Me and my guy have been dating a month, everything going smooth i like him he ays he really likes me and so on. He is retired at 53 lives a really peacefull and quiet life his 2 kids are grown and on there own, He has up to this point been very honest never been late makes dates and keeps them all the time always tells me we can do what ever i want and he he is reliable and keeps his word, Now here is the problem he has this big x-mas eve dinner every year. I asked him could i come he said he didnt know what is that all about. i will add up until this point he has not met my family i havent met his.
2007-11-27 21:51:51 · 13 answers · asked by latora_king 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's not ready to have you interacting with his family and friends.
You and him together are one thing, but having you around family and friends take things to a whole 'nother level.
Having you by his side at his dinner party would be making a statement: You're his and he's yours. Maybe he's not ready for that just yet.
You'll never know until you ask him.
2007-11-27 22:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be that he was planning a smaller way for you to meet the family. He sounds very nice and he seems very considerate. If he shows this much consideration for you, I'm sure he shows the same towards his family and friends. He may just want to introduce you to several smaller groups of family and friends at small dinners or after work drinks instead. He seems like a very good man and a good catch. Give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-11-28 05:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cali 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's ashamed to be going out with you? Are you much younger? Maybe his wife is going to be there? He has a past thats probably complicated. If he is any kind of decent, things will work out, give him the space he wants
2007-11-28 06:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old you are!
Maybe he is self conscious about introducing someone new to his established family and friends, maybe he thinks it is too soon.
Perhaps he has been down this path before!
Maybe it was not a good experience last time!
Give him time!
2007-11-28 06:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by AussieLady 58 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only been a month! I think your getting serious about the relationship too fast. Men are.. "complex" creatures. He probably didn't tell his family he was dating anyone, or maybe he's simply not ready to have you meet his family.
2007-11-28 05:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chillin' 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not sure that his family will accept you, or his ex will be there, and he does not want any problems in front of all of the kids.
It is too early to be expecting anything yet anyway!!!
2007-11-28 05:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe hes keeping his options open, already invited someone he wants to get to know better and they havent accepted his invite yet.
2007-11-28 06:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he thinks it would be awkward for his kids or other family members will not aprove him of him dating at his age
2007-11-28 05:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by widjadidja 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he is not prepare to all this yet, maybe he is shy, maybe he still haven't find a way to let his children know your existing yet, try to ask him in nice way, don't push too hard.
2007-11-28 05:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by moonrider 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
slow down its only been a month
2007-11-28 05:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋