At times,.sometimes most the time, I get these images of what could happen to my kids, like really bad images of "what ifs". I find myself worrying so much now, specially for my 2 year old son. I seem to be geting paranoid for the well being of my kids, at times I play scenarios in my head , like vehicle accidents and such when I'm drving, or even at home, little freak accidents. Sometimes I think I'm too carefull, a worry wort. IS this normal for a guy? A father?
2007-11-27 18:43:36 · 9 answers · asked by Beefcake 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ya do not over do it or you will drive yourself crazy but being protective is good. Thinking about every possible outcome is over doing it but thinking back many outcomes is fine. Are the doors locked at night , do the electric sockets have those protector pieces in them? I am about as paranoid as they come. For example if I am going to be out of the house I leave the t.v on to prevent some thief's from breaking in. But just in case the thief's sometimes walk by the window and see the t.v I always change the channel up everyday so it seems like someone is home. And every day I select random lights to keep on so there is no pattern.
lol weird i know I am like this for just about everything. Once my mouse had an error and was moving around the screen by itself so I thought someone hacked into my computer so I sat there and carefully watched the arrow for like 15 minutes. Then I found out its a typical problem for some laser mice.
and I look in my closet and under my bed each night before sleep. The list goes on and on. Sometimes I will look under the bed or in the closet more then once because I forgot if I did or not. But in public or around people I am not like this.
If something bad does happen I will probably be better off sense I am this safe.
2007-11-27 18:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite normal to worry about your children and you have years and years of worry ahead of you. The trick to being a good parent is while being a careful parent you also have to learn the art of knowing when to let go. Knowing what things you should let your kids experiencing and trusting in them that you have given them all the things they need in life to make the right choices. Then it is up to them.
You cannot dwell on the what if's or you will not only drive yourself crazy but your kids as well. take it from a mum whose son's race motocross and supercross, knowing when to let go isn't easy.
But don't worry you have heaps of time to work on the letting go side and for now you just have to work on bringing your children up with the right equipment for this scary world.
2007-11-27 18:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say this is normal. I do the same things with my own children. This seems to be more typical of how a mother would think, so kudos! (I wish my ex husband thought like you)
I know this can be maddening, but please know that these fears will almost never come to fruition. You seem to be a lovely, protective father, and there is nothing wrong with that! I give you credit for loving your kids so much, and please know that I think this is normal, that you aren't going crazy, and that you have all my respect for being so concerned.
Best wishes to you........and although you are a worrywort, thanks for loving your children that much. The world needs more of you! However, in my case as an example .......the apprehensions you have won't disappear, but you will be able to deal with them better at a later time,,,,,(ie 20 years...lol) I promise.
2007-11-27 19:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by MegJessEm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people worry. But as long as you've taken reasonable precautions for your kids safety, that will do the job.
When you find yourself worrying too much - visualise a stop sign. Then make a concious decision to think about something else, something happier. It takes time, but you can train yourself to think about other more useful things. You'll be happier and so will the kids.
2007-11-27 18:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by abra_s_cadabra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you on this one. I am exactly the same way. I have visions and all that also. I am a worry wort everyone tells me that and i guess we just have to learn how to relax and know that life is not in our hands. I know how you feel so you are not alone by all means.
2007-11-27 19:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by momma30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its very common and normal thinking for parents regarding their children. you are not keeping yourself busy and you know that empty mind is a den of devils. If you are not a busy person start from just now==watching TV, reading books, talking or going to friend's house. I mean there are many ways of keeping yourself busy. choose any or many of them. You may need help from Psychiatrist if you do not find yourself able to follow this advice.
2007-11-27 19:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by papasays 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is normal, especially if its your first son. your the dad hes the son, you share a special bond of course you want to protect him. i think its normal, because i see the same things about the ones i love the most. all i can say is don't dwell on it too much, because you'll drive yourself crazy.
2007-11-27 18:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Yo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of parenting.
It doesn't matter how old your children are, you will always worry. All you can do is your best, and remember that as attentive as you are, children will be children, and accidents will happen. After all, even children are human!
2007-12-04 16:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by DollyMD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal i do it too you need to relax a bit or it will drive u insane with all the stuff on television these days it doesnt help it shows your a great father but relax
2007-11-27 20:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by J D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋