Hi all. (im on my sisters account lol)
Okay so about 10 years ago i had my first "bf" i wouldnt even call it that lol. we knew eachother for a little while and lost our virginities to eachother. we never really dated just sortof hooked up i guess. Okay so anyways, i moved to nyc about 1 year ago, and i ran into his best friend. (they were friends throughout highschool so this is how i knew him). He lives two floors above me, and have been really great friends since we met. anyways, we are both intrested in becoming more than friends. the thing is is hes still bf with my "ex" from highschool. Do you think thats a problem? (my ex is married and has a family now but...) would that be weird for them? Just wondering....
actually it was more like 12 years ago..
when i say they are best friends i mean they are pretty much like brothers. growing up they lived in the same neighborhood, went to grade school, hig
2007-11-28 05:16:00 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry im posting this again, no one answered my first one.
2007-11-28 05:16:23 · update #1
so what???! it's not really bad... after all your ex already has a family of his own! if he gets jealous...oh my! it isn't good. get in it dear... feel free.
2007-11-28 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by neLLy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, it's been so long ago, it doesn't matter. You've grown up since then and you are no longer the person you were when you were with the first bf, just as he's no longer the same person.
If it still bothers you, look at it from this way--If he were dating a close female friend or relative of your's would you have a problem with it?
2007-11-28 05:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of in case you and ur ex hav broken up for a mutually as and given eachother time to heal after the destroy up then i think of its ok, ASLONG as you be quickly up with ur ex and tell him which you and this different guy have emotions for eachother and prefer to start courting yet you wanted to be certain if he replace into pleased with this 1st because of the fact it may seem somewhat extraordinary or frightening for ur ex... So purely see regardless of if he's pleased with it formerly you go forward with something.. im confident in case you have been aside for a mutually as then he could be positive... yet its consistently sturdy to get his opinion 1st for the reason that's his suited chum!
2016-10-09 21:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine. Your ex is married and has his own life, so he couldn't complain. You need to live your life how you want to. If your ex's best friend makes you happy, then spend your time with him and see what happens :-)
2007-11-28 05:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is 12 years in the past and your ex has a family then it shouldn't be a problem at all....if it is then that is weird.
2007-11-28 05:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by saraJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is kind of wrong but if your ex has a family now then i would say go for it!
2007-11-28 05:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever it was..it was past,since they r best of friends...so chances of ur present friend telling ur ex about u is certain...so pls don make any hasty decisions.....have a good and healthy freinship....take care
2007-11-28 05:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by jessy_bajaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. its your life. your ex should be happy for his friend, otherwise, he was a pathetic friend. Your ex shouldn;t care if it was that long ago. no worries!
2007-11-28 05:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by sand_illusions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its been more than 10 years i guess there shouldnt be any tension about it. go for it girl!
2007-11-28 05:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fine, the first guy probably doesnt even rememeber you
2007-11-28 05:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋