My husband and I, just finalized my nephews adoption, he has been living with us for almost a year now, so he's not new to our family. This is a really sticky topic, within my family right now. Not everyone is happy for us and I dont want to upset anyone any more then they already are, seeing as though we are going to have to spend the holiday's with them. Should we celebrate? Is an adoption something thats normally celebrated? I am clueless.
2007-11-28 05:44:35 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you are concerned about the feelings of your family members, you could consider having a celebration w/ just you, your husband, nephew & any other children you may have. A small celebration would be fine.
2007-11-28 05:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is up to you. I have never had a baby shower for my children and often feel that I missed out on something why shouldn't an adoption get the same celebration. As far as the extended family don't push them they will come around or maybe they won't. Go to dinner or a movie just you and the kids and your husband and maybe another family that you are close to. Growing up we often celebrated birthdays with just the immediate family and then my best friend and her parents. We would eat out or in and use the fancy dishes and then we would watch movies or play games or us girls would go to a movie and then have a sleepover. In someways it was better than lots of people. Whatever you do make it special for you and your new son. That's all that matters.
2007-11-28 15:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by mamatot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely celebrate somehow. This is a wonderful time for you & your husband & nephew (and any other children you have). I agree w/ other posters that if it's a big problem w/ the rest of the family, then keep the celebration private. The most important thing is for your nephew/son to know how much he is wanted and loved by you. Good luck and enjoy your holidays!!
2007-11-30 09:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by gertie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would celebrate it. If you are concerned about family members who don't support the adoption, then don't invite them. But this is a big deal for your immediate family and you want your nephew to know how happy you are to officially have him in the immediate family, so celebrate. I would celebrate it just like any other birthday party.
2007-11-28 14:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that adoption is something to be celebrated it is the starting of a new family.
As far as your situation. I dont know why you adopted your nephews but i think it's wonderful. I think i would celebrate among your immediate family, maybe some friends. as far as with the rest of your family, i would be careful, invite those who support you and your husband. Leave the rest who don't out of it.
Congrats on the adupotion that is very wonderful
2007-11-28 14:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by lovelyinkedlady0613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a "Family Night" celebration with just just the three of you going to dinner or something fun- to show that it is a special occasion, but also just "legalizing" or "formalizing" the family bond. Not to make too big a deal out of it for him or the rest of the family even if they find out, it's not like you took an ad out in the Paper or something :-) I have seen adoptions celebrated, to the point of a co-worker taking FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) when she and her husband adopted. At any rate, congrats, best of luck and God Bless for trying so hard!
2007-11-28 13:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by mgm 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you both had been giving this child a home for a year and now he is legally part of the family is a celebration. You have every right to celebrate if some of the family does not agree they should look at what is best for the child. the fact that he has been with you tells that he needed a stable family, now he has it. Celebrate. best of luck.
2007-11-28 14:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had temporary guardianship of my cousin for two and a half years--it was also a sticky subject. If I were you I'd celebrate it within your family. Just your kids and husband. Have a little celebration but don't make it a big deal with the rest if you think they are going to have issues with it. It's not a weird thing to celebrate but if I were you I'd just keep it with your family. Best of Luck and Congratulations!!
2007-11-28 13:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK I can understand why people might be upset, but to be upset with you is very strange; would they rather that your nephew was adopted by strangers, or just out on the street? This might be a good time to have a private celebration, just in your immediate family, to "officially" welcome him to your home as family. It's all right to celebrate.
2007-11-29 18:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by sj2nj6069 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was adopted. We never celebrated his adoption. Just birthdays and holidays. Who wants to celebrate a day that will only remind him that he is adopted and different. Why not just try on a daily basis to make him feel special and part of the family. He would probably feel more comfortable that way. Then again, this is totally a personal decision. Good luck!
2007-11-28 13:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋