10 points anyone?

Question

Broken up with a close friend??????Did i do the right thing!!!?
i use to have a very close friend names jessica anyway when i moved away from the small town she lived she becfame very funny with me...when we became friends she had just broken up with her long term boyfriend..I did really enjoy her company and find her very funny but a few home truths came out like she has to put other people down to make herself feel better..she spreads rumours about people behing their backs which are so far from the truth it is untrue like she told an ex i was sleeping with her ex just becasue i saw him out why i have no idea!!! why do you think she is doing this???

Answer 1

People Putting People Down
John Prine

People that are sad, sometimes they wear a frown
People that are kings, sometimes they wear a crown
But the people that don't fit
Get the only fun they get
From people puttin' people down
People puttin' people down.

People without love, sometimes build a fence around
The garden up above that makes the whole world go 'round
But all the people that don't fit
Get the only fun they get
From people puttin' people down
People puttin' people down.

You may love your wife, you may lose your family
You may lose you mind just to keep your sanity
But the people that don't fit
Get the only fun they get
From people puttin' people down
People puttin' people down.

So, so cold, sometimes it gets so cold.

People that are glad, sometimes they wear a smile
People without dreams, they walk an extra mile
But the people that don't fit
Get the only fun they get
From people puttin' people down
People puttin' people down.

So cold, sometimes it gets so cold.

P.S. You can give the 10 points to the first answerer; he needs them more.

Answer 2

She seems like she has low self-esteem so she spreads crap about other people for attention or to make her feel better about herself. She might also be really bored with life. Living in a small town may have taken its toll on her. She creates drama because she has nothing better to do and it excites her to see people's reactions. There are people like this out there and I think you did the right thing deciding not to be friends with her. You don't want a friend who is going to spread lies about you. But she might also need help, pathological lying is a very real thing and unfortunately this girl is probably going to lose a lot of friends, and you're one of them. But unless she can be a true friend and treat her friends like friends should be treated, then she doesn't deserve you as a friend anyway.

Answer 3

I don't think you did, you found her flaw, It;s is called control, she want to control you. She will say anything true or not to keep you in check. It sounds to me like she has a self esteem issue. She is probably picking up this behavior from the family as well. After all the apple does not fall far from the tree. It sounds to me, you have already identified her problem and its up to you to decide to either point out her flaw, to see if she can correct it ,or sever all ties with her. She also could be depressed that you left and you are not around her as much. Reevaluate the situation again if possible, confront her rumors in a joking way in front of the people your friend lied to so you can clarify the nonsense and you friend will see that she won't be able to deceive you in that way. Good luck and do the the right thing.

Jerry

Answer 4

Some people are just like that. They have to talk down to people to feel better about them self's. She is probably insecure about something maybe personal or other wise. If you tried to talk to her about it and she refuse to understand or try and listen then yes you did the right thing. Also if she has included you in her lies then she really wasn't much of a friend to you. That was wrong of her. Unfortunately we have alot of people in the world that are like that and there is nothing we can do about it but stay away. Hope I could help and yes I think you did the right thing you deserve to have a good friend not one that will lie about you or possibly talk about you behind your back.

Answer 5

damn do i know what you mean i have a neighbor who does the same thing lies alot puts other people down spreads rumors.i asked my girlfriend why she does these things first thing out of her mouth was is she fat and ugly i said yes why she said she is jelouse.so obveously this woman is jelouse of everybody she puts other people down to make herself feel better spreads rumors cause she has no life of her own put it this way if she wasn't talking about you it would be someone else then to go ahead and spread a rumor that you were sleeping with her ex plain jelousy on her part don't sweat it girlfriend get her out of your life and run from her stay far as you can she is bad knews all she can be for you is trouble mark my words as soon as i save enough money i am moving from my neighbor she watches me come and go she always talking about me and i don't even know her good luck and stay away.

Answer 6

maybe it's in her nature to do that. probably insecurity. she gets satisfaction by doing those stuff. most likely, insecurity & immaturity. if you've broken up with her because you saw these qualities which u don't like in a girl, then u did the right thing. A relationship won;t work if u two don't get along well.

Answer 7

She is insecure about herself and wants to feel better by puttin other people down. It is a sad world but that is how alot of people do it. Oh well just tell her whats up. Don't let her keep doin it. Put her in her place although it will hurt her feelins.

Answer 8

First of all. Use more puncuation when you're typing.
Second, she's immature.
Third, she's probably got low self-esteem, which is why she makes up stories, bags on other people and stirs up crap, for a lack of better words....which yes, in turn will make her feel better about herself.
Fourth, I wouldn't be friends with her if I were you.
Good luck!

Answer 9

She is probably insecure about something or other. She is trying to make herself feel important by talking crap even crap that isn't true about other people. Trying to build herself up by telling people she is sleeping with you or you are together. She obviously thinks you are cool, but I wouldn't accept this. I would tell her how I felt and if she still did it I would not talk to her anymore.

Answer 10

She sounds like a drama queen. There is no rationalization or justifications for why drama queens do the things they do the way they do. So, there is no explanation why she does these funny things.. She does them because she thinks its cool, or may be its because it empowers her.. either way, it doesn't sound like you have a healthy friendship with this person.. so it wouldn't hurt to find other friends..