Im 20 yrs old, and i've been single for over a year now. I have two children, but my youngest has medical issues, Im scared to try find someone, casue I don't think anyone would want to go through the things I have to with my youngest. I think it's useless talking to a guy because I know once they find out about about my life style (which isn't that bad) there going to run. I just don't feel like there's anyone out there for me. What do you think????
2007-11-28 03:19:45 · 11 answers · asked by Shae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you talking about interested in hooking up with you or having a long term relationship with you?
If it's the first, I don't think your situation matters. Only your physical appearance does.
If it's the later, you just have to find someone that's mature and is ready to take care of adult matters. If this person really loves you, he should be willing to deal with any issue that revolves around you.
Just to be honest with you, it will be harder for you to find someone than a woman who is single, never married, and has no children. But it's not impossible for you to find someone special.
2007-11-28 03:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by sir_b_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly there is someone out there for you and you have lots to offer another person. Don't think that because you have kids or your kids medical issues will stop you from finding someone. There will be the guys that will prefer to date somone with no kids but then there will also be the guys that will want it. It's finding the right person. Perhaps try online dating where you tell people upfront you have kids. They can decide to message you or not. Even date by being introduced by friends. It's not easy finding the perfect person but you will. You just have to take the risk to find it. If you dont' take any risks then your not going to gain anything. If someone you are interested doesn't show signs back because you have kids. That's okay...they have the right to do that. It doesnt' mean that your not a great person your just not that match for them. It would be like someone saying to you my preference is for brunettes not blonds. Don't see your kids as a reason as to why you aren't with someone.....the reason is the fact mr. right hasn't come along. Your only 20 you have lots of time to find someone.
2007-11-28 03:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may hate this idea, but one of the women I work with used to go on a dating site specifically for people with kids.
They have all sorts of people on there, all ages too, they aren't all hideous monsters like some people seem to imagine.
If you put in your profile a very brief description of what's going on then you know that people who are contacting you are aware of your situation and aren't going to run a mile.
It's worth giving it a go, my colleague met this really nice bloke - they were chatting for ages, met up and have been seeing each other ever since. OK, it took her a while and quite a few dates but she got there in the end.
I'm sure there is someone out there for you, don't give up hope because if you do then that definitely is the the end of any relationship chances...
2007-11-28 03:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by Catnip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a special man to stand up to the demands of taking care of another persons child. It does not have anything to do with if the child has any type of issues, medical or otherwise. A real MAN would not have left you in such a spot to begin with. If he was taken from you without warning or any other type of situation, I am sorry for your loss. However if he just left you, he should be held responsible, helping with the money issue at the bare minimum.
2007-11-28 03:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't give up hope. Just because there isn't someone right now doesn't mean there won't be someone ever.
2007-11-28 03:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anything is possible.
I know one thing for sure, if you never put yourself out there and make an effort you will be alone for sure.
Not because of your child, but because you never tried.
2007-11-28 03:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
huni, if no guy likes you becoz of ur child, well its own loss..i think u will find some one special soon, so i hope all goes well and just be honest and be urself....good luck
2007-11-28 03:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find the real guy for you he wont run he will love you for who u are and he will love your kids as if they were his!! it may take awhile but it will happen someday......but u cant think that every guy that comes along is "him"
2007-11-28 03:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by stacey p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is someone out there for everyone. if the guy really likes you he will take in everything you have
2007-11-28 03:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand that there are all kinds of different guys... i kno adult men who, when their family adopts they adopt handicaped children... some guys will leave you but someone will stick around...
good luck!!
2007-11-28 03:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by alexandrite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋