my dad just lost his job?

Question

he actually moved to another city away from me and my family for this job and he had only had it for 6 monthes and he just got layed off. He was making about 110,000 a year at this job, a 20,000 raise from his previous job. what should we do now?

Answer 1

All you can do is support him. If he's making that kind of money chances are he's in a decent field were he will be able to get another job. Yes, it sucks that he moved and then lost his job. I'm sure he's embarrassed and feeling like an idiot (from my own experience of moving and being laid off) but if he didn't do anything wrong he has nothing to be ashamed of.

So just support him, and more important, don't blame him. He took a risk and it didn't pan out. But he sounds like a resourceful man and he'll work it out. I wouldn't worry to much, at the very least he should be eligible for unemployment and/or he got a severance package that should last him until he finds another job.

He's still your dad now he's just unemployed. He'll get another job. But he might just want to take a minute and take some time off before he does that. This is for him to worry about, not you. Just love him and don't treat him any different.

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Answer 2

Every situation that looks like a catastrophe, is an opportunity to move on to better things.

Ask your Dad to come back home, and be as positive as you can. "I feel this has happened for a good reason. We missed you so much and now you can come back and we can start all over>'

He may have to drop his salary, to what he was getting before, but you know what, earning more money doesn't mean being more happy.

If you all keep positive, and look to this as a good opportunity to get together again (have a little welcoming party for him when he comes home). Then everything will turn out well. It is when it hurts so much that everything goes down hill, because your thinking becomes negative.

Keep positive, all of you, and I will bet that you will look back on this, and say "Wow, it is a good thing you were fired Dad, because we wouldn't be as happy as we are now".

Answer 3

The best thing you can do for your dad is let him know that you trust HIM to solve the problem. In family situations, he is probably feeling really bad right now about taking the risk and then getting slammed by that company, so the best thing you can do for your dad is tell him you appreciate how he's provided for you so far in life, and you just know he will do a great job of solving the problem and continue taking care of his family. Give him a big vote of confidence *rather* than try to figure out what to do. It will free him up to solve the problem more than you know!

Answer 4

You could get a part time job to help out. You could tell your parents not to buy you anything for Christmas - and that you MEAN it.

The rule of thumb, your NOT SUPPOSED to know how much your dad was making. Parents are not supposed to share personal financial info with their kids - other than the "we can't afford it" speech.

The reason parents are not supposed to share their financial situation with their kids is so that their kids do not unnecessarily worry or feel overly confident.

Like I said, get a part time job and help your family out - you are part of a team. By the way, don't tell your mom and dad that you want to get a part time job to help out - tell your mom and dad you want to get a part time job. Then, when you get your first paycheck - cash your check and give the money to your dad.

Did you know it costs your parents $1,000 a month to feed you, clothe you and keep a shelter over your head - JUST FOR YOU ALONE. It is expensive to raise children. You really need to contribute.

Answer 5

That's terrible. I'm really sorry to hear that. I think your family can help by cutting back on expenses. He will be able to receive unemployment which will only be about half of what he was making before. Maybe you could get a part-time job to help out? Or, try having a garage sale to make a little extra $$. Things will look up...good luck!!!

Answer 6

Learn to live with less. Your worried about surviving on no
job after leaving a $100,000yr job, after leaving a $80,000
year job? You should have no worries for a while.

Hell me and my wife make about 25,000 a year, TOGETHER!
it's a little hard, and i'm not getting my PS3 anytime soon, but it's okay, we make do. Plus i got 2 kids, so your fathers layoff may be a little ruff on your lifestyle, but i would kill to work that $100,000/yr job, for six month, i could not work for almost 3 years after being layed off.

Plus if your really worried, carry your weight and get a job yourself, don't rely on any man to take care of you, you'll regret that habit, BELIEVE IT!!!!

Answer 7

He can go to his local Job Service like others have to do.
I guess I feel more sorry for the ones who make less than 20,000 a year who lose their jobs.....with his kind of money he should at least have a savings

Answer 8

He will get unemployment that will help him with finances until he gets a new job. The best thing you can do is let your dad worry about how he is going to make money and you relax and picture that everything is going to work out just fine. Maybe he will get to move back closer to you too now, so maybe it's for the best.

Answer 9

Give your dad a hug and a pep talk and tell him that you love him and you know he will find the perfect job that he will be happy with. Offer to help him with Monster.com or any of those other job-hunting sites.
Scale way back on any expectations for Christmas.
Just be there to assist and support your parents.

Answer 10

A beautiful thing would be to make a resume for your father and a note attached to it from saying the exact things you have mentioned here. Then go to a local newspaper and get it printed stating you are looking for a job for him.
As you seem reasonably sane,look for a job and get going too. Sometimes shocking things get fantastic results.