2007-11-27 22:36:51 · 26 answers · asked by ferris2001mt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't see the point in it why are you getting married? yea its expensive but your bride to be has probably dreamt of this day for a long time!
2007-12-01 15:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone knows weddings can be incredibly costly. My fiance and I paid for about 75% of our wedding. The point is to make a big occasion out of something joyous and monumental... and a big gathering allows your family and friends to be a part of the celebration. If the big family celebration is not important to you or anyone else, then don't have it. Get married with a justice of the peace... easily much less expensive. But I am sure if you two are paying for half, then there are some parents who might be disappointed. It doesn't always need to be expensive if you plan enough in advance and are willing to cut some corners.
2007-11-28 00:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The "point" of a wedding is that the couple is having a party to celebrate their marriage. Parties are expensive.
And when caterers and venues hear "wedding" they know that they are going to be able to rake you over the coals for money to pay for the "wedding of your dreams".
I'm sorry to say it, but for some bizarre reason many places have different price scales for different types of events.
A birthday party in the VFW hall will run a couple hundred dollars. A wedding will run over a grand. Why? Its still being filled with the same # of people and foods.
2007-11-28 01:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try paying all of it at the age of 24...it's fun! lol, no just think about what is important to you. You guys dont have to havea wedding, you can get married at the courthouse. Or another option would be to have asmall wedding (50 people is still plenty) and you could do that for about $3000-$4000 if you are frugal. My fiance and I are getting married in february because we got everything discounted, $1000 off the location, 20% off the dj, etc. Good luck to you!
2007-11-28 00:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try paying for all of it. And, if you don't know what the point of a wedding is, then you have no business getting married. It's about the marriage, not the wedding. You have what you can afford. If the two of you can't agree on that, then you have issues to work out before a wedding.
2007-11-28 03:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, the point of it is to celebrate your marriage with family and friends. Weddings don't HAVE to be expensive you know. You can get away with planning a fairly cheap wedding by choosing a less popular month, having a buffet style, doing it on a Friday evening, etc.
It's not about big, fancy and expensive. It's about a couples vows to each other and celebrating their love and commitment to one another.
2007-11-28 00:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small is the way too go. It will be more intimate and romantic (and cost less). That's how you should sell it to the bride. The more you save, the more you can spend on her (ie. honeymoon) Have an evening wedding where you have the ceremony by candle light and then a cocktail/fancy snack party. Some places will let you bring your ipod and base so you can play all the tunes you want but no DJ (make sure they have speaker system)
2007-11-28 00:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by cheryld52 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So if you don't like it . . . then don't have a big wedding. Get married at the courthouse.
See details here:
http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/index.shtml
If you feel you must have a party? Then get married at the courthouse. Go on your honeymoon. When you return, host a bbq or informal party in your home for family and friends. Often, parents or grandparents or aunts and uncles will be glad to contribute by helping with the food. If everyone helps, your at-home reception can be relatively inexpensive.
Good luck to you.
2007-11-28 01:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a woman, it is really sad that I agree with you. My husband and I paid for our own wedding, it was a great day and everything, but what we made in monetary gifts, went to pay off the loan we got to get married in the first place. I wish we would have just had something small and inexpensive!!! Maybe we could have then been able to afford a honeymoon. I would try to talk to your fiance and try to compromise on something small. If she doesn't want to, than you are just SOL I guess, lol. I do believe that you are responsible for your share though, no matter what the cost. Good Luck!
2007-11-27 22:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
So it would be worth it if somebody else was spending THEIR hard earned money on it? How selfish can you get. I don't see the point in huge weddings either, but for you to sit there and say you would do it if someone else covered the tab is completely wrong. If you wouldn't pay for it out of your own pocket don't expect someone else do it.
Do everybody a favor and call it off now. You are clearly not ready.
2007-11-28 00:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We paid for our entire wedding because we wanted a ceremony and reception. That was the point of it for us. If it does not matter enough to you to pay for it, then elope. It has the same end result, but you will save a lot of money.
2007-11-28 02:03:55 · answer #11 · answered by vaya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋