How do you discipline a mouthy 8 year old?

Question

I need some tips. Nothing I'm doing is working anymore

Answer 1

I'm not gonna be popular but I am old school...whip her as*!!! THEN take away EVERYTHING No TV no games no friends or telephone or toys! Have her to stand up to eat and write I will not back talk because it is disrespectful 2000 times! Have her to repeat it as she writes it...if that won't work stand her on a corner with a BIG sign saying I am disrespectful..honk if you think I am right...when no one honks she will understand that it's wrong
If you see a change have her to earn her stuff back with extra chores or community service...visit an old age home or animal shelter and volunteer her services
It's up to you as a parent to make your child understand that in this world that just doesn't get it

Answer 2

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How do you discipline a mouthy 8 year old?
I need some tips. Nothing I'm doing is working anymore

Answer 3

The key is whatever works. Different kids respond to different things.
If the child is reacting to some change/trauma in their life, it is best to sit down and talk to them. You might be able to find out if something is bothering him/her. Imagine a worst-case scenario, that a teacher/neighbor was abusing the child, or something equally heinous. If you continued to punish the child for acting out, you would never get to the bottom of it. If you suspect there is an issue that they will not discuss with you, counseling would be in order. If you don't have money, a school counselor is free.
This is also a good measure if the child is simply being rebellious or has lost respect for you for whatever reason. It will get their attention if you bring in a 3rd party.
You are setting the stage for the teenage years and you cannot back down.
Reward systems work a lot better with humans and animals alike. Set up a job list and provide a reward if it is done. Preferably a reward of time with you playing a game or going somewhere special, money works, too. One of the "jobs" can be speaking respectfully for the day. Have them sit down each day and check off the list and give the reward at the end of the week if it is completed to your satisfaction. You can print these lists on-line.
Also, make sure you are being consistent. If the child is grounded for gross misconduct for the weekend, there are NO exceptions, birthday parties, etc. The stricter you are with this, the more respect you will have when he/she is a teenager.
Also, make sure they are on a schedule that does not deviate. This provides a great deal of security when the child knows what to expect. For ex. 7:00 bathtime....7:45, in bed, do check-off list, 8:00 lights out. These should all be on the job list. Make sure the reward is something that will get their attention!
Good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

Jean, When I disciplined my sons I used the 1 -2 - 3 method. I would count to 1 and they better stop what they are doing, if I get to 2 I get up from wherever I am and head to the child and if I say 3 they get a wack on the side of their little legs with a wooden spoon. I used a wooden spoon as it gave a nice "sting" but left no marks. I used this method also when I was teaching 5th - 6th - 7th graders as well. The only difference there was that I gave demerits. At the end of the day if they had 7 demerits they stayed after school. This methond has to be consistent, that is the only way it will work. No amount of yelling is going to stop your child from what they are doing and actually it is a form of "verbal abuse". You don't want your child to grow up and remember you yelling at them all the time. My two sons are grown now, they are in thier 30's and they remember the 1 - 2 - 3 very clearly and even remember me using it in school. I hope this has helped. Blessings to you for this Holiday Season.

Answer 5

Being the mother of 3 (28,22-who is mentally disable-&17) grand mother of 3(twins 19months,2yrs) and the great aunt of 1(2 1/2yrs) and a youth leader for 8 years to at-risk children I might have some advice..:-)
first of all talk TO the child, not AT the child. Whether he understands what you're saying or not explain why he is being punished. Don't yell, but be firm with your tone and most important, stick with the punishment!!! If you give him a time out for 10 minutes...don't give in because he's crying or yelling, do the full 10 minutes. Make a chore list (simple things like vacume, fold clothes, pick up trash outside) as a punishment. The main "trick" if you will, is to have the discipline fit the act for the punishment and stick to it.
Another little piece of advice from an old mother: Never appoligize for doing the best you know how to do.
None of us are perfect, but by doing the best we can our chances for having a wonderful productive child are greater.
good luck and email me if you need to
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Answer 6

Take away ALL her privileges. Every single one of them. Remove all items from her bedroom except the furniture and clothing. ALL OF IT. Every single thing. Lock it away so she can't get access to it.

When, and only when, she begins to respect you, you can reward her by restoring her privileges one at a time. Make her do chores, and for every one she does without complaint, reward her with another privilege.

You must stand firm and not give in. It must be YOU who controls this situation. You are the parent, and obviously somewhere along the line you've lost control. You have to regain it NOW, before it's too late.

Edit: I don't believe reverse psychology works for discipline. Rewarding for bad behaviour is not a good idea. Reverse psychology works as a manipulation technique, which is something I am not in favour of. We shouldn't have to manipulate to get our way. In fact, this method of discipline may well be the reason we have 12 year olds carrying guns to school and shooting other students.

Answer 7

Tried a lot of these things. If I take away her things, she gets into my stuff and destroys them. She calls me fat all the time, is disrespectful to everyone in her family. Her birthday is coming up and I do not plan on celebrating it. She is so nasty, cannot believe a child would/could say those things. The tv is in the family room and she can get to it first thing in the morning, during the night, whenever she wants. We are going to counseling as a family, she is the youngest of 4 girls, but it is not working. If we ask her to help out with dishes, laundry, etc., she refuses. Cannot get her to do anything. She thinks she is in charge. and my 16 and 17 year-olds complain that my husband and I do not do anything. We are trying to ignore her when she does and things that are wrong, according to our counselor. The other kids think that is wrong.

Answer 8

Check your mouth. Are you screaming at him/her? Are you mouthy to them? Children learn best by example, so what kind of example are you setting?

This is a form of control. This very smart eight-year-old has learned to control mom with a few words. S/he can send you into orbit with a well-phrased, well-timed sentence, right? So get the control back. Don't react, don't scream, just calmly say, "you'll get what you want when you can talk as calmly and politely as I am right now."

You should be the model for polite conversation. Avoid the urge to escalate.

Answer 9

remove all privileges. If he/she has a tv in the bedroom, then take it out of there. Don't allow him/her to use the telephone, spend time with friends, or go out to the movies with family. You'd almost have to punish yourself at some point because you can't go out to the mall or movies with your child when he/she is disrespectful. Try this for a week and see if it works. If all else fails resort to what always worked 15 + years ago, a good old fashioned spanking!

Answer 10

Depends on what you mean by "mouthy"

Unfortunately, the best way is to explain the WHY of whatever it is your kid is arguing against. I say "unfortunately" because it takes time, and it usually occurs at inconvenient moments.

If your child is just being rude, then immediate and overwhelming punishment. For example, your child calls grandma "fat." Make him/her apologize and do timeout right there (where ever it is) for like an hour.