do you believe in love in the first sight?

Question

i break with my girl friend today , and i feel in love with her when i saw her for the first time . but we can not get along with each other , and this really make us exthousted .so do you believe in love in the first sight ? or you think that love have to be nurished by the two.

Answer 1

I consider myself a hopeless romantic. I believe in everlasting love, soul mates, and magic. The feminine side of me will always swear in love at first sight and all of the numerous other things written about by poets through the centuries.

But, truth be known, I am a realist (and that is something I do not admit often.) I believe that real love, the kind that makes up lasting relationships and marriages, comes from a combination of things. And that combination does not include infatuation, or love at first sight, or any of that other nonsense. I truly believe that you find a practical partner who shares a certain combination of qualities; if those things are in place, love will eventually come with the territory. {Ted Houston, PhD found that: Couples whose marriages begin in romantic bliss are particularly divorce-prone because such intensity is too hard to maintain. Believe it or not, marriages that start out with less Hollywood romance usually have more promising futures.}

I have loved many people, the reason those relationships did not work out, had nothing to do with our feelings for each other, but because we did not share those key factors that make relationships work. Reverse that, and I do not know one person who DOES meet those criteria, who I could not fall in love with, even if it took time.

Think about any relationship that you have had or known of. Why did it fail? Have you ever heard, "I really loved them, but it just wasnt working?" I have, many times. Have you ever heard, "They are exactly everything I could ever want, but I just cannot bring myself to love them?" No, at least not honestly, if someone said that, something was missing out of those key factors, or the person was just not patient. Out of every broken relationship or marriage that I have ever witnessed, one of these qualities was always missing. I have never seen a couple who DID have all of these shared factors, who did not make it work.

Roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce. Why do think that only 65% of marriages make it to the 10 year mark? It is because people marry for infatuation, for an indescribable feeling that is statistically proven to not last. {Phenylethlamine highs cannot last, scientists say that the maximum time they can survive is four years.} This is also why marriages made later in life have a greater statistical chance to survive. Youth tend to marry for that infatuation, while adults realize that a successful marriage does survive off of that.


Relationships and Marriages Work because:

1) The couple has common values. - Good or bad, right or wrong, these values have to be shared.

2) The couple has common/complimentary goals in life. -This is everything from financial goals, to how many children are wanted.

3) Similar religious beliefs. -This is not a must, but defiantly helps.

4) Similar family backgrounds. -This is not a must, but is a positive. This is a huge combination of things, but very important. For one, how someone is raised, has a lot to do with their outlook on life. Another issue could be the importance of family to someone (no matter how they were actually raised). An example of this is (1) The guy that I dated in college. I am from a huge, close extended family. He was not, and was always uncomfortable around them all. (2) I dated a guy in Jackson who was from a not-so great family, but who yearned for those ties. He embraced my family and spent as much time with them as possible. Both of these situations impacted these relationships, one in a negative and one in a positive way.

5) Commitment to the commitment. -Most importantly, the couple has to be committed to being together and working through whatever problems arise. Life is not a bed of roses and problems WILL arise. The key is being committed to working through those problems together. One always supporting the other.

6) Physical Attraction/Compatibility -There are many women who think Tom Cruise is hot, but are happily married to a type more similar to Tom Arnold. That makes this one hard to explain. But, I truly feel that this is a factor that must be there, even if it comes later with "love."

7) Mutual Admiration and Respect

8) Share a Friendship -This one can go hand and hand with the Mutual Respect and Admiration aspect, but is more than that.

9) Enjoy Time Together -This does not necessarily mean sharing similar interests. An example of this is a couple friend of mine. He loves music and she could honestly care less. But, she usually goes along with him to concerts and such, simply to spend time with him.

I do realize that this analysis takes all of the romance out of relationships, but it makes them real. These things provide the foundation that lasting relationships have to have, in order to survive.

Answer 2

I believe in lust at first sight, but believe that love comes from knowing who the person is and what their values are.
Many people are beautiful on the outside , but have dark mean spirits about them. Where as some obviously unattractive people have some of the kindest spirits and once you get to know them, you have great love for their inner self.

Hopefully you will not always be fooled by the outwardly appearances.

Answer 3

I definitely believe there's love at first sight. But how you nurture the relationship after that first meeting will decide if the relationship works out. Love at first sight couples have to work just as hard as anyone else. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Heard people talk about love at first sight but usually love takes time as you learn and grow in love ;-)

Answer 5

...I believe in "LUST" at first sight......but not actual "real love" seriously.
Surely in the event of attraction between two people we can sometimes be occasionally blinded or sideswiped by some visually enticing stuff inordinately,....but "real love" exercises real patience and respect and loyalty and direct communication and the possibilities of reverence and work ethic of course.
No one ever said that "real love" would be a continuous never ending party of good faith my good friend.
It takes two very sincere acrobatic people with some realistically created great sauce to make the KARMA work efficiently and effectively.
Lean towards the positive effectiveness of well intentioned feelings and emotions when encountering difficulty here with a lover my friend.....cause God and life wait for no one reasonably....not even you partner....and not even me!
.....sound good to you sir?

Answer 6

now mine is some what of the same case.
I also had met luv at first sight which is working yet since my partner even had the same feeling towards me and we both always compliment each in every view which really nourishes our relation.
I think nothing has got wrong yet ,you can reach her 2mmorow and short out the problem if u really love her and she would even agree if she even does so.gud luck.

Answer 7

I think that there are lots of kinds of love, and that "love at first sight" is one of them. This kind of love is very intense, mostly about physical or sexual chemistry, and has nothing to do with common values or interests.
In my experience and opinion, this type of relationship is pretty rocky, because it's based on physical attraction only, while your brains, interests and values may have very little in common.

Answer 8

True....it happens at first sight. Then both will have to get a keener insight into why it occurred in the first place. The second is most difficult to be sure.

Answer 9

Maybe you did fall in love with her at first sight, but just couldn't stay in love because of too many differences.

Answer 10

The Romeo and Juliet scenario is sweet, but completely unrealistic. I believe in "like" at first sight, but true love is too complicated.