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like two people who are just not compatable! and no your not a a--hole though i can see why she would say that...your being you and want feed-back and results, and she is a chick with a lot on her plate...keep moving forward more and less busy fish out there!
2007-11-28 14:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Insidious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋