How should two people go about forgetting the past and starting over?

Question

My love and I have been through hell and back with each other and both feel that we should just wipe the slate clean and start over, you know.....start new memories to erase the old ones. The problem is, the past always has a way of sneaking up on us and it tries to cause problems. We've both did our share of misbehaving, but we're wiser and more mature now. Nothing would make us happier than acting as if the things that we have dealt with never happened but it is way easier said than done. What are some ways that we can stop ourselves from dwelling on the past. We really love each other and we've both done a lot of growing up. We also have a daughter on the way and we really want to be a loving family. Please help us, what are some ways that you all lost focus on the past?

Answer 1

Your in a catch-22, you most DRIVE THE PAST INTO THE F'IN GROUND!!!!! You most accept it, not deny it. And since you guys are at a "heathly" place now, you can answer for your transgressions, thats what its going to take. You both have issues with each other because of past behaviour that you do not understand, this causes fear, fear causes issues because it makes it hard to communicate honestly. Besides that deny the past makes it impossible to be honest. So ether you start talking about those issues to the point your BOTH comfronable with them, or you try to play the denial game, I would sujest drug use, and orgies as a good way to distrate yourself, because geniune relationship are a fight, and a struggle to understand, not a happy go luck attempt to forget all thats wrong...... no offense.....