My boyfriend of over 3 years loves using the pen like shocker on my nipples. He has started pressing into my nipples sideways and digging in, or he will press right into the middle of them. It hurts a lot and I can tell that he cannot be turned on otherwise. I think there must be something wrong when a person can't show affection otherwise unless they are only kissing you good bye. I certainly didn't feel like doing that at 3AM in the morning as is his usual time to wake me up after playing his video games. Usually I can take it but, I didn't feel good. He was very disappointed that I stopped him. WHAT THE HELL???
2007-11-28 02:08:49 · 16 answers · asked by baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is funny about poking his balls. He even told me that I could. He talked with me later about this and he said that we can stop the bdsm altogether but I told him that I didn't feel good last night. He told me that all I had to say to him is to tell him to stop. I like the torture most of the time b/c he makes up for it in the nicest way. This experience has let me know that he must really love me. B/C he has been into bdsm all of his life and for him to give me the option to "quit"...of course that is a psychological given but nevertheless he did seem sincere.
2007-11-28 04:27:38 · update #1
He encourages me to switch roles...that is what I will do to resolve this. I have been dominant before and I will have to "enjoy" shocking him rather than him always shocking me. I shocked him for quite a while last night! he he
2007-11-29 02:17:43 · update #2
if you dont like it tell em to stop....and he'll be forced to think of new things and you communicate...dont let anyone ever do anythinng you dont like
2007-11-28 02:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Candee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own words from a previous question you "only do what is comfortable for both partners." If you are not comfortable with where he is going with this then it may be time for the two of you to part company and find someone else who more closely meets your needs and expectations. I know breaking up a relationship is not easy but in a BDSM relationship it is something you do not have long to think about or something you and he can work on because you could be injured. Its not easy but find another DOM darling!
2007-11-28 10:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he gets turned on by hurting you is a sign to get up and run. what happens when that no longer works for him? suffocating you until you pass out? Very dangerous! Whipping you? that can leave scars. Try to get him to get some counseling to see why he needs to hurt you to get aroused and why he needs to play video games until 3 in the morning for that matter. If he won't go to counseling get out while you can and find someone more into loving you rather than causing you pain. Life is too short for that, and can be even shorter if he gets too carried away!!
2007-11-28 13:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have different kinks, and you wouldn't be together with your bf for over 3 years if there weren't things that keep you together. But you might ask yourself whether you want to have this painful kind of "foreplay" for the rest of your life - I doubt that your friend's sexual preference for hurting your breast will ever change. If you don't think that is what you are looking for then you should look for a way out, fast.
2007-11-28 10:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the only way he gets aroused, then he has something wrong with him. Tell him to seek counselling and disallow him to do that anymore or any other strange sexual perversions until he sees someone.
2007-11-28 10:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Nothing has to be forced, what the hell, wake up baby and smell the coffee, you spoiled him, you allowed that. Talk to him reestablish your relation ship.
2007-11-28 11:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by nomorecapri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE HELL INDEED!!!!! You shouldn't have to "take it".
I have also experienced this =(
Anything he does to YOUR nipples YOU should enjoy.
Try something new in the sack---Dominatrices worked wonders for me ( I aso found myself enjoying the power trip hehe)
2007-11-28 10:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Behaven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But, I can't find a girl who lets me do bondage, so I can't speak from experience here, but yah, time to get him to turn it off.
2007-11-28 10:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like it u shouldnt do it!!
Just tell him in a nice way that he's hurting u...
2007-11-28 10:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a few places i would like to Polk him myself..this is sick this is not a normal sexual relationship and he needs help ..if you allow him to continue you might have serious breast problems...
2007-11-28 14:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by robin r 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋