2007-11-28 05:26:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Read to them and educate them. Love them and reason with them. This naughty step rubbish is pathetic- like something out the olden days. When a child is naughty, distract them and explain the situation to them. That way they begin to realise the consequences of their actions. Involve them in everyday tasks- make learning fun and encourage them to share. Make them appreciate the simple things in life- spend time with them- cooking, doing sport, caring for animals etc- makes them well rounded human beings. Shouting at them, ignoring them and not educating them- will make them introverted, unhappy adults in future who will retaliate with bad behaviour and rudeness.
2007-11-28 05:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by brainlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I explained the process to them whenever an opportunity presented itself. For instance, if you see your older child behaving recklessly around smaller children, point out how the difference in size can cause unintended injury to the smaller kids.
Use the occation to explain how children often do hazardous things without thinking. Then they appogize and lament how they did not intend for it to happen. Contrast that with adult behavior. A good adult considers the consquences of his actions BEFORE any damage is done. He then can make the prudent decision not to engage in the hazardous behavior.
By explaining the mental maturing process to them you make them aware that that is what they are supposed to be learning how to do. The older they get the more they should be preparing to leave childish behavior to the children and start begin aquiring adult skills.
I would then have them explain to me why some accident occurred whenever we would find one. My sons learned pretty quickly to analyze how some child ended up with a broken arm or how a window was broken. I would praise them for realizing that.
Recognizing cause and effect or considering consquences beforehand is a big part of maturity.
The other was to provide catchy but true sayings that they could easily remember to remind them of important things. For instance when my son was little, he and a friend went somewhere and did some mischief that could have been quite serious but fortunately were caught before any serious damage was done. When I questioned him about it he tried the "you never told me, specifically, not to do that particular thing" defense. I gave him this bit of sage advice. If you would not do it when your Dad is watching, you know it is wrong to do.
These bits of parental wisdom have served them pretty well. they laugh about it now when they catch themselves using them on their own kids.
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2007-11-28 14:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there something drastic that you are trying to prepare them for? I ask that because you really cant help them become emotionally mature without punishment. Which I dont think is appropriate. Every child is different and they will mature in their own way and in their own time. Dont try to control it, just let nature do its job.
2007-11-28 13:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give them duties.
Give them a savings account. And make them earn their own pocket money. Then make them split it into 2 money boxes. One for them to spend how they see fit, the other to go into the bank. That way, they can understand savings and get interest from a young age.
Also, get them to help you with things like bills and banking. Even take them to work to see what you do in the grown-up world. It will help prepare them.
2007-11-30 15:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the impulse to solve their problems. Be calm and empathetic. Teach by example.
2007-11-28 13:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them, listen to them and consistently discipline them.
Teach them by example to accept responsibility for choices and mistakes.
2007-11-28 13:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by lelliegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them
Teach them to read
Teach them to consider the possible consequences of their actions
Teach them to consider other people
2007-11-28 17:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them and always be there but say,
That it's time that they did things for themselves.
Thank you very much :)
And the very best of luck too!!
2007-11-28 13:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love them n talk 2 em
2007-11-28 13:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by <3..ellen..x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them unconditionally. Talk to them, and, most important of all, listen to them & value what they say.
2007-11-28 13:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋