My cousin Gus joined us for Thanksgiving dinner after several years of going to upscale restaurants for Thanksgiving.
It was nice to see this fellow again but right before dinner the strangest thing happened.
It was announced dinner would be ready in 5 minutes & Gus went to his car and brought in 3 large Tupperware containers. I though nothing of this until he actually starting filling them BEFORE dinner was served. The biggest container was filled with 3/4 of the stuffing that was prepared. He also did not hold back on filling the containers with slices of turkey. Other family members had to go without stuffing because of this.
The whole family was flabbergasted & did not say anything. I can assume they were in complete shock.
Gus is well off & certainly does not need all this food.
Has this ever happened to anyone before? What would you have done in this situation?
He said he'd be back for Christmas dinner, what should I do if he tries to take all the ham?
2007-11-28 03:55:29 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Gus sounds like an absolute swine.
I strongly recommend that you lace the ham with a combination of industrial grade laxative and marinate it in horse urine. Sit back and wait for the glutton to dive in and help himself.
This is what a family Christmas is all about
2007-11-28 04:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That couldn't have possibly been my family because for starters no one touches anything before we give thanks. Second the children are fed first meaning the older children make sure the smaller ones are fed and then they themselves are fed. If somewhere in this part of serving someone (who has been with us for a while) takes too large a portion they are reminded politely that others haven't eaten yet. Then the adults get to eat...
I know for certain someone would have spoken up and been very vocal about what do you think you are doing? And if that didn't work we'd start serving ourselves from the tupperware containers first...gotta love my smart-alecky family!
Before Xmas you should call this guy and let him know that his actions at T-giving dinner were inappropriate and will not be tolerated..if he gets offended well he has time to find somewhere else to eat.
2007-11-28 04:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Gloria H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him and tell him it was very inappropriate for him to take food before anyone had a chance to eat and if he plans on doing that at Christmas then he is not invited. I would not hold a grudge against him and make him feel welcomed at Christmas, but let him know ahead of time that what he did was greedy and inconsiderate. This type of behavior should not go unrecognized. That is a shame! We do have very large family gatherings where some families take a to-go home to a family member that is elderly or ill, but it is after everyone has eaten. After everyone has eaten we push the leftovers off on everyone!
2007-11-28 04:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that really took nerve on his part. I'm surprised this guy is allowed to venture out in public. I can understand why everyone was dumbstruck by his terribly rude behavior.
But now that you know what to expect from Gus at Christmas, when you see Gus heading toward the table with his Tupperware in hand, just head him off at the pass and gently explain to him that you'll be happy to share any leftovers AFTER everyone has had their fill. Then remove the Tupperware from his greedy paws and put it out of sight in your kitchen. If you'd like to keep some leftovers for yourself, put the food away before you return the Tupperware to Greedy Gus.
If he doesn't like it, well that's just too bad, isn't it! You're under no obligation to cave in to his selfishness.
2007-11-28 04:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by BobKat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would have smacked his hands with a wooden spoon and called him on the carpet about this. It would be one think for him to ask if he could have leftovers but, if you take before dinner then it is not a leftover.
Then I would have made him return the stuffing telling him that if any was left over THEN he could have it. He is your cousin, not a friend who might be more dicey to deal with...you should be able to talk to him and let him know that his behavior was not appreciated and was wrong.
I certainly would tell him that because of his behavior at Thanksgiving he is not invited to Christmas Dinner.
But, that is just me.
2007-11-28 04:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jen M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should have scolded him like a bad dog and said, "No! Put that back! What the heck do you think you're doing?!"
Seriously, you let him get away with it once, what's to stop him from doing it again at Christmas? You need to stand up for yourself and the rest of your hungry family. Post a sign on the door: No Tupperware Allowed. Don't let this cheap graceless boob walk all over you.
2007-11-28 04:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have been shocked too! That in INCREDIBLY rude. I personally would have gone into his tupperware and doled out some stuffing to my plate, then passed the container around the table for anyone else who wanted some.
For Christmas, tell Gus that nobody is allowed to take leftovers home. Period.
2007-11-28 03:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If he tries to do this at Christmas let him know that you would be happy to let him have some leftovers after dinner when you divide them up for the rest of the family so it is fair. Do your best to keep him out of the kitchen.
The only time someone in my family packs ahead of time is if someone is ill and cannot make it. We make a little to go package to be brought over to them. We treat it like their own serving though.
This year I brought my own container because I didn't want my Grandma to be out of containers or ziplock bags. I knew ahead of time that it was okay to take stuff home since she cannot keep it all for herself.
2007-11-28 04:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by bronzeartist00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh My Goodness, I have heard lots of stories about such things, but this one takes the prize! If he has the guts to try that again, you will need the guts to tell him, hey, nothing off the table until everyone has eaten. Then tell him, leftovers are for the family the next day. Did he bring anything, bet he didn't. Keep the fly swatter handy, if he tries, just swat him a good one.
2007-11-28 04:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by Joan H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really wanted to give you some advise, but Im in too much shock that someone would do this. All I can say is im so sorry he did that to your Thanksgiving. Maybe at Christmas you could tell everyone they are not allowed in the kitchen? You think he would take it off the table in front of everyone?
2007-11-28 05:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋