My friend doesn't drink every day but every time that he does drink, he can't stop and ends up extremely drunk. He drinks every weekend but not during the week (usually). When I bring it up he gets angry and defensive and says that he is not an alcoholic because he doesn't drink every day. But the last time we were out with friends, he wound up at the bar taking shots by himself. How do I get him to realize that if this isn't a problem now, it will lead to one soon.
2007-11-28 05:35:34 · 11 answers · asked by inquisitive 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
There really is no way for you to determine whether he has a drinking problem--it's something that he will have to decide for himself. It certainly is possible to have a problem without drinking every day, but until it actually causes a tangible problem (fight, arrest, DUI, etc.) he might not be willing to see it as such. If he cares about you as a friend, you might get some mileage just by saying how his drinking makes you feel--no one can argue about that, after all. If you feel very strongly about it, you might try saying that you aren't going to be around him while he's drinking.
Unfortunately, though, just telling him that he has a problem, when he doesn't agree, isn't going to get you anywhere.
2007-11-28 05:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Your Friendly Neighborhood Skip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One could, and many do, argue that one has a drinking problem when their drinking interferes with other aspects of their lives or leads to other problems. Often too hungover to go to work. Gets in fights when he drinks. Neglects responsibilities in order to drink. Spends all his paycheck at the bar.
If he just gets drunk every Saturday night, and does not neglect or ignore everything else at the expense of getting drunk, then he is just an occasional drunk, and I wouldn't worry too much about it.
2007-11-28 13:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by coolrockboy380 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this is a problem for you, I would recommend a couple of meetings at Al-Anon.
This way you can get good info and perhaps decide if the relationship is worth keeping and working for...
Been there and I love me some alcoholics, but that is what they are and one must decide if they can or will live with this.
Good luck and Bless
2007-11-28 13:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Wood Smoke ~ Free2Bme! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to drink everyday to have a drinking problem. He is a binge drinker. When he starts he doesn't stop until he is to drunk to take responsibility for his actions.
He will not change until he realizes he has a problem, you can not tell him.
If you are in a relationship with him, do yourself a favor and move on, believe me when I tell you it will only get worse.
If you are just friend distance yourself from him when he is drunk, because he will drag you into his despair, you will not pull him up.
2007-11-28 16:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by mason pearson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about this person.. just be there for him. If you try to push him in any direction he'll just push you away. Make subtle statements, maybe you stop drinking to show that you care enough that he doesn't that you won't. Alcoholism is a painful and tedious obstacle to overcome. It will demand that you be committed to helping, and maybe even spending money.
If this is just an acquaintance... I would say run.
Good luck!
Jake
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2007-11-28 14:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by jacob b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him all day long.. but unfortunately you can't make him hear it.
Give him a limit (# of drinks or level of drunk) that you can tolerate and when he goes over, cut him loose.
Maybe then he will start to see,but... Maybe not.
Hope he figures it out quick,you seem like a good friend.
Peace.
2007-11-28 13:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by .G. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider joining Al-Anon for families of alcoholics. If he drinks to get drunk then they say you are an acoholic.
2007-11-28 13:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it gets in the way of his life. i drink one beer everyday and don't drink as much a few days before i know i gonna drink a lot. it's about moderation and the percentage of how much he drink to when he doesn't.
2007-11-28 15:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by optcynbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video tape him while hes drunk or catch him on your phone camera so he could see how he looks Good Luck.
2007-11-28 16:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by dorrie11206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try al anon thay can help you deal with it and remember only he can say if he has a problem
2007-11-28 14:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by irish_matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋