You look at a beautiful girl / handsome boy. Their beauty attracts them. Sometimes their actions (like smile, sense of humor, style) attracts you.
Then you have the desire to get them. That desire converts to possessiveness. Do you call that as love?
2007-11-27 22:16:10 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi..
Many of us sometimes get confused between lust and love..
LUST exhibits an intense physical desire between the sexes, it is an integral part of human nature. It might feel like love, until there is more sex than emotional support and caring and consideration for each other..
Whereas LOVE is an emotional investment, it is meant to create and maintain a happy and lasting relationship, with emotional support and consideration for one another.
It can, and many times does last a life time, between partners.
2007-11-28 13:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't compare Love with Lust at all.I agree that when there lust comes to start it sounds something like love, but theres a great difference between LOVE n LUST.Love is such a sacred thing and thus it can never be compared to Lust.
2016-05-26 05:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by milagro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is the raw desire for sexual pleasure.Often this is really a means of believing you have power over someone.Lust and love have nothing in common.Consensual sex is when two people care enough for each other they want to merge as one.There is a mutual desire to experience the physical joys of each other.Lust is mere desire,usually sexual.Lust is the desire to own someone and to control them for your own selfish pleasures.Lust is taking.Love is a free giving of oneself.Yes you are correct ,lust is really the desire to possess,love is the desire to share.But never confuse the two they are complete opposites.Love is from the heart primarily,lust is purely from the mind and sexual organs.Gentleman please forgive me for not being able to make paragraph breaks.Soon I will learn how to do that.Your Pal larry m .
2007-11-27 22:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by lmott2805@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust = I want to get into your pants and have sex with you.
Love = I want to spend my life with you and have lust.
The difference is the commitment; with lust you have none, and as soon as the novelty wears off the lover (usually the guy) is gone. With love after the novelty wears off the couple still wants to stay together.
Love in a family between the family members is, hopefully, missing the lust and only has the commitment. In some damaged individuals the lust remains, but that is rare. Children are meant to be chreished and not used as sexual objects. This kind of love is one that is devoid of sex.
Many men will tell a woman that they love them just to satisfy their lust.
Many men will NOT tell a woman because they don’t want to make the commitment that love requires they only have lust.
The reason why men are usually the ones guilty of this behavior is genetic. The best way for a male to pass on his genes is to have as much sex as possible, as quickly as possible, with as many partners as possible. With women the goal is to form a relationship, women use their relationships to help them take care of themselves and their family since a woman with a child is handicapped by the child. Now I am talking instincts here, our default pattern of thinking. Humans are the only animals that have the ability to rise above our instincts.
Usually the woman is ready to make the commitment and so fall in love before the guy is and this instinct starts early because women tend to mature faster than men do. But, once a male decides to fall in love and settle down then they become just as commitment to the relationship as a woman can be.
The problem is the Seven Year Itch, not just the title of a movie but a syndrome that is common among males who lose interest in the relationship in about seven years. By this time the first feelings of love have worn off, males easily fall into patterns so they can get bored by the relationship. This is the time when most men want to start to play around on their wives or even seek a divorce to go seek other sexual partners. If the couple continues to work on their love, and that has to be done daily, then the relationship can survive.
Falling into love is easy, but remaining in love requires a commitment and work by both partners to keep the relationship alive. Just like a plant it needs the shower of affection, the nutrients of trust and the light of attention. Without those, given by both partners, the relationship won’t survive.
Possessiveness is a form or jealousy and a form of "keeping score;" look what I have, and you can't have it. Possessiveness is a weak form of love and jealousy often turns to hate; hence the expression "You have to love them enough to set them free and see if they come back to you."
2007-11-28 06:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
de@r gEntlE m@n.
The difference between love and lust is that love is done between 2 people. Love is done with hearts. In love you understand a person deeply and whole-heartedly whereas in Lust, you love a person's body and personality. In lust, no partner respects the other gender's feelings, sentiments, emotions.
A love is always termed as love but lust can never be termed as love.
As love is PURE whereas lust is IMPURE. Love is HONEST whereas lust is DIS-HONEST. Love leads to HAPPINESS whereas lust leads to UNHAPPINESS.
Yes, that desire and that possessiveness can sometimes be called love but if that desire is getting out of control then that means a person is gone mad. Everything looks good in limits. Even love is in limits. If a person goes beyond the limits of the love then he is not called a lover or a lusty person but sure a MANIAC.....that's it...tc...sweet dreamz...bye...
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2007-11-28 06:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is all feeling, but it doesn't take long to fall in love
with someone beautiful who you started out lusting, and found more to them. You love the whole package and want nothing more than them. But there is a distinction. Ask yourself, where do I stand. Are you in A. a what can she give me mode, or B. I'd die for that person.
2007-11-27 22:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont consider that as love.
LOVE.
An unselfishcaring about the interests of the other.
Romance often starts slowly, perhaps taking months or years.
You are attracted by the other person's total personality and spiritual qualities.
The effect on you is that it makes you a better person.
You view ther realistically, seeing his or her faults, yet loving that one anyway.
You have disagreements, but you find that you can talk them out and settle them.
You want to give and share with the other person.
ONE SIDED LOVE.
An unselfishcaring about the interests of the other.
You are attracted by the other person's total personality and spiritual qualities.
The effect on you is that it makes you a better person.
You view ther realistically, seeing his or her faults, yet loving that one anyway
You want to give and share with the other person.
You feel you need that person not want.
LUST.
Is selfish and restrictive.
Romance starts fast, perhaps taking hours or days.
You are deeply impressed or interested in the other person,s physical appearance.
Is unrealustic. The other person seems perfect. You ignore any nagging doubts about serious personality flaws.
Arguments are frequent. Nothing really gets settled. Many are settled with a kiss.
the emphasis is on taking or getting, especially in satisfying sexual urges.
ONE SIDED LUST.
Is selfish and restrictive.
You are deeply impressed or interested in the other person,s physical appearance.
Is unrealustic. The other person seems perfect. You ignore any nagging doubts about serious personality flaws.
the emphasis is on taking or getting, especially in satisfying sexual urges.
You feel you want that person not need.
2007-12-01 00:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex 90% + love10% = lust. The characters that lead cos of lust are domination, possessiveness & you will become diseased.Your life will become miserable.
Sex 10% + love 90% = love. The characters that lead cos of love are adjustment, tolerance,sacrifice etc. Your life will be a happy one.
2007-11-27 23:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by lalachi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference is money. Lust will cost you, love puts up with your broke a ss
2007-11-27 22:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok. let me get this straight. there are several kinds of love and i guess only the person can define the kind of feeling(s) that one has.
there are four (4) kinds of love and these are the following:
agape - God's love
phileo - brotherly love for others
eros - lust love
stergo - family love
feel free to check this website for further explanation.
http://70030.netministry.com/apps/articles/default.asp?articleid=35437&columnid=3803
god bless! =)
2007-12-03 14:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by 1:57 PM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋