I love a guy very very sincerly.... I love him sooooo much that i'm ready to sacrifice anything for him even my life.... I only know him for some 5 months... but my problem is that he is in love already with a girl from past 4 years, and he is seriously loving her... i know that i wont get him in my life but i don't, why I find it very hard to accept it!! pls advice me so that i can feel better with this problem.....................
2007-11-28 00:01:31 · 21 answers · asked by Andy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said you were willing to sacrifice anything, even your life. Maybe this means you also need to sacrifice your happiness for this man. If I were you, I would love him till the end, but secretly -- if I really love him I would try not to be in the way of their relationship by burdening him with guilt with the knowledge of my unrequited love. Rather, be loyal -- loyalty is beautiful, especially unconditionally. Loyal, unrequited love is the deepest of all human love, the most beautiful, the most everlasting. There is joy in being loyal to a being too high to reach, trust me.
Falling in love truly does not happen to everyone. Celebrate this blessing.
"True love suffers, and is silent."
-Oscar Wilde
2007-11-28 00:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply have too much time on your hands. GET OVER IT !! The boy is unavailable - YOU say he seriously loves her. Lost love is never easy, but you seriously need to move on.
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents and your teachers
7. Get involved in a worthy school function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10. Go to Church
11. Invite your friends to Church
12. Take group dance lessons
13. SMILE & speak badly of no one
Good Luck
2007-11-28 08:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant accept it b cuz u r infatuated. which means u r more in love w the idea of the conquer than anything. u r in lust....which can b a VERY strong emotion. sometimes it even FEELS stronger than love. the thing 2 remember is that he has some-1 already.an other woman...women r supposed 2 stick 2 gether and not stab each others backs, and thats what u would b doin if u pursued this guy. how would u feel if u knew some other chick was after ur man??? GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE!!!
2007-11-28 08:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would guess you're having a hard time accepting it because something inside you thinks loving this man will somehow make him change his mind and choose you. While you're so distracted by this man you could miss a man that would be able to feel the same about you in return.
Things I do to help myself get over: Do you really want to love a man who doesn't return that love? Do you really want to love a man who sees in another woman what you see in him? Don't you deserve to be loved in return? Everything happens for a reason and if he's with someone else than maybe it's not meant to happen.
2007-11-28 08:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i Would i Would Tell Him Your Feelings.. and See What He Says ... Dont Keepp On At Him Other wise He Will Hate Youu !! You Could Maybe Murder His Girlfriend haha !! ..
Umm Yhh So Just Tell Him What He Means To Youu ..
Or YOu Could Like Give Him A Letter ... Saying
Omg i Love You Soo Muuch..
I Would Sacrifice My Life For YOu
You Are My Dream come True..
i Know You Are Seeinng another Giirl But I Really Love You And I Wanna Be With YOu I WOuld Give U Any Thiing For Youu... And I Know YOu Dont Love Me and you Will Probly Never Will But I Just Wanted To Tell You That
i Lvoe You <3
Just Say That In A Letter ..?
It Coulld Woork ..
Be Honest With him x
Good Luuck <3
Kaiitiie* -0x
2007-11-28 08:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kaiitiie Ecstacy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Andy dear first off NO ONE is worth sacrificing your own life for.
If he is already LOVES someone else why would you want to put yourself through such heart ace.
You need to step back and look at the bigger picture....
Do you love him for who he is?? or do you love him because he loves someone else??
Are you afraid of finding someone who CAN love you back???
Because loving someone who already has someone is "EASIER" since you know from the start you can't "HURT" from the relationship, than if you took the time to find someone who will love you and you don't have to worry about getting hurt by really letting someone in to your heart.
Its hard to accept because you want something you can't have. Its normal....but you have to think about "him and the one he loves" what kind of emotionally strain this will but on that relationship if you even think about trying to make this work....and who's to say that he will want to be with you.
Be his friend and don't come between him and the one he loves..
2007-11-28 08:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think ur guy is happy wih his gf then dont mess up by telling ur emotions to him. This will make situation more complex. be his frnd and try to help him whenever he is in need of help. This will make u feel good. Try to find out some intresting ppl around u also get an image makeover. this will make u feel better. I m sure u will get the ideal match for urself.
2007-11-28 10:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by amiable.ashish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yeah I've felt this way too. Just move on and accept it. He is happy with someone else, so maybe you can be too. does he even know you and know that you exist? Do you like him for his personality or is it just a crush? Obviously he's been dating this person since way before you met him/ liked him, so I think it's best that you accept them both as being a couple, and try not to imagine yourself with him instead.
Good luck! You can find someone else if you try! =]
2007-11-28 18:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by AngoOl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can sacrifice anything, just do sacrifice your love. Your love's Love is someone else. Arrange something to make him happy with his four years old love.
2007-11-28 10:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by larry G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really that in love? or maybe in love at all?
are you really ready, as in sooooo ready to sacrifice anything for him?
think about it, why are you willing to accept this for him? i thought u ready to sacrifice ANYTHING.
he is not asking for your life. i do not think it will give him any happiness. but you allow him to keep his love, his happiness. you are eally giving him a lot of happiness.
if you so truely love him, true love does not expect anything in return. maybe, one day it'll b u and him or then again maybe not. but for now, you really need to ask yourself...
2007-11-28 08:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by rovel . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋