Ok this is for the boys and the girls
If you caught your partner in bed with a member of the same sex would you feel more or less betrayed than if you caught them at it with someone of the opposite sex~?
2007-11-28 01:47:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't feel betrayed, unless I'd been lied to.
I know my primary looks at other women. Heck, I look at other women. And if he chooses to bed one of those women, all I really ask is that he not bring home anything that I'd need a shot for, if you know what I mean.
I can't really imagine how I'd react to finding him in bed with another guy, because there are only two men he's ever felt the slightest bit attracted to. As one of them is David Bowie and the other is a fictional character, the odds of that situation ever arising is very slim indeed.
2007-11-28 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jewel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would close the door and go outside and look busy!
The first rule of being a adult, is to lock the door to the bed room be for sex. But the third rule of growing up I remember was to knock and ask to come in, before opening the door and walking in on some one, i.e. sex or the bathroom at home or in a public restroom or even a friends home.
If your partner is having someone over and in your bed room then you two need to address this behavior together without anyone else around.
What is the meaning of Partner to you?
Do we have a open relationship?
If it's OK for you do I get to play too?
You see having a undefined relationship is like trying to have a adult play time with out the benefits of marriage, or run a business on the phone from home and never going into the office and seeing the faces of the ones your effecting.
good luck, talk and work Thu this if you want to say what you have.
2007-11-28 01:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would make me feel that I never really knew that person at all.
Especially if I was married to them for along time and didn't know.
We all have our ideas about what is masculine and what is feminine.
I wonder if I have to narrow a view.
But it would certainly change the feeling I would have toward that person.
I know I'm strictly a manogamous person.
And though I am very accepting of gay people, I am straight right down the line and that is how I would expect my spouse to be also.
But I realize there are many ranges of feeling in human nature.
And understanding, forgiveness, and compassion for one another are some of our most beautiful feelings. Also, many relationships heal to become friendships, too.
I didn't always believe that when I was younger. Some learn things fast while younger, others need more life experiences.
2007-11-28 02:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by smoothsoullady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not bi, but i would feel less betrayed. I would be Hurt and shocked, but I think it would be alot easier for me to deal with my partner sleeping with he same sex. If he cheated on me with another women, it would because she would have maybe have better features than me i.e. Bigger boobs, prettier face, less of a challenge, so my self esteem would go down a whole lot and i would feel betrayed. If he went the other way, well that's his problem, I am not a man and i cant grow a penis. And i wouldnt feel like it was my fault he went the other way so my confidence would stay the same. Its hard to explain i guess
2007-11-28 02:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Gmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not feel betrayed...unless it was more than just a simple sexual attraction. I am engaged to a man and have been with him for 4 years, but I truly think women are beautiful and am totally a bisexual. I would so hook up with women, but he doesn't think it would be a good idea...He thinks it's cheating just as much if I was with someone of the opposite sex.,
2007-11-28 01:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by mally_pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering how straight my Fiance is, I'd probably feel more betrayed since it would be something I wouldn't have expected to happen EVER. If something happened like that with my last boyfriend (who is bi-curious) I would feel just as betrayed if he was with a guy as with a girl since he has an equal attraction to both sexes. I guess it just depends on the situation.
2007-11-28 01:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by emerald_wang85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned since my boyfriend loves girls (i had him eating out of my hand quite litterly on the first date in fact still happens the odd time what i mean is he was really into me and still is) and does not like boys. Mind you if the situation ever happened with me and my boyfriend i would kick him to the curb. It already did happen with my ex and to say the least i wasnt surprised at all. it did explain a few things though along the way.
2007-11-28 01:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by IrishPrincess <3 my BC shep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's two points of view, you're talking about two different sexes. Male and female. Which their point of view would be completely different. I've heard of situations like that where a female catches her hubby with another dude, and for the most part women take it pretty hard. It's different with males, if they caught their woman with another woman they would probably want to join in, lol.
2007-11-28 01:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say that I still would feel betrayed, and i could never do that to my partner. It is still cheating if its with the opposite sex and they don't know about it.
2007-11-28 01:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by loving life!!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel more attraction witha women but a male is not limited. Like say if he is in the bed wit a female I'm in the bed wit a female i would feel more jealous then him in a bed wit a diff girl cause he is tryin to make me jealous
2007-11-28 01:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Desi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋