My father is dying how should i feel about it if almost all my life he spent his time doing drugs?

Answer 1

just be strong. My mother died of a drug overdose.... She chose her own life and path... Seems like drugs is more important than their children

Answer 2

I don't know how you should feel, I know that you should forgive him before he goes. It will make your life better after it is over for him. My brother is dying as well, he wasted his life, caused a good woman to leave him. Has treated his own family bad, lots of things he doesn't deserve forgiveness for. But you know what, I did it I just forgave him of all the mean things, and I feel better. I'm not carrying it around with me anymore. Now when I see him I can just try to enjoy the time he has left. I hope you figure it all out, do what you think is best for you. Remember people make mistakes, and If they could take them all back, most times they would. But sometimes they feel they have done too much to go back. It maybe that you can help him in his last days, enjoy what you can. If he is still on drugs I know it would be hard for you, but you can forgive him. We can be strong when we need to be, try to be kind even if you want to lash out.

Answer 3

Dear heart, there is no "should" when it comes to feelings at a time like this. Your feelings are what they are. If he wants to reconcile or say he's sorry, you will do great good to both of you by accepting. I have seen people refuse to reconcile during a person's last days. They felt justified, but you know what? After the person passed, the survivor either felt guilty, or just kept feeling angry, only there was no one left to direct the anger at. So it just ate them up.

If he won't accept what he's done, then there's not much you can do except try to feel compassion for the wasted life and opportunities, and promise yourself you won't go down that same road. You can at least live with the knowledge that you tried to do right by him. Whatever you choose, blessings to you at a hard time.

Answer 4

I know what that feels like. My dad started me using drugs and it became like an everyday normal way of life. (until 6 years ago- I am 29 now)

I have forgiven him I give honor where it is due though....He done more than shared drugs he molested me for years still I have the grace by God to forgive him.
When You confront your dad to tell him you forgive him make sure your ready...My dad threw a shocker in my face so just be prepared(he said I never said no I think he is loco)......I do Pray that you have forgiven him sometimes its easy sometimes not. But I have no details from your post...if You want you can email or IM me.

Forgiveness can cause a release of #1 God's Forgiveness for you#2 you won't be sickened with bitterness.

Its obvious you have compassion for him and I think you should draw close and get it worked out between you two. so you won't have a regret of not saying what you wanted or needed to.
Addiction to drugs is strong as a craving for chocolate or something it just over takes the mind I know the feeling been there done that lost a few braincells on the way...lol. Just think about it and I pray that when you do find the words they will be peaceful and justified and understanding and a reconnection will form and I pray he will serve the rest of his days giving God the Glory!

Lord, Bless this family Turn this man's heart back to his daughter as she longs for it and rekindle their relationship. Allow both of them to be drawn close to you and hold them together under Your miighty wings.Comfort them In Jesus's Mighty Name We pray,
AMEN!

†EveryDay Prayer Warrior†

Answer 5

You have to know that addiction is a sickness and once you start with drugs its almost impossible to stop. If he is dying then you need to only focus on the good times you and your dad had and try to forget the bad. You need to keep those good memories in your heart and remember him that way. Everyone makes mistakes some just make bigger mistakes than others. God forgives everyone and maybe this is Gods way of stopping him destroying his body.

Answer 6

Sad that his life was such a struggle.
Sad that you didn't have the relationship with him you could have if not for the drugs.
Sad that your father is dying.

There isn't really an upside to that question at all... it's very sad. Hopefully you will learn from your father's mistakes and vow to make the most of your life and it's opportunities... and stay far away from drugs!

Answer 7

I feel sorry for you, but if your Dad is dying, then , all you have to do is , pray for him . I think by the way you write , you felt , that you did everything, to stop him, but it did`nt work, so you`ve giving up . If I`m right then, you should not be feeling guilty, because , at least you tried your best , as his child.

Take this, preference, and a good example to lead your life from now on , and to your supposedly would be children.

Answer 8

Honey don't let that stand in the way of your love for him. He needs you now. Pray for him that he will have a peaceful passing. Learn from his mistakes. We all make them.Try to get him to get a pastor out to pray for him, and for forgiveness for his addiction. It is a sickness, and his time is just coming sooner than you thought. I hope he will turn his life over to the Lord before it is too late.I know you are going through a lot right now. but he needs you and he needs the Lord. You just need to make him see how beautiful things can be if he excepts the Lord as his savior and repents. God bless you my dear. and your father.

Answer 9

My real father was the same way. I call him the sprem doner. He was never there for me and my brother when we were kids and now that we have kids of our own we still don't see him. You can't help the way you feel. I know that if my father died I wouldn't go to his funeral. It would not fase me one bit. He is the one that made it that away not me. We even went into his house so he wouldnt have to drive out to get us. But he would always end up leaving us at the house with our step mom and going to the bar. So I feel the same way as you do about your father. You have a different cercome stants. He is passing away. Up to you on how you want to deal with it.

Answer 10

maybe im being hard here but people with cancer and similar illnesses dont choose to go down that path.whilst i recognise that it must be extremely hard and horrible these people chose to do it.my own sons father has just died from drink and drugs.my father is and alcoholic.unfortunetly ive seen nothing but self pity and selfishness from people like this.the only exception i make is for people who have had some terrible trauma happen to them maybe!my son hadnt seen his dad since he was 3.now hes 18.i gave him the choice to see his dad when he got in contact 3yrs ago.my son said no thanks.now his dad is dead and i cant help feeling relieved that i didnt try and make him have a relationship with him simply because he was his father.can you imagine how devastated my son might have been now and what effect that could have had on him?you are old enough to make your own decisions.if you go and see him and cant go through with it at least you tried.you probably wont know till you try?dont beat yourself up youve been through enough.

Answer 11

Oh my dear lady, I am sorry for you. But you should stay with your father the rest minutes of his life. And say to him that you love him despite whatever he does. Love is above all, love lasts forever. He will be happy on hearing you speak like that. I believe that you father loves you so dearly. Pray for him. You are his daughter, in the last moment you just prove to him his beloved daughter understand him, he will be comforted. Buy a flower instead of me and tell a net friend of you from other part of the globe.