you held out until you got married so that you can try and set an example for her hoping that she would do that same?
But you really didnt.
2007-11-28 02:51:07 · 12 answers · asked by 90304 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont have a daughter but I heard a mother trying to tell her daughter that she held out but yet was 8months prego when she got married...... But her daughter knows the truth.
2007-11-28 03:02:25 · update #1
I don't lie to my daughters; that's the example I set. I don't re-write history so I have a more stellar outcome, in fact my experience-base is the reason why I am as insistant with my rules as I am. Hopefully in that way they learn that, while no one is perfect, there is a way back from having made mistakes, and it's a conscious, methodical approach.
2007-11-28 03:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no i will not lie to my daughter that just makes things worse. The truth will come out eventually. What you say is i did not wait but wish i did or i regret having sex when i did (which for me is the truth )
2007-11-28 11:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same predicament, so I choose not to say anything about being prego before I married, I let her figure it out....and then I explained I made many mistakes and that was one of them, except that I choose to keep her and was honored to have her in my life.
If I had to do it over, I would have taken her aside and told her about what happened before she found out for herself.
but I was afraid at that time.
2007-11-28 11:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by tuna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you only knew how many times I've asked myself that question! I'm leaning towards the truth with the reason I shouldn't have and the regrets I have associated with it.
I'm curious if you're the mom or the daughter.....
Signed,
Mother of two pre-teen girls.
2007-11-28 11:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough one! I have to say though, that I believe mistakes are excellent teaching tools in the right situations. This may be one of those. Since I plan to promote honesty, because I expect it in return, ALWAYS, then I should follow the same set of rules.
2007-11-28 10:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by illinoismommy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so, because then you're setting an example for her as a liar. You need to be honest with her. The best thing you can do is educate her as thoroughly as possible and hope for the best.
2007-11-28 10:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should never lie about something like that to your kids IMO. Whats gonna happen when she finds out otherwise? Then she gonna think what else you have lied about to her and never trust you. Plus she would know you were ashamed of things you have done. Never be ashamed of something that could teach you something or teach someone else something.
2007-11-28 11:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by cm_val920 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, the truth is better.Tell her why you found it's wrong! Lying is far worse! You will lose her trust on everything you ever say,if she ever found out.And would come off as a "fake"!
2007-11-28 10:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by need2know 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would not lie i would just tell her, i would just tell her how you feel about that choices that you have made and hope that she will make the right ones
2007-11-29 09:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by kristinaleann2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would. But If she admitted to having sex I would tell her the truth.
2007-11-28 11:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by nyjae 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋