i have this girl who a friend of mine that her and fiance broke up and i guess i need tips on helping me feel better shes been crying alot and i been trying to help her but she came around for a little and now its back and i dont know what to do :(
2007-11-27 20:20:52 · 5 answers · asked by bobby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the last thing she said to me was "no i dont really wanna think of anything right now all i know is im hurt"
2007-11-27 20:35:18 · update #1
For right now, understand that the break up is new and she needs time to mourn her loss. So just be a shoulder for her to cry on and an ear for her to vent to.
When enough time has passed, tell her to accept the fact that the relationship is over.
Tell her to be happy for the duration of the relationship. Because it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Some people never experience the joys of loving someone and being loved back.
Finally, tell her to stop wasting tears over someone who isn't crying over her and to move onward and forward with her life.
2007-11-27 20:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in that situation right now (7 years down the drain). i'm a guy, but i guess it should be universal for all people who break up, me thinks.
anyway, it hurts like hell. what you need to do, is be there. when she cries, let her cry, don't say shush or something. let her let it all out. there's no time frame for healing. when she wants to talk, let her talk her heart out and some more. she needs all the understanding in the world. a really good game of tennis or any other sport would help. nothing beats exhaustion to numb the pain.
but if your friend was my fiance, let her rot in hell. sorry. :p
2007-11-28 04:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ivan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time to cry. This must be devastating. But also push to start moving on. Remind her that now she can look for someone who deserves her.
2007-11-28 04:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell her that you are there for her, if she needs someone to talk to or to have a shoulder to cry on that you will be there for her. keep being her friend and help her to feel better.
2007-11-29 04:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that if he is such a jerk now, just think of how bad he would have been after they were married. Just be glad she did not marry and have children before she found out what a jerk he is.
2007-11-28 04:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋