Depressed and confused?

Question

I have a 3 month old son and I'm going through Postpardum depression. My husband and I moved here before we got married about 2 years ago, we're about an hour and a half away from my family and friends. when we first moved here, I was working and had lots of interaction with people. We finally got into a church and my husband loves it. Its really rare for him to feel at home in a church, he's extreemly picky. Now that our son is here and I'm a stay at home mom, I'm extreemly lonely. I only have 2 friends, one of which isnt really a friend, just someone I used to know, and then theres lara who aslo has a 4 month old son, but she recently went back to work, leaving her son with her mother in law. So there is NO time for us to hang out. I want to move back home near my family-who isnt exactly the kind of influence I want my son to be around. But I have friends there, his mom & dad are there. But he sees it as failure, that we couldnt make it in the city, says that he wont go to church.

Answer 1

you need to find a support group. go to your church and see if there's any help you can get. do you have a YMCA nearby? mine has classes for women with postpartum that are very cheap.

also explain to your husband how you feel, and maybe he'll be willing to watch your son while you hang out with Lara. she can't be at work ALL the time, maybe you can get together for girl's night out or a play date.

Answer 2

I can relate to the lonely part you are going through. There are many solutions to that that you may not have thought about. As you already said that your family is no the influence you want your child under, find solutions where you are at. Start a playgroup in your neighborhood, babysit for other mom's in your home, check out the Y for activities with babies. It will get much easier after the first year.

Answer 3

Check with your church and other organizations in the area and see if there is a "mothers' day out" or play-group for small children... you can hang out with the other moms and socialize.

Another thing that might help: hit the health food store and pick up a bottle of a preparation called "Holy Basil" by New Chapter... and maybe check for anything geared specifically for post-partum. Another good thing would be Vitamin D, and Evening Primrose Oil in gelcaps to help with the hormonal stuff.

Answer 4

Well just know that what your going through everyone goes through at some point, its really how you manage it, its all about your attitude, if you have a positive attitude you will have better ideas on how you can overcome your problem. if you keep beating yourself down on how you're lonely that negative attitude will only make things worst for you. remember you only live ONCE.things that people do when they are in your situations are : keep yourself busy, do things around the house, find a new skill, i dunno you can learn how to juggle, maybe get a certificate, take some piano lessons, it might sound dumb but when you learn a new skill it really becomes so much fun. try it! or send your kid to a babysitter find a part time job where you can meet new people like the mall. i dont know whatever interests you.

good luck!

Answer 5

I'm sure your church may have some social activities, try to get involved there, I'm sure you will meet new friends if you do and you might even find someone there who is going through or went through the same thing you are and could be a real help

Answer 6

Your best freind and the one who really loves you is God. This is what they always say in church, depend on God for your every need and desire. And yes we are social creatures. Find out how you can be more active in your church or your community. Give to others so you can be fulfilled. You now have the most important job in the world, being a mother.

Answer 7

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