2007-11-27 21:47:26 · 12 answers · asked by 100% husaina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take it in baby steps. Ask for small privileges, then move to larger ones, as they feel more confident about trusting you.
2007-11-27 21:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am an overprotective parent. This is from my point of view.
1. your age?
2. your grades?
3. your chores, household participation?
4. do your friends come over? often?
5. do you talk with your parents?
6. are you honest with them?
7. do you have a notebook available for your parents with addresses, phone numbers, and directions?
8. when asking for a privilige, are you reasonable?
Our parent/child example -
teenage daughter (Nancy): Mom, Jessica has invited me over for dinner and to watch a movie. Can I go after school?
overprotective mom: Nancy? What about your homework? What do you have for homework? Can you get it done while you are there? Who else will be there?
Nancy: Yea mom, I got 2 pages in Algebra, 5 questions in Science and a page to correct in French. I can use her computer to get it done. Her mom will be home, you know that she can't have anyone over when they aren't home.
Mom: Yes, but I wanted to make sure, so I guess her parents are protective too? Ok, do I have her address, contact phone numbers (house and a parent cell) and cross street?
Nancy: Yes, it's all in the friends/family notebook. Can I go?
Mom: How are you getting home?
Nancy: MOM!
Mom: Nancy, if you are making plans then you need to have all the information available. Now, how are you getting home?
Nancy: Well, could you come get me?
Mom: What time?
Nancy: 10pm?
Mom: Did you bump your head? It's a school night.
Nancy: hehe, well I thought I'd try... mom, how about 8pm.
Mom: Sounds good. Now here's the rest of the deal... If you want more freedom I want you not to neglect your school work. That means - a weekly report on Friday. No D's or F's and this week sets the benchmark. No grades lower than this, without good reason, so our understanding is keep up the work = more privilges and freedom. Remember low grades/bad grades = no friends house until grades come back up.
Nancy: Yes, mom.... can I go now?
Mom: Yes. Nancy? Nancy... call me when you get to her house, ok?
Nancy: you bet!
Mom: Nancy, I love you... keep you safe.
Nancy: awwww mom.... I love you too. I will.
Mom: 8pm right?
Nancy: yup, 8pm. Thanks mom.
Mom: Bye.
Our kids have to have the weekly report EVERY Friday. For them, no report = no out. It also shows that you want to earn respect by making sure your parents are aware of your good decision skills and thoughtfulness.
I hope this helped.
Good luck and Blessings to you.
2007-11-27 22:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Theres a difference between bieng protective and bieng OVERprotective.. if your only like 14 and you want to go party with your friends with a bunch of horny boys.. your parents are on the right track
2007-11-27 22:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that depends on your age, culture, sometimes religion and gender. It's all but natural for parents to be too overprotective. But since too much of everything is bad, better remind them that even birds will leave their young to let them survive in the wild, this too is true for humans.
2007-11-27 21:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by bobby s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Years ago, I had this dilemma and what I did was to make my parents feel that they need not be too protective of me. I try to show them that I am responsible enough and that I can handle whatever pressures (usually from my peers) that might come my way. As time went by, they eased up on me. I also talked with them about giving me more leeway as this is the way I can mature: by handling challenges and applying wise decisions to overcome them.
Cheers!
2007-11-27 22:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by emy0201 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have children you will see why they are overprotected we all care and want no harm to come to them.
2007-11-28 03:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by The One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont they are just doing what is best for you cuz they love you and dont worry when ur older you'll understand what they are doing for you. My mom is so overprotective and strict so i understand what you are goin through
2007-11-28 03:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nena94 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be thankful that your parents are over-protective. Not all children are as lucky as you are.
2007-11-27 22:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dolores D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be understanding,because you know they are like that out of love for you,no other motive.
2007-11-27 21:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tolerate and obey until you are old enough to get your own..home... job... etc. until then..you are the child ..they are the parents.. and they obviously love you very much... otherwise.. they would not care.
2007-11-27 22:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋