Does anyone know the proper etiquette? Do you send thank you notes to those that attended the wedding and just thank them for sharing in your special day?
I had some people that sent a gift before the wedding and I sent a thank you note thanking them for the gift. Should I also send a note thanking them for attending the wedding?
Any suggestions appreciated.
2007-11-28 04:14:51 · 37 answers · asked by clg1975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is proper etiquette to bring a gift for someones wedding. I'm always surprised when people do that. Don't send a thank you for them attending. Only send thank yous to those that brought a gift. When you are thanking them for a gift, you can also say thank you for attending. It is expensive to put on a wedding. People who bring no gift should be thanking YOU!
2007-11-28 04:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple who did both. When you sent a gift, since gifts are sent prior to the wedding, a thank you note was sent. Then after the wedding, if you attended, you received a photo of the couple with a thank you for sharing in their special day post card.
2007-11-28 04:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's certainly customary to bring a gift when attending a wedding, you might have to consider financial limitations this 'non-present bringing guest' may have. Send them a thank-you note for their presence and well wishes. Who knows, they may be the type to buy what wasn't bought from the registry...or when leaving the house, forgot it on the coffee table. Either way, it's about sharing your special day with the ones you love right? Presents are a bonus! :)
As for the 'send before attend' guests, definitely send the thank-you note right after receiving the gift in the mail. Then at the wedding, acknowledge the gift again, and of course, their being there to celebrate your wedding day. But, i think that should do it. No need for a second thank-you note!
Well, I hope that helps. :) good luck!!
2007-11-28 04:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you really want to take the time to send that many thank you cards and know exactly who came and who didn't (Not everyone signs the guest book). Usually you just send cards for those who brought a gift. I have never heard of sending thank you's just for attending the wedding.
It probably also depends on how big your wedding was. If you had over a hundred people, that would be A LOT of thank you's to write. However, if it was a small ceremony it wouldn't be so bad.
2007-11-28 04:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by melissamartin83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the thank you note should be for the gift and the wedding attendance combined. Afterall you invite these people becasue you want them to share in your special day and not to see what they are going to bring you. BUt I do not that you need to send the same person 2 than kyou notes for attending and for a gift. But everyone who came to your wedding should get a thank you note.. and everyone who didn't attend but sent you their wishes/gift should also get one...
2007-11-28 04:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Slipps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One note is fine. I personally would send a thank you to anyone that attended. But it's up to you. As far as etiquette goes, you should send one to everyone that attended. The wedding is not about the gifts, it's about love. And I would want to thank everyone involved.
2007-11-28 04:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since most newlyweds usually open gifts within a couple days of the wedding, thank-you notes are sent for those who brought or mailed gifts. But if you were really busy during your reception and feel that you didn't get to everyone to thank them for coming, then it would be a very warm gesture for all of your guests who shared in your wonderful day. But that is totally up to you.
Have fun!
2007-11-29 07:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they sent a gift before and you already thanked them, send another thanking them for coming to the wedding.
If they come to the wedding with no gift, send a note thanking them for coming.
If they send a gift several months later (you can send a gift up to a year after the wedding), send another note thanking them for the gift.
Basically they should be thanked for both the gift and coming, even if it means two notes. Thats what I did, I just thought it was the right thing to do.
2007-11-28 04:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of these people are missing the point of a wedding, a wedding is not so that you can get gifts, it is so that you can express your love for the person you are marrying in front of friends and family that are important to you. I think that you don't have to send a thank you card but that if you want to, you absolutely should. Thank them for attending and sharing your special day and for being there to witness your expression of love, that's what you had the wedding for in the first place, right?
2007-11-28 04:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. You only need to send a Thank You note to those who brought gifts. The note is for the gift itself, not for attending the wedding. If you sent a note to every guest, you'd still be writing notes this time next year. It's not expected unless you give a gift.
2007-11-28 04:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋